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    So I had an appointment this morning with my baby doctor. In this office he is the only OB. When I started going to him (based on several recommendations) I thought that I would like having the same person each time. However, I have never had a "connection" with him or the office. I thought that I could get past that as long as the baby's (and my) health was fine and everything went well.

    Today, I don't know if it's just hormones or what, but I am thinking of switching doctors. I'm almost 26 weeks. How does everyone feel about switching doctors this late in the pregnancy?

    Okay, my issues... today it was about time. I had an appointment at 10:40. I got there (via 45 min bus ride) at 10:10. I sat in the lobby until 11:00 and didn't see the doctor until 11:37. That was nearly AN HOUR after my appointment time. And I spent a grand total of FIVE mins talking to him! During which time he said he wanted to send me for another 1 hour sugar test because they first one was done "kind of early"... YOU were the one that sent me to get it done! You know how far along I am/was.... if it was "kind of early" then why not just have me wait?? I'm not having a problem with the testing, that's fine. I have a problem with the redundancy of my visits. EVERY visit I have had with him, with the exception of ONE, he has asked about my previous pregnancy and 'what happened'? Please, for the love of my emotions READ YOUR NOTES. I hate trying to be positive with this baby and him continually asking about my "fetal demise". I realize you are a doctor and are being clinical, but I as someone emotional attached to that "fetus", hate hearing that! Furthermore, on my last visit he said that "due to the fetal demise, we're going to want to start seeing you every day" Um... WHAT?! I know around this time we bump up the visits but I'm not coming up here EVERY-DAY because "we" don't know what happened! "We" DO know what happened! and when I told him for the um-tenth time that it was an umbilical cord issue, he said "Oh, well, since we know what happened, nevermind" Are you Effing kidding me?! **Ladies, please... IF I am over-reacting to this please set me straight!** Also, even if I hadn't known... what does me coming everyday do? You aren't giving me another ultrasound until I'm 35 weeks. So.... what?!

    I really wish I was able to stay with my doctors from my previous pregnancy but because of all that happened their office considers me high risk and they don't take high risk patients.

    I really don't know what to do. I hate the idea of bouncing around to more doctors (at which case I have to go over everything all over again - but hopefully only once) and I also feel like I am just having one of those days where the wind blowing the wrong direction will put me in a cranky mood. Then again, if I am having 'one of those days' every time I go to the dr office then that should answer my question, no?

    Ok, so lay it on me... am I over reacting or should I switch? and has anyone else switched doctors at this stage before?

    Thank you for listening to me vent too... <3

    Oh... and he never asks me if I have questions.. so it's up to me and my "great prego memory" to remember 1) THAT I have a question and 2) what it actually is. I always leave the office remembering something I forgot to ask. And I never get call backs when I do call the office with questions later.
    Me: Heather {28}, DH: Tahee {30}, & Baby Boy: Carter {born July 2, 2014}... makes three

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    I don't think it's too late to switch at all and with your experience I probably would start looking around for a new Dr too. He doesn't really seem like he cares enough to do basic things to make you feel comfortable, which whether doctors like it or not, they should do.

    However I will say that you should write down your questions as you think of them and take the list with you. I never remember my questions either and I had to start doing this.

    Gotta get the best care you can, doesn't sound like this is the guy.
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    Its never too late to switch Drs... Although I have heard of some offices that have so many moms due in a month, so they don't accept more patients due at that time (so start calling/looking now). I don't think your over reacting, but I think that is pretty normal for a lot of OBs to provide care that way, the 3 I saw during my first pregnancy were all just like you explained. That is one of my main reasons I refuse to see OBs, especially since I've always been low risk. Midwives are so different. One doesn't even need to plan a homebirth to receive midwifery care... You can sometimes find ones who deliver at hospitals. But the difference is huge.
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    Quote Originally Posted by caligirl07 View Post
    Its never too late to switch Drs... Although I have heard of some offices that have so many moms due in a month, so they don't accept more patients due at that time (so start calling/looking now). I don't think your over reacting, but I think that is pretty normal for a lot of OBs to provide care that way, the 3 I saw during my first pregnancy were all just like you explained. That is one of my main reasons I refuse to see OBs, especially since I've always been low risk. Midwives are so different. One doesn't even need to plan a homebirth to receive midwifery care... You can sometimes find ones who deliver at hospitals. But the difference is huge.
    This!! I see the midwives at my doctor's office. I just don't always feel like making the distinction when I'm chatting about it so I usually say doctor.
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    Stepping in to reply. I switched doctors at 26 weeks when pregnant to Cody after the doctor failed to help me with a yeast infection problem among
    many other problems. There still is time left and you have every right to switch.
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    Thank you all! Natalie, I do usually write them down but this visit I just switched phones and didn't have my notes on the new phone. :/ so that was my own mistake but still being prompted would have been nice.

    Katie, I don't know if my insurance would let me see a midwife...? I'll have to look into that also. But it does sounds like a better option.

    That was another thing that was bothering me about my visit, whenever I go in there is hardly ever anyone there! There are only 4 rooms in the back and if he's spending roughly the same amount of time with each person, how is it taking so long to be seen or why I have to wait? It's bothersome... but I appreciate you guys' input and reassurance that I'm not being overly sensitive about all of it. I am going to start looking for another office today!

    Thank you everyone.
    Me: Heather {28}, DH: Tahee {30}, & Baby Boy: Carter {born July 2, 2014}... makes three

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    Quote Originally Posted by Myssi View Post
    Katie, I don't know if my insurance would let me see a midwife...? I'll have to look into that also. But it does sounds like a better option.
    Just wanted to reply to this part. If the midwife is part of a doctor's office, like mine are, then your insurance will cover it. It gets billed as one of the OBs or from the practice.
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    Okay, that is good to know. I will ask if there are any midwives associated with them when I am calling offices.

    Thank you!
    Me: Heather {28}, DH: Tahee {30}, & Baby Boy: Carter {born July 2, 2014}... makes three

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    I forgot to mention, make sure the doctor's office is covered by your insurance first, otherwise no one from there will be covered.
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    Maybe touch base with your old OB office and explain your current situation? I don't know if that's an option or not, but sometimes people will make exceptions when you're in a bad situation.

    I would be totally upset about this OB's behavior, also. Ugh. Repeatedly asking you about your loss is just NOT acceptable.

    I hope you find an awesome practice to go to!
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    I'm so sorry you're having problems, but I feel you! I'm waiting for a call back from the Practice Manager at my OB about my last appt. I went to my local OB for staple removal from my surgery. Now, I did not have surgery here locally, they referred me to a specialist in a larger town, but my staples could come out here. The nurse comes in and takes vitals and says When was your last period, I said October, and she said you haven't had one since? Now, granted, I had a fibroid removed, sure that could cause issues with your cycle, but then I realized, she had no clue I was pregnant!!! I said yeah, surgery at 20 weeks sucks, to which she flipped out and said OMG you're pregnant, I guess I need to get Fetal Heart tones... Yeah, ya think!! She hadn't even read my chart! The Dr came in, didn't realize I had been being seen at the office previously and asked if I was going to transfer all my OB records here.. I said, I've been coming here!!!! It's ridiculous!!!

    So no, I think if you're not comfortable, find somewhere you are, because I'm getting ready to lay down the law, they WILL monitor my fibroid I still have at least monthly, because it could cause more complications during labor. If they don't like it, I'm looking elsewhere!
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    Wow, Jessica! I probably would have just walked out right there!

    I don't understand how you can have any business/practice and not read people's files! I work for a school (hair and massage) and the students here are better at reading the notes on a client to make sure their HAIR COLOR is the right formula than some of the doctors that we are trusting with our children's health care! It's ridiculous!

    Just as an update, I did call around to some other doctors that accept my insurance. I am waiting to hear back from one that needed to review my hospital file to see if they consider me high risk or not. One place that I was really excited for isn't accepting transfer patients at this time or new patients until end of April. Hopefully I will get some good news later today.
    Me: Heather {28}, DH: Tahee {30}, & Baby Boy: Carter {born July 2, 2014}... makes three

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    I would switch if I were you. And in fact I did, and I switched to a midwife that delivers in a baby friendly hospital. I would not do another glucose test either. Glucose tests are VERY hard you you and the baby to begin with. Such bull**** that the doctor is NOT reading you chart/file. HUGE red flag IMHO... I mean if they know there are problems but are to lazy to read about what caused them and do extra research and give you special attention based on your specific needs why/ what the hell are they doing? Just collecting money. It seems like just another case of OB doctors just going through the motions and putting you through the same cookie cutter process of maturity set up 40 years ago. It is BS. You want someone who cares about you and your baby and what is best for both of you based on the newest studies and research. I agree find a midwife in a clinic or office. They will be covered be your insurance for sure. And they will get to know you and care for you. They will definatly be more sensitive then that doctor with his head up his butt.
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    Mariah, Thank you, I absolutely agree. I am definitely switching. I've called some other offices but I am still waiting to hear back from one. I hope that the delay is due to them being able to obtain my information rather than a sign of how the office returns calls. I really hope I find someone soon!
    Me: Heather {28}, DH: Tahee {30}, & Baby Boy: Carter {born July 2, 2014}... makes three

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    YAY!!! I have an appointment with the new doctor on the 9th! They reviewed my hospital records and said that I am fine to come in there. Just have to get my records from the other "doctor" and I am good to go!

    Thank you all for the insight and support (& letting me know that I'm not just hormonal, impatient and over-reacting!).
    Me: Heather {28}, DH: Tahee {30}, & Baby Boy: Carter {born July 2, 2014}... makes three

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    Just an update.... I couldn't get in with another doctor before my appointment with my current OB so I kept my scheduled appointment with him. Now, this visit was soooo very different. I did have to wait past my appointment time, but not nearly as long. He still wants me to do the sugar test (because with previous preg they had me listed as having gest diabetes - which is why he tested early in this preg & now wants to test again). Explaining his reasoning behind it made me a little more understanding. He did spend more time with me though and actually asked if I had questions this time. I'm now to the point where I am going to him every two weeks. He did ask (again) what happened with the previous pregnancy and that irritated me but I just calmly responded. Anyhow, now I am going to be going to the hospital twice a week (until I deliver) to do a non-stress test. So that we can monitor both my blood pressure - which he says is slowly getting higher - and also the baby's movement and the oxygen levels. I'm not thrilled about having SO many visits but I am happy that the baby is getting a little more attention and being monitored more. I don't think I over-reacted with the last visit but this visit did make me feel a little more comfortable staying, if not, just for a little longer.
    Me: Heather {28}, DH: Tahee {30}, & Baby Boy: Carter {born July 2, 2014}... makes three

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    Oh, and the appointment that I had scheduled with new doc on the 9th didn't happen bc once they did get my file, my current doc had recorded the times when my bp was slightly high (even when we re did it) so they considered high bp to be a risk factor and wouldn't see me.
    Me: Heather {28}, DH: Tahee {30}, & Baby Boy: Carter {born July 2, 2014}... makes three

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    I'm glad the old doctor was better this time. How frustrating! I'm so sorry about the new doctor not working out... Best of luck to you!



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    My ob of 6 years has become somewhat sloppy. She didn't pay attention to my thyroid and said it was OK at first and now she suddenly realised my fasting test for blood sugar was a bit high - 1.5 months after I had it! I would change an ob but nowhere to go.
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