As you reflect upon the past, you will probably remember several important, pivotal events in your life. The events might have been the result of your own choices or, in some cases, decisions that others made for you. When confronting your own unplanned pregnancy, your course of action should be the result of your own decision making process.
While it is acceptable to consider the opinions of other people, keep in mind that you, not they, will have to live with results. Normally, the decisions we make are based on what is important to us. The following tips are designed to help you clarify your values, beliefs and circumstances in order to lead you to the best results.
The direction you decide upon might be the the most important decision you have ever made, so be sure to take enough time to consider every aspect of your decision. See My Three Choices for more information on your options. You can call 1-800-672-2296 or search for a local options specialist.
- Find a quiet place where you can sit down with pen and paper.
- Record and describe your thoughts and feelings upon discovering that you were pregnant.
- Make a chart with two columns for each major option. In one column list the positives and in the other column, the negatives.
- Briefly describe what you think your life and your child’s life would be like based upon the options that you are considering.
- Try to think about a decision in terms of “Good, Better or Best.” It is easier to see the difference between a bad decision and a good decision than to determine what would be better and best for you and your child.
- Seek counsel from someone you regard as mature and wise.
- Consider how others might feel about the possible options. How would the most important people in your life feel?
- Find out about available help and resources by calling a pregnancy specialist toll-free at 1-800-672-2296.