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    I told my kids and my dad today, and my sil said that mil got her flowers today too . SO, the word is out! All that's left is the fb announcement . I found the hb with the doppler so my youngest 5 kiddos could hear it...they were totally mesmerized, it was so precious . All of their questions and comments were so cute...too many to write them out here, but I had to keep from laughing because they were totally sincere .

    The only tough part is with my adopted ds...he knows he's the only one who wasn't "in my belly" or "nursed". I think that's hard for him sometimes (he mentions it occasionally) . I need to really focus on him throughout my pg I think...so he knows being my baby isn't dependent on growing in my belly .
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    That's awesome Kelly!

    Sounds like you know exactly what your son needs.... My kids always ask if they drank from my "booboos" (literally have no idea where this word came from but it has stuck) too like Preston does. So yes, extra attention will probably help him feel secure.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kellyowens View Post
    The only tough part is with my adopted ds...he knows he's the only one who wasn't "in my belly" or "nursed". I think that's hard for him sometimes (he mentions it occasionally) . I need to really focus on him throughout my pg I think...so he knows being my baby isn't dependent on growing in my belly .
    How old is he? That's a tough one to know how to handle, I think ... and also totally dependent on his age and understanding. The way I look at it, he has two mommies who love/loved him very much. I think about all of the stuff you go through with pregnancy and to go through all of that and then give up your child because you know, in your heart, that is going to be the best thing for them??? Wow, what a sacrifice ... and I can't help but think that sacrifice takes A LOT of love. And then to be adopted into a family and receive all that love from them, wow! Having a birth mother and a mother makes him special in ways that your kids won't experience. It's true he missed out on a short time with you and didn't get nursed, but WOW, he got a lot!!

    Maybe you could even disclose some of the not so great parts of pregnancy so that he understands the good and the bad? Again, age appropriate.
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    Dorcas...he is 6.5 . It's actually a trickier situation because his bio mom's parental right's were terminated . She was picked up for drug possession when she was around 36wks pregnant, placed in rehab, and was transported to the hospital for an emergency c-section shortly after. DS went from the hospital where he endured horrible drug withdrawal symptoms (she was a cocaine/heroin user) and was immediately placed in a foster home where he stayed until he was placed with us when he was 22months. His bio mom only saw him twice when he was around 9 months old despite dhs trying to contact her repeatedly for visitation. She went back to jail for drug possession shortly after that visit and her rights were terminated (her sentence was 18 months). His bio dad's identity is completely unknown.

    He knows his bio mom's first name, that he was in her belly, and that she couldn't take care of him so he went to "Grandma J's" (his foster mom) who loved him and cared for him until God brought us together . He has asked why his bio mom couldn't take care of him so we talked a little bit about how sometimes people get addicted to drugs, that it was unsafe for him, and how it's a good thing he was able to be at Grandma J's and now with us so "K" could get the help she needs. He knows she's doing better now and that he has a younger half brother which he thinks is kind of cool .

    Anyway, it's a lot for a little kid to process and it's hard for me sometimes to know how much of what to share with him. He always seems fine with the info, but does get quiet and pensive afterwards. I just hope he feels secure in our love for him as he works it all out. I'm sure this is just the tip of the ice-berg and the years will bring a lot more questions as he grows emotionally and wants to understand.
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    Wow, Kelly, that is a very complex situation.

    I think being open to the conversation is the most important thing and it sounds like you're doing a great job with that. So many times, as parents, we have no idea if we're saying the right thing or not. I try to trust in their ability to filter through what they can deal with and filter out what they can't.

    The decisions people make with their lives are sometimes completely unfathomable, and certainly that is the case with DS's bio mom. It's hard to try to "make sense" of something for a 6.5 year old when it doesn't make sense to us as adults.

    I know it would just break your heart to adopt another baby so that this DS doesn't feel completely left out.
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    Quote Originally Posted by khadijavye View Post
    Wow, Kelly, that is a very complex situation.

    I think being open to the conversation is the most important thing and it sounds like you're doing a great job with that. So many times, as parents, we have no idea if we're saying the right thing or not. I try to trust in their ability to filter through what they can deal with and filter out what they can't.

    The decisions people make with their lives are sometimes completely unfathomable, and certainly that is the case with DS's bio mom. It's hard to try to "make sense" of something for a 6.5 year old when it doesn't make sense to us as adults.

    I know it would just break your heart to adopt another baby so that this DS doesn't feel completely left out.
    LOL, right?!? I'm hoping when this baby is about 5yrs old to start the adoption process again. DS will be almost 12 and I think it would be a really really good time for him to see how the process works so it doesn't seem so foreign to him (he obviously doesn't remember anything about his time in foster care or the adoption process)...hopefully it will help him better understand that part of his own life and normalize it . A sib group of 2 would be perfect in my opinion and we'd complete our family with an even dozen (unless of course there's a sib group of 3 out there for us...we'd "settle" for a baker's dozen ) .
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    Wow Kelly I think your doing great by keeping open communication. I just can't help but think these poor children. He is in a better place thanks to you for adopting him. You are blessed and a great person.

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    13wks!! Hello 2nd tri!!!!

    Mocha is all snuggled up on my right side where I think my placenta is implanted because it's really hard to hear anything but whooshing, lol, but I finally found her and she sounded perfect . I had some sharp RLP on the right since last night too which makes sense now .

    I woke up with brown spotting and the mild crampiness that goes along with it, it's a bummer, but 72hrs without bleeding/spotting was awesome ...it gives me hope that maybe it will gradually resolve .

    I'm feeling a little bit of anxiety this weekend...our son Joash delivered at 15wks but he had no hb at 13wks+2 (he sounded fine at 13wks+1). I'm looking forward to making it to Monday (13wks+2) and hearing Mocha's precious hb .

    FB announcing in 24hrs !

    No big plans this weekend...just taking it easy at home .
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    it's tough. All the small steps (Or days) forward are like mini triumphs! I have faith in your Mocha! She's there to stay for another 6ish months! I just have a feeling!

    So exciting to announce!

    This is how I expect your FB friends to look tomorrow when they log on

    I hope you shock the crap out of them and feel AMAZING about it!!!!


    second tri!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Brittany_Dawn View Post
    it's tough. All the small steps (Or days) forward are like mini triumphs! I have faith in your Mocha! She's there to stay for another 6ish months! I just have a feeling!

    So exciting to announce!

    This is how I expect your FB friends to look tomorrow when they log on

    I hope you shock the crap out of them and feel AMAZING about it!!!!



    second tri!
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    Second Tri!!

    Can't wait to see your reveal tomorrow!!!
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    Yay for 2nd trimester !!! I can't wait to see everyone's reactions tomorrow when you make your announcement. I'm so excited for you.

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    I'm not in Facebook anymore but so excited about your reveal. Enjoy.
    I haven't seen a new belly pic from you I don't think.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AJHMommy View Post
    I'm not in Facebook anymore but so excited about your reveal. Enjoy.
    I haven't seen a new belly pic from you I don't think.
    Hi Ashlee!!! I hope you keep in touch here !!

    Nope, no updated belly pic yet...no changes since then . I'm thinking in another 3wks I'll take a pic...I should have a bit of a bump by then
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    Yay for 13 weeks! Yay for your kiddos being excited! Yay for announcing!

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    Yay to 13 Weeks! Boy, do I want to see the comments under your announcement! With #3 I was told : have you no self control? You need to invest in some condoms! You or your husband need to do a snip-snip! What, another one ? Are you competing with so and so (who has 4 kids)? - not under announcement but still lol most were supportive. Some said good luck or I'm brave.
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    The cat is out of the bag and the beans have been spilled ...so far nothing but lots of love and support

    More than anything I love that my younger kids know because they love talking about it . My 4yr old keeps looking down my shirt and asking if the baby is "coming out yet" . My 6.5 ds asked "how are they going to get the baby out?" (lol, that's always a fun one ). My 7yr old dd read the "Book of Knowledge" which has a section on pg and childbirth so she's been spouting all sorts of random facts about it (a future medical professional, perhaps??) .

    Anyway, it's been fun sharing my pg with them .
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    Congratulations!!! Such a great milestone!!!! How did you announce it on FB?!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lizamay View Post
    Congratulations!!! Such a great milestone!!!! How did you announce it on FB?!
    I posted it here earlier, but I'll put it here too :
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    I love it!!! So cute!!!!
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    Yay! Congrats on the announcement! I like the black.
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    13wks+2...we made it !!! I was induced and delivered Joash at 15wks, but his heart had stopped by 13wks+2 despite hearing it the day before . It is just one of those milestones I'm really thankful to get beyond...Mocha sounded perfect this morning and is giving me all sorts of love taps this morning to reassure me she's fine !

    I don't feel quite as anxious about getting beyond my latest loss. I honestly think it was due to my thyroid. I had just been diagnosed with Hashimoto's after a year and a half of hypoT symptoms and started treatment. I was very hyperthyroid because of the med I was on (my pcp managed my thyroid while I waited the 3months for my appt to see the specialist). When I finally got in to see the endo my blood pressure and pulse were so high she wanted to put me on beta-blockers until my levels normalized, but I refused because I was pg (it was already too late, I just didn't know it yet ).

    Anyway, the good news is that I'm beyond all of my losses but one and that feels pretty amazing !!!!

    I'm looking forward to my next OB appt in a week !
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    It is SOOO reassuring to get past those loss milestones!! I am so happy for you, Kelly!!
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    That is great news!! I'm glad you have amazing care and are able to take care of yourself "properly" now!! I hope everything continues to progress perfectly.
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    3months as of yesterday!!

    I can't believe I'll be 14wks tomorrow, eek !!!!!

    I'm home from the hospital now and used my doppler right away...Mocha sounds perfect ! In fact, she was moving so much it was hard to get a count...definitely a good sign all is well *sigh of relief*!!!

    I'm requesting an u/s at my appt Monday for sure...after all we've been through this week I want to *see* that my little passenger is and her surrounding transport structures are all normal (fluid volume, placenta, etc...). I'm pretty sure my OB will be accommodating because of my history.
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    Glad you are home. Did they ever figure out what was causing all of the issues?
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    Quote Originally Posted by elizabeth8503 View Post
    Glad you are home. Did they ever figure out what was causing all of the issues?
    Asthma was causing the initial issues, but they're not entirely sure yet why my heart rate went up. The dr said he feels it may be my thyroid because my Tsh was 0.59, which is still in range and not a bad number for me (years ago, my endo was okay with my Tsh at a 0.3 which was below the range). I don't feel hyperT at all and my BP is fine so I really disagree. Especially since my heart rate was fine the day before and then the next day it wasn't. Personally, I think it was the albuterol breathing treatment plus the symbicort that caused the issue...that was the only thing that had changed. They did give me more fluids in case I was dehydrated, but my pee was clear, BP was fine, and temp was good so I don't think that was a contributing factor either. After 24hrs without a breathing treatment and only the symbicort and flonase...my heart rate had come down from 145-150 while walking to 115-120 (resting went from 120s down to the 80s).
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    for going home!!
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    So glad your home!!!!

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    albuterol can raise your heart rate....as for the symbicort, I don't recall if that was a side effect. I am more familiar with the hypo rather than hyper thyroid, but I am glad you are home and that the LO is doing good so far. I would definitely follow up with your primary care doc, and your OB, and maybe even request a pulmologist, or a specialist for your asthma....
    Hope you continue to feel better.
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