My mom called today...not to see how I am doing but to try and pressure me to get induced. Yep, that's right. She's never exactly been on board with me seeing midwives over OBs and considered my desire to go natural as just another of my quirks.
I tried explaining to her that we're both healthy and closely monitored and there's no reason consider that right now. That I didn't want to risk a failed induction and c-section just because I'm over my due date (1 day btw...1!). She also said she never herd of a failed induction---um, ok.
And she tried bring up meconium aspiration--not a totally invalid argument--except that it happens in less than 5% of cases, and not usually until after the water breaks or there is fetal distress. Neither of which apply to me at this time. Not to mention that with good immediate medical care, babies are rarely seriously injured by it.
Every argument she had, I had a fact to support my decision and her only response was "well...."
Eventually she gave up and pulled the "I'm a nurse and I've delivered 3 babies" card---SO UNFAIR. #1 she was NICU nurse nearly 30 years ago...I think some things have changed since then. #2 How does my being a FTM mean that I'm incapable of making solid medical decisions for me and my child?
I was so mad. She thinks that I'm just so hell bent on getting my way that I might actually endanger my child to get it. I'm not just blindly walking around thinking everything will be perfectly fine and nothing bad can happen.
Thank goodness for my husband who completely supports my decisions. Just yesterday I gave him the "people might say things to scare you" talk and he kindly reminded me of that. And also said that I'm the mom and I'm in charge and I have good care so not to let her upset me. He also said something close to put your Mommy Armor on and get ready to fight for what you believe in or you aren't going to make it.
I have been expecting to defend my beliefs, I was just shocked and rather hurt that I had to do it with my own mother.