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    I figure I would start this update thread now.

    NEXT APPTS-
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    40 week appt-11/3 (hoping that I won't go until this appt and baby will be in my arms by this time

    Here is a little bit about me and my family!

    DH AND I

    DH and I met while I was on summer leave from college and started dating May 2000.We dated long distance for 1 year while I was away at college. It was great getting to know him deeply without any pressure for intimacy. After college I moved back home and immediately got a job in a major computer tech company and started working my way up the corporate ladder quickly.We continued to date while he finished college.Got Engaged Sept 2004Married Oct. 9,2005 by my dad (He is an ordained minister but serves as a lay preacher and helps out pastors when they are away). It was a beautiful wedding. Very personal and a very happy day. We spent two weeks honeymooning in Italy! My DH is 1/2 Spanish (spain not mexico) and 1/2 Italian. I am 1/2 German and 1/2 Italian. So italy was a must do for our honeymoon. We returned to the states, bought a house and both of us continued to work for 3 years after marriage before we decided to TTC. We enjoyed the alone time. Traveled OFTEN to so many places around the globe. We paid off all debt and enjoyed spending evenings at unique food place or listening to live music. It was a very special time in our relationship.

    DS #1

    Just before our trip to Bahamas in May 2008 we decided to TTC. We didn't realize we would be able to conceive so quickly. June 30th, 2008 I got my first positive pregnancy test. DS#1 was an easy pregnancy. I never even had one single symptom. But his birth was another story born after a whirlwind delivery March 13, 2009. If you've ever seen "the business of being born" the whole rollorcoaster of interventions was my situation to a T and ended up in a C section. I hung up my job as a team lead over the northeast and mid Atlantic division of the company I worked for and became a full time mommy. And never looked back!

    DS #2

    Sept 2010 we celebrated and early 5 years anniversary with a cruise to Bermuda. We brought back the best souvenir from that cruise and Sept 24,2010 I got a BFP with DS#2. I knew right away I would do things different with his birth.DS #2 was born at home with a planned HBAC with two midwives. Was a very quick birth and the best experience of my life. if anyone has any questions about vbac or hbac I can help.

    So up to today....DH and I knew we were not ready to be finished with children yet. But we didn't know when we would start TTC again. My husband is in the process of taking over my fathers business. So we are putting everything we can aside for the transition. We had to push the business takeover time frame back from January 2014 to July 2014. So we just weren't planning on having another. But we weren't preventing either. I knew I waned to be finished by 35 years old. And DH was on the same page with that too.

    Feb 1,2014 I got my period.We practice NFP so I should have ovulated day 14-15
    We DTD Feb 8,2014.2 days later I ovulated EARLY...Feb 10,2014.
    And I IMMEDIATLY knew..just had a gut feeling that it would end in pregnancy.
    Feb 25,2014......BFP I contacted my homebirth midwife with DS #2 and she told me that things in this state have changed but she would love to birth our child again. So basically I have to have shadow care with an OB office for a few visits. Due date is set for Nov. 3, 2014. We are waiting to find out the gender. We are both pretty set that this will be our last. So we wanted to do something special with this pregnancy. Here is a picture of my family by the lake near our house.us.jpg
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    Brenda

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    5/8-homebirth midwife came over my house for prenatal and we had a great first visit. Signed all of the paperwork. she checked my blood pressure, weight, and urine. Everything looks great. Baby was hiding from her but we found the heartbeat 150 BPM. Baby even kicked the doppler. We heard a thump on the doppler and she smiled and said he/she just kicked me.

    All is set for a homebirth. As long as everything with my ultrasound checks out. And the placenta is in a good place (not covering my scar and not previa). We look good for a homebirth in Nov. Maybe late October if my trend of having baby 1 week ahead continues. My grandmother was born on Oct 31st. So it would be special to have him/her then.

    Brenda

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    Brenda!! I didn't know you weren't going to find out the gender!! OMGosh I couldn't do it! More power to you!
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    Awww, love your bio!! And you guys are all gorgeous...seriously, what a beautiful family!
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    Quote Originally Posted by khadijavye View Post
    Brenda!! I didn't know you weren't going to find out the gender!! OMGosh I couldn't do it! More power to you!
    LOL..even my midwife said we are strong. LOL...I pretty much have everything I need for baby. And I have plenty of gender neutral stuff for a few weeks. If it is a girl it would be first born on my husbands side in over 100 years. He comes from a STRONG boy line....so my MIL in would flip and probably buy enough clothing for two years just out of pure fun and not ever being able to purchase girl stuff. I have enough boy clothing if it's a boy.

    My husband is having a harder time waiting then me. But if he finds out there is NO WAY he would be able to keep the secret. So I made him promise to not find out. It is not bad waiting but I have been having fun with the gender predictor tests and so far it's 60/40 girl over boy. So we shall see. I would be shocked if it was a girl. But I would be thrilled either way. I LOVE my boys and have gotten so use to raising boys.

    Brenda

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    Quote Originally Posted by pants View Post
    5/8-homebirth midwife came over my house for prenatal and we had a great first visit. Signed all of the paperwork. she checked my blood pressure, weight, and urine. Everything looks great. Baby was hiding from her but we found the heartbeat 150 BPM. Baby even kicked the doppler. We heard a thump on the doppler and she smiled and said he/she just kicked me.

    All is set for a homebirth. As long as everything with my ultrasound checks out. And the placenta is in a good place (not covering my scar and not previa). We look good for a homebirth in Nov. Maybe late October if my trend of having baby 1 week ahead continues. My grandmother was born on Oct 31st. So it would be special to have him/her then.
    That's my brother's and my bday too (as well as dh's maternal gma's bday) and I would love a bday baby !
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    Quote Originally Posted by kellyowens View Post
    Awww, love your bio!! And you guys are all gorgeous...seriously, what a beautiful family!
    Thanks. that pic was harder to get then it looked. my DS #1 wanted to keep making funny faces. And DS #2 would not sit still or stop whining or crying or asking for food or playing with the grass...So we never got a real smile from him. I laugh because I think yeah that's a great shot..but the before and after shots are soooo funny!!

    Brenda

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    Brenda, you have a beautiful story! I am curious as to your thoughts of the pros of a midwife? I didnt even know there were still midwives out there!
    Me-Kelly (29) DH-Phillip (33) 2 unexplained losses. Ready for a rainbow baby!

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    Quote Originally Posted by kellyh View Post
    Brenda, you have a beautiful story! I am curious as to your thoughts of the pros of a midwife? I didnt even know there were still midwives out there!
    Will you be having a midwife at home or hospital or birthing center? In our state homebirth is a little tricky to navigate because of some many restrictions. So only about 12 midwives CNM statewide do homebirths. There are a NUMBER of CPM's that work underground. And a few lay (not formally trained) midwifes too. As far as hospital birth there are plenty of hospital midwives in our area. All of the major systems have midwife groups associated with them. The more rural hospitals do not. But the hospital midwife groups are bound by hospital rules. So say I wanted to have intermittent monitoring via doppler verses continual monitoring. Some hospitals in my area do not allow intermittent and I would have continual monitoring. It's kinda a pain. We have two free standing birth centers in our state run by CNM midwives. However the hospitals that back those centers have a lot of restriction on them. So they are not allowed to take vbac.

    As far as midwifes in general. I agree with the midwife model of care and feel that FOR ME (not for every birth because high risk births really need an OB team) the midwife care that I have had has been far superior to my older OB office. I know some people LOVE their OB's. And I know some OB's that are wonderful. I just feel the midwife model of care is more in line with my wishes and desires. I posted the whole thing below it's kinda long. Sorry . If you need help finding a midwife I can help point you to the right groups for your state. Send me a PM.

    Midwives Model of Care™ Is Woman-Centered

    The Midwives Model of Care™ is a fundamentally different approach to pregnancy and childbirth than contemporary obstetrics. Midwifery care is uniquely nurturing, hands-on care before, during, and after birth. Midwives are health care professionals specializing in pregnancy and childbirth who develop a trusting relationship with their clients, which results in confident, supported labor and birth. While there are different types of midwives practicing in various settings, all midwives are trained to provide comprehensive prenatal care and education, guide labor and birth, address complications, and care for newborns. The Midwives Model of Care™ is based on the fact that pregnancy and birth are normal life events. The Midwives Model of Care includes:

    • monitoring the physical, psychological and social well-being of the mother throughout the childbearing cycle
    • providing the mother with individualized education, counseling, and prenatal care, continuous hands-on assistance during labor and delivery, and postpartum support
    • minimizing technological interventions and
    • identifying and referring women who require obstetrical attention.

    The application of this model has been proven to reduce to incidence of birth injury, trauma, and cesarean section.
    Women Receive Personalized Care with a Midwife

    What women love is that there is more to maternity care with a midwife than checking blood pressure, fundal height, weight and urine checks.

    • You will see a familiar face at each of your appointments, and you will be given adequate time to ask questions and address your concerns.
    • Your midwife is a specialist in pregnancy, birth and postpartum care who has designed a complete program of care to nurture healthy pregnancy, joyful birth and confident parenting.
    • You will receive individualized, culturally appropriate, family-centered full-scope prenatal services, and continuous care and support during labor and birth.
    • Your midwife will incorporate shared decision-making into your care so that you will feel informed and empowered to make good health decisions for you, your infant and your family.
    • Your midwife has the skills and knowledge to facilitate healthy normal childbirth, to assure comfort and safety for you and your baby, and to accommodate your family’s needs.
    • You midwife has a plan for collaboration with obstetricians, pediatricians, and other specialists in the rare case where medical care for mother or your baby is needed.
    • You will receive nurturing postpartum care and support in your home and the midwife’s office in the weeks and months after birth as you adjust to your new baby and the changes in your family.

    These are just a few of the reasons why women say they prefer maternity care with a midwife.
    Healthier Outcomes, Healthier Communities

    The safety and benefits of midwifery care have been proven again and again in countries across the world, including the United States. World Health Organization statistics show that births attended by midwives have lower infection rates, lower Cesarean section rates, fewer complications and healthier outcomes—thus, lower overall medical costs—than physician-attended hospital births. In addition, there is no difference in infant mortality between midwife-attended and physician-attended births for low-risk women. Countries such as the Netherlands, Sweden and New Zealand, which have the best birth outcome statistics in the world, use midwives as their main maternity care providers.
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    Thanks for all of the info Brenda, this is very informative and interesting!! I am not currently pregnant but hope to be in the future!
    Me-Kelly (29) DH-Phillip (33) 2 unexplained losses. Ready for a rainbow baby!

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    Quote Originally Posted by kellyh View Post
    Thanks for all of the info Brenda, this is very informative and interesting!! I am not currently pregnant but hope to be in the future!
    If you have any questions feel free to PM me!!!!!

    Brenda

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    I am "OUT" on facebook.

    My DH got the stomach bug this weekend. So instead of doing the cute announcement I saw. I was able to quickly draw this and set this up. Those little shoes are my DH shoes. They are 36 years old. So these are our official announcements. So far the reception has been good. I have only had one person say "STOP WHILE YOU CAN"....

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    Brenda

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    I'm glad it has just been 1. There must be a magical threshold that you cross to make you immune from the "OMG you're having too many kids" comments. LOL.

    I didn't get any on FB, I don't think. The ones I got were in PERSON.
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    Quote Originally Posted by khadijavye View Post
    I'm glad it has just been 1. There must be a magical threshold that you cross to make you immune from the "OMG you're having too many kids" comments. LOL.

    I didn't get any on FB, I don't think. The ones I got were in PERSON.
    Thankfully a lot of my family and friends would love large families. So that helps. my mom was one of 13 kids and most of my cousins have at least 3 kids. So that helps. Yes we have HUGE family get togethers. It' the strangers or distant friends or acquaintances that usually give the weird comments. But so far i'm still not showing a baby bump as much. I do have a little something but i'm at that stage where I think some people are nervous to ask if I am pregnant or not. But i'm just waiting......I am sure I will have a ton of comments soon enough

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    oh and I got my US appt

    Scheduled for Monday June 16th at 9:30 am. Praying that everything checks out normal and the placenta is in a good position/location. I haven't felt him/her kick in a few days. so wondering why so quiet. But i've been busy and not paying attention. Sometimes I do wish I had a Doppler!!

    Brenda

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    Yeah, I waffle on the doppler thing. I think it would be nice to have, but if I couldn't find the HB I think I'd be a wreck. So I think it's best for me to NOT have a tool for obsessing. I got a baby scale with DS2 and I totally obsessed about his weight. I think of that when I think about a doppler. ;)
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    Yeah! Congrats! I think that your chalk drawing was cute, and karma will take care of the naysayer! Ha!

    Me, 37; DH, 43; DD, 5; m/c, twins -- 12/11; EDD -- DS, Jan 8th
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    Quote Originally Posted by XinainNC View Post
    Yeah! Congrats! I think that your chalk drawing was cute, and karma will take care of the naysayer! Ha!
    Thanks SOOOOOOOO happy your expecting again. ;)

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    Quick update on me since i've been MIA...

    Pregnancy Stuff:
    So far so good. Just this week I have been feeling a lot of movement and even got one good kick. I think my baby prefers to kick on the left. I wonder if my placenta is on the right. I am so thankful I have been feeling much better!!! But I have been STARVING lately. Seriously I can eat a solid meal every two hours. With my last two pregnancies I had huge leaps in growth from 18-28 weeks. So I feel like baby is growing alot this week.

    But ouch LEG CRAMPS/Charlie horses are starting in my calves. I had them off and on with both boys. And If I remember correctly increasing KIWI fruit helps. So I have been eating a ton of kiwi.

    I've been able to regularly exercise again now that I am feeling better. And it feels good to move and stretch and work out. Over all I feel like I have more energy overall.

    I plan to start seeing a chiro again around 28 weeks. just to keep my pelvis in line. I know it helped with a smoother birth with Micah.

    And I am praying for a good anatomy scan in just a few days!!!

    Non-Pregnancy stuff:
    I am slightly freaking out about my DH putting in his two week notice. This is a job we both have been dependent on for 8 years. So to put that in for the opportunity to take over a small business that does need more growth is scary!! I DO have peace about him doing this. But the reality of it all is settling in. I do all of our tax stuff and I was reading over the small business taxes. We will be paying 15% (12.4 for social security, 2.6 for medicare) in just taxes for SS and MEdicare. And that is just on 60K a year. That doesn't include federal income or state income taxes. And I can see why the class divide between rich and poor. Because to be honest we get CREAMED in taxes the more we go over 100K. Its almost not worth it to make 100-300K as a small business owner. The government thinks you make too much money and you get nothing in the way of tax credits. I told DH it would almost be better to keep it small. Just frustrated at the progressive income tax and how it stifles productivity and growth in certain pay grades. UG. Ok vent over.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pants View Post
    Quick update on me since i've been MIA...

    Pregnancy Stuff:
    So far so good. Just this week I have been feeling a lot of movement and even got one good kick. I think my baby prefers to kick on the left. I wonder if my placenta is on the right. I am so thankful I have been feeling much better!!! But I have been STARVING lately. Seriously I can eat a solid meal every two hours. With my last two pregnancies I had huge leaps in growth from 18-28 weeks. So I feel like baby is growing alot this week.

    But ouch LEG CRAMPS/Charlie horses are starting in my calves. I had them off and on with both boys. And If I remember correctly increasing KIWI fruit helps. So I have been eating a ton of kiwi.

    I've been able to regularly exercise again now that I am feeling better. And it feels good to move and stretch and work out. Over all I feel like I have more energy overall.

    I plan to start seeing a chiro again around 28 weeks. just to keep my pelvis in line. I know it helped with a smoother birth with Micah.

    And I am praying for a good anatomy scan in just a few days!!!

    Non-Pregnancy stuff:
    I am slightly freaking out about my DH putting in his two week notice. This is a job we both have been dependent on for 8 years. So to put that in for the opportunity to take over a small business that does need more growth is scary!! I DO have peace about him doing this. But the reality of it all is settling in. I do all of our tax stuff and I was reading over the small business taxes. We will be paying 15% (12.4 for social security, 2.6 for medicare) in just taxes for SS and MEdicare. And that is just on 60K a year. That doesn't include federal income or state income taxes. And I can see why the class divide between rich and poor. Because to be honest we get CREAMED in taxes the more we go over 100K. Its almost not worth it to make 100-300K as a small business owner. The government thinks you make too much money and you get nothing in the way of tax credits. I told DH it would almost be better to keep it small. Just frustrated at the progressive income tax and how it stifles productivity and growth in certain pay grades. UG. Ok vent over.
    i hear you on the taxes thing, my father is asmall business owner and the taxes recently have been so imaginable that he is actually struggling to pay his bills, and new regulations and rules made it so hard for him to be able to lease out space in his building that when he finally got part permission it was decided that HE should pay for a new turning lane to be placed in the road in front...
    Anywho, indulge your tummy, ive been starving too, happy tummy = happy mummy hahaha


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    Great update on the pregnancy stuff !!! I can't wait to hear how your anatomy scan goes !

    thinking of you and your family as you transition...it's such a huge step .

    The taxes thing...very frustrating for sure! We don't own a small business, but when dh took a new position within his company they offered us a very generous relocation package. We were extremely grateful since it did allow us to move immediately and with as little difficulty as possible when moving 11 people (including a 10 day old newborn), but Uncle Sam considered it all taxable income which put us in a higher tax bracket. We ended having to pay in and our net income was lower than it would have been had we not accepted the reloc package...crazy !
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    just popping in here to say you give me a little hope that one day I can get my VBA2C. If you can do a HVBAC then I can do it after 2 right?? I really want to experience childbirth the way it's intended to go.

    Congrats on your pregnancy!
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    I wish I had a goodinner midwife or a more supportive hospital which could up my chances for vbac. Alas, I won't be even intentionally trying it this time around because I know I will have no help, no guidance and they will barely monitor them as they would make me sign 5 different papers on how they are not responsible for anything that could possibly go wrong!
    Your story is beautiful and I hope your delivery is as easy and breezy as the 2nd one.

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    Good midwife of course lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by buki919 View Post
    just popping in here to say you give me a little hope that one day I can get my VBA2C. If you can do a HVBAC then I can do it after 2 right?? I really want to experience childbirth the way it's intended to go.

    Congrats on your pregnancy!
    Yes you CAN do it. It is a little harder to find a provider with a vba2c verses straight vbac (only one prior c section). I only know of some underground midwives in our state that will homebirth vba2c but its rare and without the hospital support can be slightly risky. One birth center about 2 hours from me that will vba2c at the birth center as they are walking distance from a large hospital. BUT you CAN do it it will just take some research on your part to find the best provider for you.. I can tell you with my experience and belief, I think each pregnancy and it's blessings/challenges independent of each other. The reason for my c section was more convenience on the OB part but he labeled me as not having a large enough pelvis. Funny enough my second born was only .02 ounces smaller but has same exact other measurements and he came out just fine (my midwife even said OH you have plenty of room.) Though the actual pushing part was long..it was about 2 1/2 hours... the entire birth was about 5 hours from the very first contraction to his head being delivered. I was so thankful I chose a midwife because I did not trust that an OB or the hospital would be patient with me in pushing and in various positions. Which I had to. And I eventually gave birth on my side because that was the most comfortable for me.. Which I don't believe was hospital rules. I had to push on my back. And for me NOT the best position. I did get to a part with pushing that I cried and looked at my midwives and said "is he ever going to come out, what is wrong with me". Which was just fear from my previous birth. They were so patient and kind and loving through the whole things.

    With all that said..you can find the right provider for vba2c. In fact we have a mom in our DD group MamaToe88 / JEssie that is going for vba2c. She found a very friendly OB and had to switch up hospitals. But she is going to get to go for it!! I'm so excited for her. I have another friend local that is attempting a vba3c. So it can be done. With the right staff and hospital. Unless your in a super homebirth/birth center friendly state that will allow you to try at home. But start your research BEFORE you get pregnant. As it may take some time to gather your previous Post OP reports and find the right provider. We have a very natural friendly hospital (it's a university hospital so they are a teaching hospital and are open to many more things then the other ones around here.) and they have midwives that will do vba2c in the hosptial. As well as OB's that will do vba2c.

    I can give you many more pointers that helped me if you need. Just PM me. I also have my birth story and I would be willing to share it with you if you PM me your email address.

    Best of hopes for a beautiful birth for you!

    Brenda

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    Quote Originally Posted by cheeksy View Post
    I wish I had a goodinner midwife or a more supportive hospital which could up my chances for vbac. Alas, I won't be even intentionally trying it this time around because I know I will have no help, no guidance and they will barely monitor them as they would make me sign 5 different papers on how they are not responsible for anything that could possibly go wrong!
    Your story is beautiful and I hope your delivery is as easy and breezy as the 2nd one.
    HUGS!! I hate that women can't just chose to attempt to deliver the way she wants to! I just hate that for some women they are stuck. It's a failure on the part of the medical community and they mask it as "patient safety" UG.

    Thanks for the well wishes on the birth!!!

    Brenda

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissAlexandra View Post
    i hear you on the taxes thing, my father is asmall business owner and the taxes recently have been so imaginable that he is actually struggling to pay his bills, and new regulations and rules made it so hard for him to be able to lease out space in his building that when he finally got part permission it was decided that HE should pay for a new turning lane to be placed in the road in front...
    Anywho, indulge your tummy, ive been starving too, happy tummy = happy mummy hahaha
    I know my dad was a small business owner my whole life. One of the companies he owned he incorporated due to liability. It was a pest control business and working with chemicals he wanted to incorporate to protect his personal assets..but he had to pay corporate taxes. That is even worse. My bil and sister own a mechanic shop and all the epa regulations and other burroctratic paperwork has them barely making it. Its no wonder big box large corporations are taking over mom and pop stores. Its not really the corporations but the gov imposing so much on the little companies they can make it and have to sell. Our local 100 year old pharmacy and soda shop went under due to new obamacare regs and lack of medicare and medicaid reimbursements.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pants View Post
    Yes you CAN do it. It is a little harder to find a provider with a vba2c verses straight vbac (only one prior c section). I only know of some underground midwives in our state that will homebirth vba2c but its rare and without the hospital support can be slightly risky. One birth center about 2 hours from me that will vba2c at the birth center as they are walking distance from a large hospital. BUT you CAN do it it will just take some research on your part to find the best provider for you.. I can tell you with my experience and belief, I think each pregnancy and it's blessings/challenges independent of each other. The reason for my c section was more convenience on the OB part but he labeled me as not having a large enough pelvis. Funny enough my second born was only .02 ounces smaller but has same exact other measurements and he came out just fine (my midwife even said OH you have plenty of room.) Though the actual pushing part was long..it was about 2 1/2 hours... the entire birth was about 5 hours from the very first contraction to his head being delivered. I was so thankful I chose a midwife because I did not trust that an OB or the hospital would be patient with me in pushing and in various positions. Which I had to. And I eventually gave birth on my side because that was the most comfortable for me.. Which I don't believe was hospital rules. I had to push on my back. And for me NOT the best position. I did get to a part with pushing that I cried and looked at my midwives and said "is he ever going to come out, what is wrong with me". Which was just fear from my previous birth. They were so patient and kind and loving through the whole things.

    With all that said..you can find the right provider for vba2c. In fact we have a mom in our DD group MamaToe88 / JEssie that is going for vba2c. She found a very friendly OB and had to switch up hospitals. But she is going to get to go for it!! I'm so excited for her. I have another friend local that is attempting a vba3c. So it can be done. With the right staff and hospital. Unless your in a super homebirth/birth center friendly state that will allow you to try at home. But start your research BEFORE you get pregnant. As it may take some time to gather your previous Post OP reports and find the right provider. We have a very natural friendly hospital (it's a university hospital so they are a teaching hospital and are open to many more things then the other ones around here.) and they have midwives that will do vba2c in the hosptial. As well as OB's that will do vba2c.

    I can give you many more pointers that helped me if you need. Just PM me. I also have my birth story and I would be willing to share it with you if you PM me your email address.

    Best of hopes for a beautiful birth for you!
    Thank you so much!!! My first came via emergency C-section at 39 weeks and since my second one came only 15 months later I didn't have a choice on a VBAC (around here) because they have to be at last 18 months apart. I think my OB would let me try if the hospital would allow it. We're (I work at the hospital) just a small community hospital with no NICU or surgeon on site 24/7 so they don't allow vbacs at all. I can go to another hospital but I'll have to pay for delivery as opposed to getting it free but I'm willing to do that for the experience.

    I would love to hear your story!! If I can figure out how to PM you, I will.
    Hollie(32) & DH- Ken(33)DD1- Autumn DD2- Raegan



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    Quote Originally Posted by buki919 View Post
    Thank you so much!!! My first came via emergency C-section at 39 weeks and since my second one came only 15 months later I didn't have a choice on a VBAC (around here) because they have to be at last 18 months apart. I think my OB would let me try if the hospital would allow it. We're (I work at the hospital) just a small community hospital with no NICU or surgeon on site 24/7 so they don't allow vbacs at all. I can go to another hospital but I'll have to pay for delivery as opposed to getting it free but I'm willing to do that for the experience.

    I would love to hear your story!! If I can figure out how to PM you, I will.
    Hugs. We paid out of pocket for our homebirths to. But for me it has been worth it. I highly suggest you having a doula that has experience with vbac if you are doing a hospital birth. The best thing you can do is labor at home for as long as you can. And a doula can help you with that. I will be stalking your pregnancy when it happens. . We go for my ultrasound in a week and as long as the placenta is not covering my scar and baby is healthy r we are OK for another hone birth. So many factors in pregnancy to consider as a vbac. Its so frustrating.

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