Many people believe that when there is an unplanned pregnancy, there are three options: abortion, adoption, and parenting. However, when it comes to parenting there are different types of parenting as well. There are a few options of parenting for you to explore to see if that makes any difference.
Types of Parenting: Getting Married:
Some couples choose to get married after the discovery of an unplanned pregnancy. This option may prove to be a positive one for many couples. Ask yourself how long you have been dating, how well do you know each other, and have you already been thinking about marriage?
Most couples are encouraged not to get married merely for the “sake of the baby.” Marriage has enough challenges even when entering into it for the all the right reasons. If you are in a positive, solid relationship, the parenting option might make the most sense since it involves two people committed to meeting the needs of the baby.
Since we all know that marriage often fails to solve problems, seek premarital counseling to help you with your decision.
Types of Parenting: Joint Parenting or Joint Custody
This option can make sense if both parties are interested in having the baby. You recognize that the timing is not right for marriage. Both parties are committed to meeting the needs of the child and are willing to accept the additional challenges such as adjusting schedules, possible extra commuting and greater need to communicate.
Types of Parenting: Single Parenting / Visitation:
This can make sense if one of you is fully committed to the baby. It presents more challenges since most of the parenting responsibilities will fall on one person. Child support is still important in order to make it easier to meet the needs of the child. This parenting option can also present greater challenges with respect to scheduling and commuting.
Types of Parenting: Single Parenting:
Single parenting is usually chosen by an individual who wants the baby but whose partner has abandoned the relationship and does not desire to be a part of your or the baby’s life. When choosing this parenting option, it is best to assume that the partner will not participate in any matter.
Things may change: The other parent might decide to become more involved by seeking visitation, providing financial support and generally helping out. If this happens, then you and the baby receive more than you ever expected.
In most cases, child support should still be expected and legally required. However, if the absent parent is disinterested, it can make collecting child support more difficult. This option is the most challenging because it places most of the parenting responsibilities on your shoulders. In such cases, friends and family often become the best and most reliable source of support.