Sadly we lost another member of the family. No one passed on. However Grants first born daughter decided to not be a part of the family anymore. It is very sad, but she is not really family. She may be blood. But she doesn't give a shi-poop about anything. Losing her grandparents, her soon to be born sister, none of those things matter to her. It is heartbreaking. But she cares more about guns and politics. To us family has always meant more then inanimate objects and politics. Who really cares! family is family! right? Now... I don't really give a flying horse pucky about guns really. You can like them or not. I don't really care either way. everyone has a right to their opinion after all. But there is skewed lines of logic on both sides of the argument that makes my blood boil. I will point out rotten logic every time. I just cannot help myself. So, his daughter is always going on and on about guns. She loves them. Okay cool whatever. But then she posts horrible arguments that are not really arguments to begin with. I mean really... has anyone seriously ever thought a gun came to life loaded itself, went down to a school and went on a massive shooting spree? NO! you know why that is ridiculous. No one thinks that "guns" by themselves are killers. Anyone on the other side that says so is stupid too. And I have always said so. No matter what side of the gun debate you are on there is foul logic on both ends. So I say so... and I say what we really need is a real line of communication on both sides without this terrible illogical logic and falsehoods flying back and forth and we could have some real breakthroughs. COme together and get some compromises going for the good of all. There is always room for improvement and things can always be better. And what I get back is all of DH's EX's friends jumping all over my ass telling me how unsupportive we are and how right DDI is. WTH! Am I not allowed to try and teach my daughter in law logic, critical thinking and care for real intelligent communication! I got sick of it. They were not the kind of people who could handle a real intelligent line of communication. Which is sad. But no big deal, whatever. I just deleted my comments. Not wanting to get into it when DH's Mom had just passed. And then it occurred to me that she had not commented or called after the loss. So I posted on her wall that she must not have seen but we had the loss of her Grandmother and we all need to stick together in these sad times. We are there for her *hugs*. And then she deleted both of us and got married. It is obvious that she does not care. But it still hurts. FOr years and years we fought to have her in our life. And her mom filled her with lies. DDI is under the impression that we wanted nothing to do with her and DH left her when she was small. In fact it was quite the opposite. Her mom took her all the way to Texas when we all lived in the same city in California. Still we tried to work out summer visits or ANY visits. The Ex always said no. I am not even sure it was legal what she did. We should have pushed harder. But every time we tried even legally to get something done we would always end up at a dead end road. It was defeating and depressing. DH's Ex really wanted to hurt him. And she has won. It is not ddi fault I guess. But she is an adult. And I had higher hopes that she could see though all the BS now. Especially with all the proof we have. But no. DH will never be "her father", not in her eyes. And she chooses to believe all the lies. Heartbreaking.