Unplanned PregnancySupport, Information, and Your Next Steps
The Unplanned Pregnancy Roadmap
Discovering an unplanned pregnancy may feel overwhelming, but you do not have to navigate these decisions alone. To help you find a steady path forward, this guide provides a comprehensive framework covering your primary options: pregnancy help for immediate support, the transition to keep and parent, and the detailed process of adoption options. We also provide insights for considering abortion, establishing legal clarity through paternity tests, and managing future health via contraception. By anchoring our resources in guidance from ACOG and the CDC, we empower you with the compassionate, evidence-based information needed to make the most informed choice for your life and future.
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Financial Help for Pregnant Women
Do you need help with an unplanned pregnancy? Rest assured. There are many resources and organizations that help women with unplanned pregnancies. You have many options including choosing parents through adoption and choosing to parent.
Financial Help for Unplanned Pregnancy
Special Supplemental Nutrition Program for Women, Infants, and Children, better known as WIC, provides supplemental nutritious foods, health care referrals, and nutrition education for low-income:
- Pregnant women (through pregnancy and up to 6 weeks after birth or after pregnancy ends).
- Breastfeeding women (up to infant’s 1st birthday)
- Non-breastfeeding postpartum women (up to 6 months after the birth of an infant or after pregnancy ends)
- Infants (up to 1st birthday). WIC serves 53 percent of all infants born in the United States.
- Children up to their 5th birthday.
Affordable Housing Help for Unplanned Pregnancy
Public housing is state-owned, affordable rental houses or apartments. It’s intended for families with low incomes, seniors, and people with disabilities. Found nationwide, public housing comes in all sizes and types, from single-family houses to high-rise apartments. The Department of Housing and Urban Development (HUD) administers several programs: subsidized housing, public housing, and housing choice vouchers.
Maternity Homes
The U.S. Department of Health & Human Services operates the Maternity Group Homes for Pregnant and Parenting Youth (MGH) Program tosupport homeless pregnant and/or parenting young people, as well as their dependent children. Youth must be between the ages of 16 and 22 to enter the program.
The National Maternity Housing Coalition (NMHC) of over 400 maternity housing programs can help you find a residential maternity home that is able to meet your needs.
Healthcare Help for Unplanned Pregnancy
Medicaid is a federal and state program that provides health coverage to low-income pregnant women during pregnancy and up to two months after the birth of the baby. Medicaid differs from state to state so be sure to apply in your state.
Children’s Health Insurance Program (CHIP) provides low-cost health coverage to children in families that earn too much money to qualify for Medicaid. In some states, CHIP covers pregnant women. Each state offers CHIP coverage, and works closely with its state Medicaid program. Services include hospitalizations, doctor visits, and prescription drugs. If you qualify for Medicaid or CHIP, your coverage can start right away, any time of year.
Learn more about Medicaid and CHIP coverage
Emotional Support for Unplanned Pregnancy
We recommend Embrace Grace because they know what it’s like to have an unexpected pregnancy. These support communities are judgement free and want to provide spiritual, emotional and physical support to both partners. When you join, they will love on you with Love Boxes, a baby shower, and so much more. Check out their website and find a support group near you.
Pregnancy Help Centers are local clinics that provide just that – help with your pregnancy. That may include prenatal care, parenting education, adoption assistance and guidance to local resources and programs, such as food banks. Our locator will help you find the center nearest you.
Our Pregnancy Educators are available everyday 7 a.m. to 10 p.m. CST to talk with you, encourage and support you. Click chat below, or call toll-free 800-672-2296help
What is Child Support?
In the eyes of the law, the raising of children and providing financial support for their wellbeing is the responsibility of both parents. Usually child support is paid by the non-custodial parent to the custodial parent.
Support payments are intended to help cover the costs of housing, food, clothing, and other basic needs, as well as school expenses, and other normal expenses of raising children. How much child support should be paid is calculated based on a formula set by the laws of each state. Support may be ordered to be paid by either parent, or in a situation in which the children are living with a third party or agency, both parents may be ordered to pay support.
Child support basics
A custodial parent is defined as the parent who has primary custody of a child for the majority of the time. The non-custodial parent is usually the parent who does not have physical custody of a child, though they may have or share legal custody.
While fathers are most often associated with being the non-custodial parent, this is not always the case and many mothers are responsible for paying child support too. Likewise, a non-custodial parent may remain very involved in their child’s life and parents may choose to co-parent. It’s important to know that child support is not dependent on the parents having ever been married.
How child support is calculated
Each state has specific guidelines based on the federal law.
The income shares model combines both parents’ income, determines the basic level of support, then adds expenses, and then an obligation is prorated between the parents based on their percentage of the combined income. Forty states use the income share model.
The percentage of income model determines the non-custodial parent’s income, determines the percentage of the non-custodial parent’s income that will be applied, applies the percentage to the income, and finalizes the obligation by making adjustments for add-ons and deductions. Seven states use the percentage income model, four of which use the flat percentage model.
The Melson Formula is a more complicated version of the Income Shares model, which incorporates public policy judgments to unsure each parent’s basic needs are met in addition to the children. Only Delaware, Hawaii, and Montana use the Melson Formula.
The District of Columbia uses a hybrid model that starts as a varying percentage of income model and is then reduced by a formula based on the custodial parent’s income.
Search the Internet for your state’s online child support calculator to get an idea of how much support could be ordered in your case.
Once this calculation is made, the family court judge will consider other factors, such as disparity in the parents’ incomes and any other issues that would suggest a support order should depart from the federal guidelines. If a non-guideline amount of child support is ordered, the judge must document that the order is in the children’s best interest.
Child Support Add-Ons
In addition to a monthly support payment amount, many states make specific orders regarding the parents’ responsibility to share other expenses such as healthcare costs, medical insurance, and childcare expenses, plus educational costs and extracurricular activities. Because these costs vary, a set amount cannot be ordered and added to the child support payment. Usually, the parents are ordered to share these costs equally, one parent being required to provide the other parent with receipts or proof of payment or anticipated charges.
Uses for child support
While the custodial parent often receives the child support payment, it should not be used for their personal expenses that are unrelated to their children. Misuse of funds includes things like clothing, salon services, or entertainment and vacations that don’t involve the child. Even if money is left over in any given month, it should be saved for future expenses related to the children.
In the parent’s agreement, many of these expenses will be defined so both parties have a clear understanding of their responsibilities and what the money will be used for. It may also include a way of dealing with and sharing the costs of unexpected expenses.
Actions to take when in financial distress
Situations change, individuals experience medical emergencies, loss of income, or other issues causing economic hardship. If financial problems create difficulties making full child support payments, it is important that the paying parent notify the other parent, and the child support enforcement agency. In many cases a temporary payment plan can be entered into to prevent more serious consequences of non-payment.
It is also possible for the support order to be modified by the court. The paying parent must request such a modification of child support payments, showing there has been a change in circumstances, such as a decrease in income, change in the custody and visitation schedule, or unexpected expenses that caused economic hardship. If the court agrees that the change in circumstance warrants a change in support, the amount will be re-calculated using the standard formula which takes into account both parents’ incomes and other considerations.
Tax consequences of child support
Child support payments are outside the tax system for both parties. The parent making support payments cannot deduct them for tax purposes, and the party receiving payments does not have to list them as income for tax purposes.
How to file for child support
A child support order may be requested even if the parents have never been married or lived together. While the exact procedure for obtaining a support order, or a modification to an existing order, varies by jurisdiction, certain basic steps are common.
- File a motion, complaint, or application for child support order with the local family court. A parent can hire an attorney to help with this, or use the standardized forms provided by the court to do it themselves. When the documents are filed, the court will issue a hearing date.
- Serve the motion on the other parent. This service of process may be done by a local sheriff, constable, process server, or another adult who is not a party to the case.
- Attend a hearing, where both parents will be required to provide information on their income, tax status, and expenses, as well as information on the children, custody schedule, and parentage if applicable.
- The court charges a fee to both parents for the initial filing, though parents with a very low income, or who are receiving public assistance, may obtain a fee waiver. This requires the filing of an application for fee waiver with the court, and provision of detailed income information.
Legal help for child support
Child Support law can be complex, more so if one parent lives in a different state or country. If possible, it may be a good idea to consult with a local family law attorney. For a fee, they will be able to explain how the procedure for filing and paying support and guide you through the process. Legal aid for people with low incomes is available. Search “legal aid services” for you state, or click here: How to find a lawyer and affordable Legal Aid.
For questions about child support payments from or to someone in another country, search The Office of Child Support Enforcement’s international resources. There may be a state or national agreement to provide support services with the country in question. If you need further help, submit your international questions through the OCSE online form.
How to establish paternity
Child support cannot be enforced until paternity is established.
If you are single and do not plan to marry the father of your child before the baby is born, ask him to voluntarily establish paternity, either at the hospital when the baby is born or through a prenatal paternity test. This will provide the basis of financial support for the child and visitation rights for the father.
Consider contacting an attorney to protect your child’s rights, or call your local Office of Child Support Enforcement and your local Legal Aid organization.
When child support ends
In most cases, the obligation to pay child support ends when the child reaches the age of majority, which varies in some states, from age 16 to 21, or until the child graduates from high school. In some states, support may be ordered to continue after the age of majority if the child is attending college full time. Certain circumstances allow for early termination of child support, including the child’s legal emancipation, the child’s marriage, or death of the child. In the event support payments fell behind at some point, and the payments have not been caught up by the time the order terminates, the paying parent must continue to make payments until the arrears have been satisfied.
Sources
- net/child-support
- World Population Review: Child Support Percentage by State
- gov/legal-aid
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Understanding Your Pregnancy Options and Available Support
Facing an unexpected or challenging pregnancy decision can feel overwhelming. If you are considering abortion, you may be experiencing a wide range of emotions — uncertainty, fear, sadness, relief, confusion, or even calm clarity. All of these feelings are valid.
Every person’s situation is unique. This article is not intended to persuade you in one direction or another. Instead, it offers information about additional support, financial resources, and alternatives — including parenting support and adoption — that may help you make an informed pregnancy decision that feels right for you.
You deserve accurate information, compassionate care, and the opportunity to consider all of your pregnancy options.
Taking Time to Understand Your Options
When facing a pregnancy decision about abortion or other pregnancy options, it may help to pause and gather information. Many individuals find it useful to speak with:
- A trusted healthcare provider (OB-GYN, midwife, or primary care provider)
- A licensed counselor
- A pregnancy support organization
- A trusted friend or family member
The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) emphasizes that patients should receive evidence-based information and be supported in making voluntary, informed pregnancy decisions about their reproductive health.¹
If you feel pressured in any direction — whether toward abortion, parenting, or adoption — it is important to seek a space where you can explore your thoughts freely and safely.
If you are in immediate emotional distress, reaching out to a mental health professional or crisis support line can provide confidential support.
The American Pregnancy Association offers a FREE Live Helpline.
Every call is with a live trained expert, completely confidential, and always 100% Free.
The American Pregnancy Association offers a FREE Live Helpline
Every call is with a live trained expert, completely confidential, and always 100% Free.
Please feel free to call: 800-672-2296
Mon-Fri 7am – 7pm CT
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What Financial Help Is Available During Pregnancy?
For many individuals, financial stress plays a significant role in unplanned pregnancy decisions. You may be wondering whether you can afford prenatal care, childbirth, or raising a child. There are programs designed to provide assistance during pregnancy and early childhood.
Health Coverage and Medical Care
Depending on your location and income level, you may qualify for:
- Medicaid coverage for prenatal care and delivery²
- CHIP (Children’s Health Insurance Program) for infant coverage³
- Community health centers offering sliding-scale services⁴
These programs may provide important financial help during pregnancy, including coverage for prenatal care and delivery. Many states provide pregnancy-related Medicaid eligibility even if you did not previously qualify.
Nutrition and Basic Needs Support
Programs that may help include:
- WIC (Women, Infants, and Children Program) for food assistance and nutrition support⁵ SNAP (Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program)⁶
- Local food banks and community resource centers
These programs are designed to support pregnant individuals and families with young children.
Financial and Material Assistance
Some nonprofit and community organizations offer:
- Help with rent or utilities during pregnancy
- Maternity clothing and baby supplies
- Parenting classes and support groups
- Transportation to medical appointments
In many areas, dialing 211 connects you to local community resource networks that can help identify available pregnancy assistance programs.⁷ Or, explore our guide to Financial Help for Pregnant Women, which will help point out available resources.
Emotional and Practical Support
Pregnancy — especially an unplanned pregnancy — can bring emotional and logistical challenges. Support systems vary widely from person to person, and it is understandable if you feel you do not have enough support right now.
You may consider:
- Speaking with a licensed counselor
- Exploring community-based pregnancy support groups
- Asking a healthcare provider about social workers who specialize in pregnancy resources
- Connecting with trusted friends or family members
Confidential helplines, such as the one offered here provide personalized pregnancy counseling and decision support for people considering parenting, adoption, or abortion.
Understanding Adoption Options During Pregnancy
For some individuals, adoption options during pregnancy are worth considering. Adoption allows you to carry the pregnancy to term while making a plan for the child’s future care.
There are several types of adoption:
Open Adoption
Ongoing communication between birth parent(s) and adoptive family may occur, depending on the agreement.
Semi-Open Adoption
Communication may occur through an agency or intermediary.
Closed Adoption
Identifying information is not shared, and there is no ongoing contact after placement.
Adoption laws and processes vary by state. The U.S. Department of Health & Human Services provides information about adoption planning and legal considerations.⁸
If you are considering adoption, consulting a licensed, reputable agency and understanding your legal rights is important.
If You Choose to Continue the Pregnancy
If you decide to continue your pregnancy — whether to parent or pursue adoption — early prenatal care is important for maternal and fetal health. The CDC recommends beginning prenatal care as early as possible in pregnancy.⁹
A healthcare provider can help you:
- Confirm the pregnancy
- Estimate gestational age
- Begin prenatal vitamins (including folic acid) as part of maintaining a healthy pregnancy
- Discuss lifestyle considerations
- Connect with financial or social support services
Seeking care early can help ensure you have the information and resources you need. Here is a guide to support you starting to think about your options as you keep and parent your child.
What You Should Know When Considering Abortion?
Abortion is a common medical procedure in the United States, and understanding abortion procedures and safety can help you make an informed decision. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reports that abortion is generally safe when performed by a licensed healthcare provider.¹⁰
A healthcare professional can explain what to expect during different abortion procedures, including:
- The type of abortion appropriate for your stage of pregnancy
- Possible risks and side effects
- What to expect physically and emotionally
- Follow-up care recommendations
After an abortion, emotional responses vary. Some individuals experience relief, while others may experience complex feelings. If needed, speaking with a counselor or healthcare provider can help support your emotional well-being.
Laws regarding abortion vary by state.
You Are Not Alone
Making a pregnancy decision can feel isolating, but many individuals have faced similar crossroads and support is available.
You deserve:
- Accurate medical information
- Emotional support
- Freedom from coercion
- Compassionate care
Whatever decision you make about your pregnancy options, it should be informed, voluntary, and grounded in your personal circumstances and values.
If you are unsure where to begin, consider starting with a trusted healthcare provider or contacting a local community resource center to learn about available services. And, we are always here to help you. If you are still exploring your options, please visit our complete guide to Unplanned Pregnancy for a selection of topics designed to support you.
References
- American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG). (2021). Informed consent and shared decision making in obstetrics and gynecology. ACOG Committee Opinion No. 819. Obstetrics & Gynecology, 137(2), e34–e41.
- National Institutes of Health (NIH). Preconception and prenatal Medicaid coverage for Medicaid-insured births.
- InsureKidsNow.gov. Children’s Health Insurance Program (CHIP).
- Health Resources & Services Administration (HRSA). Health Center Program.
- U.S. Department of Agriculture (USDA). Special Supplemental Nutrition Program for Women, Infants, and Children (WIC).
- U.S. Department of Agriculture (USDA). Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP).
- 211.org. About 211.
- U.S. Department of Health & Human Services, Administration for Children & Families. Child Welfare Information Gateway – Adoption.
- National Academies of Sciences, Engineering, and Medicine. (2018). The Safety and Quality of Abortion Care in the United States. Washington, DC: The National Academies Press.
This information is for educational purposes and is not a substitute for professional medical advice.
Finding out you are pregnant when you were not planning to be can bring a rush of feelings that are hard to put into words. You might feel frightened, numb, relieved, heartbroken, hopeful, or all of these at once. Whatever you are feeling right now is completely understandable. There is no right or wrong way to respond to news this significant.
An unplanned pregnancy means it happened at a time you weren’t anticipating. It does not take away your power to choose what comes next.
Right now, what matters most is having clear information and the time to think. You deserve accurate medical information and support without pressure. You do not need to decide everything today.
This guide to Unplanned Pregnancy was created to help you explore the many facets of life you are experiencing right now including: what is happening in your body, what your options are, and where to find trusted help. Below is a dropdown navigation system designed to help you find the core topics for Unplanned Pregnancy and trusted informational posts.
Understanding an Unplanned Pregnancy
An unplanned pregnancy (also called an unintended pregnancy) happens when someone becomes pregnant earlier than expected or without planning to.¹ This can occur for so many reasons that have nothing to do with carelessness or failure:
- Birth control can fail even when used correctly
- Pills may be missed
- Condoms can break
- Ovulation timing can shift unexpectedly
- Stress or illness can affect cycles
- Life situations can shift in ways you did not expect
If you are unsure if you are pregnant, you can explore our early physical signs and symptoms of pregnancy article, specifically designed to help you think through the potential signals of what you are experiencing. (Only doctors can diagnose, this article is a helpful overview of the signs and symptoms of pregnancy, which can be helpful for discussions with your healthcare provider.)
Unplanned pregnancies are common in the United States.² You are not alone in this experience, even if it feels that way right now. If you are not quite sure how you became pregnant, there is a detailed Getting Pregnant Guide to help explain the process. There is no need to feel embarrassed, there are always new things to learn about pregnancy.
It is also important to understand that “unplanned” does not automatically mean “unwanted.” Some pregnancies begin as a complete surprise and later feel like a gift. Others remain difficult. Your experience is personal and completely valid.
Some people feel sure about what they want to do right away. Others need time to think, gather information, or talk with a healthcare provider. Both responses are normal.
First Steps After a Positive Pregnancy Test
After a positive pregnancy test, it is natural to feel a sense of urgency like you need to have all the answers immediately. It is equally natural to feel completely frozen, unsure where to even begin. Both of those responses are normal, and neither one means you are handling this wrong.
If you think you may be pregnant, taking a few steady steps can help you feel more in control:
- Make an appointment with a healthcare provider to confirm the pregnancy
- Estimate how far along you may be with our Due Date Calculator
- Start to track some of the early signs of pregnancy
- Consciously give yourself time to process the news
As you prepare for a healthcare provider appointment, it is often helpful to write down questions before your medical visit. Appointments can feel overwhelming, so having a short list of questions in your hand means you are less likely to leave with your questions unanswered. After all, this appointment is for you and should help you gain more knowledge and confidence.
If you are unsure whether the symptoms you are experiencing are related to pregnancy, please take a few minutes to review the “Am I Pregnant” guide which will provide trusted information to help you understand your symptoms.
After you determine that you are likely pregnant, it is important to estimate how far along your pregnancy may be. You can use our Due Date Calculator to estimate the gestational age of your pregnancy, based on the first day of your last period. Knowing how many weeks pregnant you are may guide the questions you ask a healthcare provider, help with medical decisions and clarify which options are available.
You may find it helpful to explore more topics on early pregnancy, which can be found in our comprehensive Pregnancy Guide. Taking the time to read the Prenatal Care Overview Page will help prepare you for your first doctor’s visit where you can ask many questions.
Everyone needs help during pregnancy and our extensive Resource Guide holds so many empowering Tools & Resources designed to bring you understanding and empower your with knowledge.
At any point along this journey, remember to give yourself grace when things feel overwhelming. An unplanned pregnancy can hold joy and uncertainty all at once. If talking to someone in your personal life doesn’t feel safe or comfortable right now, our American Pregnancy Association Free Live Helpline is always here. It is completely confidential and free of charge.
The American Pregnancy Association offers a FREE Live Helpline
Every call is with a live trained expert, completely confidential, and always 100% Free.
Please feel free to call: 800-672-2296
Mon-Fri 7am – 7pm CT
Or click the button below to chat with a live person
Confirming the Pregnancy Medically
A healthcare provider can confirm pregnancy in several ways:
- A urine test
- A blood test that measures a hormone called hCG³
- An ultrasound, if needed
A blood test can measure how much hCG is in your system. Rising levels usually support a healthy early pregnancy. An ultrasound can confirm how far along the pregnancy is and check that it is developing in the uterus.
A medical visit can also screen for health conditions that may affect pregnancy or your health in general, such as high blood pressure, diabetes, or anemia.
Please seek immediate medical care if you experience severe stomach pain, heavy bleeding, dizziness, or fainting. These symptoms could signal a serious condition like an ectopic pregnancy.⁴
Early medical care is not about pressuring you toward any particular path. It is about making sure you have the safety and clarity needed to make decisions that are right for you.
Understanding Your Options
An unplanned pregnancy can bring important decisions, and it is normal to take time to understand what each option may mean for your life, your health, and your future.
Every situation is different. There is no single “right” decision — only the one that aligns best with your circumstances, values, and support system. Taking time to gather accurate information can help you feel more confident as you move forward.
You can explore each of these options in more detail through the guides below.
Continuing the Pregnancy and Parenting
Some people choose to continue the pregnancy and raise a child.
If this is the path you are considering, starting prenatal care early is important.⁶ Prenatal care supports both your health and your baby’s development.
Prenatal visits typically include:
- Monitoring blood pressure
- Checking weight and nutrition
- Screening for infections
- Discussing lifestyle habits
Our Pregnancy Week by Week overview can help you understand what is happening in your body as your pregnancy develops, and the growth your baby is experiencing along the way.
If the idea of parenting feels overwhelming, consider reaching out to family members, community programs, or support groups. Many communities offer parenting classes, financial assistance, and childcare resources.
For more detailed information about pregnancy development and care, visit our complete Pregnancy Information Guide.
Adoption Options
Adoption is another option for individuals who choose to continue the pregnancy but are not planning to parent. Adoption means making a thoughtful plan for another family to raise the child.
There are different types of adoption:
- Open adoption (ongoing contact may be included)
- Semi-open adoption
- Closed adoption
Understanding how the adoption process works, including legal considerations and emotional aspects, can help you determine whether this path feels right for you.
Adoption is a decision that has meaningful implications. Speaking with a qualified professional can help clarify the process. Adoption laws also differ by state, so learning about your legal rights is important.⁶ Our Adoption Options guide is designed to share many of the adoption core ideas that you should know as you consider adoption.
Considering Abortion
Some individuals consider abortion as an option. This decision may involve medical, personal, and legal considerations, depending on your situation and location. Abortion is a decision that should include all potential options, so that your decision is informed and aligned at its core with your personal feelings and values. That is why we have prepared the Pregnancy Options article for you. It represents the understanding and care this topic deserves and has benefitted from the input of many women who have been exactly where you are today.
Access to abortion care depends on the laws in your state. The type of abortion procedure available often depends on how many weeks pregnant you are.⁸
A medical visit can confirm how far along you are. A licensed healthcare provider can explain what options are available in your area and discuss possible risks and side effects.
Whatever path you are considering, you do not have to navigate it alone. Access to accurate information and supportive resources can make a meaningful difference.
If you are continuing your pregnancy, you may find it helpful to explore our Pregnancy guide for ongoing care and development. You can also connect with a trained specialist through our Free Live Helpline for confidential support and guidance.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can you get pregnant while using birth control?
Yes. No birth control method is 100% effective except abstinence.⁹ Effectiveness depends on correct and consistent use.
How early can pregnancy be detected?
Most home pregnancy tests can detect pregnancy about 10 to 14 days after ovulation.¹⁰ Testing too early may lead to a false negative result.
What if I feel pressured to make a decision?
It is important that your decision is your own. Speaking with a licensed healthcare provider or counselor can help you process information in a safe environment.
Can stress cause pregnancy loss?
Normal stress does not usually cause miscarriage. If you have concerns, speak with a healthcare provider for guidance.
How long do I have to decide?
Timeframes depend on gestational age and local laws. Confirming how far along you are can help clarify timelines.
Emotional Responses to an Unexpected Pregnancy
An unexpected pregnancy can bring emotions that don’t always make sense when combined together. You might feel:
- Worry about the future
- Stress in your relationship, or loneliness if you are navigating this alone
- Financial concerns
- Fear of judgment
- Confusion about what you want and what may be the right thing to do
And alongside all of that, you might feel moments of calm and unexpected hope. Mixed emotions are normal.
Hormonal changes in early pregnancy can also affect mood. Feeling more emotional or overwhelmed than usual does not mean you are weak or incapable. You do not have to sort through these feelings alone. Our Pregnancy Help resources offer guidance and support. Talking with a healthcare provider, counselor, or trusted friend can also help.
You can also contact our Free Live Helpline for confidential support.
Talking With a Partner or Family Member
Deciding to tell a partner, a family member, or a close friend about an unplanned pregnancy can feel daunting or terrifying. It is okay to take your time before having that conversation.
When you are ready, it can help to:
- Choose a calm, private moment to talk
- Share confirmed medical information
- Be honest about how you are feeling
- Ask for support, even if you are still deciding
A conversation about unplanned pregnancy may naturally lead to a discussion about paternity. Establishing paternity can be an important part of making decisions and establishing legal responsibilities through paternity testing.
Not every conversation goes the way we hope. Some people need time to process before they can show up for you in the way you need. If someone reacts poorly at first, that doesn’t necessarily reflect their final response or your worth.
However, if you have any concern about your safety in sharing this news, please prioritize yourself. Speak with a trusted professional or counselor and feel free to reach out to us if you need help finding support in your area.
When to Seek Immediate Medical Care
Most early pregnancies progress without complications. However, certain symptoms need urgent medical care.
Seek help right away if you experience:
- Severe abdominal or pelvic pain
- Heavy vaginal bleeding
- Fainting or dizziness
- Shoulder pain
- Fever with severe pain
If you are unsure whether symptoms are serious, contact a healthcare provider. Asking questions is always the right choice. To learn more about complications and concerns, please explore our Pregnancy information.
You Deserve Clear Information and Support
An unplanned pregnancy can feel uncertain. You may need time to think. That is absolutely okay. Reliable medical information and compassionate support are available. Take the time you need. Speak with qualified professionals. Reach out to people you trust.
This Unplanned Pregnancy Guide is meant to serve as a starting point. Use the sections above to explore the areas that best reflect your current questions or concerns. You deserve accurate information, compassionate care, and the freedom to make a voluntary and informed decision.
The American Pregnancy Association provides educational information designed to help individuals understand pregnancy and reproductive health topics. This information should not replace guidance from a licensed healthcare provider.
