So, here's the scoop. I hate the age of 3. Yep, I said it, I hate it. 2 yr old, that was a breeze. A lovely walk in the park. Played by himself. All the time. Never had to entertain him, okay, once in a blue moon I did but nothing compared to this tyrant we've got on our hands. He's driving us INSANE. Mostly me, since I'm with him 12 hours a day. Hubby is so lucky he gets to go to work...sigh. I digress.
So, he's started in the last couple of months hitting, throwing everything, screaming like a freaking banshie. However a banshie screams. So very very loud. Takes FOREVER to eat a meal, I'm talking 45 minutes to an hour and I am not exaggerating at all. He's never taken that long, it's only been the last few weeks. And I can't figure out what's changed. I turn off the tv, remove every toy within reach, but he just talks and talks and talks and fiddles with anything and nothing. I have to say, Jason eat. Jason eat. For every stupid bite. We've done time outs, taken away the favorite toy of the day, threatening a spanking and lastly a spanking. (Please don't judge me) I'll stand there and say, don't you dare throw that toy, he throws it. Jason, don't scream inside, he screams inside. I tell him to come by me for some reason or another, he ignores me. Don't hit, he hits. But mainly it's DH he's been hitting. For some reason he doesn't hit me, can't figure that one out either. Maybe cause I'm home with him?? I'm so out of my mind with confusion with how he's been acting I just can't understand him anymore. I get that he's 3 and is testing every limit, but for goodness sake, there's got to be something we can do to get it across that this behavior isn't okay. Aside from military school we are in desperate need for some advice, help, or a 3 yr old who's free for the taking. I'm kidding. Kind of. And heaven forbid I leave the room for a second it's, "Momma, what are you doing?" Where are you? Momma, come here. Play with me. And then there's the bossiness, OMG.
What are we doing wrong? Is there something else we can do/try that you've done that works? I repeat myself 20 times a day, I'm losing my mind. We hate spanking him, but he downright ignores us, we don't know what else to do. The second we do it, ugh, the guilt is tremendous. And when we tell him not to do something and explain at the same time why it's wrong, I get "why momma?" I hate that word. Why. Worst word ever.
We went to the zoo on Monday and he tried to hit a little girl as she was walking past us!! I just wanted to die. It happened so fast too. I don't even know if he made contact and her dad was so gracious about it too. They kept walking and I ran up to them to get them to stop so I could make him apologize to her. Which scared her and she started crying and then Jason started crying but I made him apologize and told him we don't hit, and then I get the "Why Momma?"!!!!!! He used to be the most sweetest boy too. Never the one to be aggressive until I took him to different playgrounds and the other boys who were a little older, not by much either, were way more aggressive with him. I know that's where he's learned it, but where he used to back away from a kid taking a toy away from him, he now grabs it harder so he doesn't lose it. This is so hard. We need advice. Anything.