We found out last night that the birth mom changed her mind and wants to raise her son. We have the oldest of hers and the father of the second is being raised by the father. We're devastated. For 8 months she's been telling us she's sure this is what she wants. We had a shower scheduled for this Sunday and have spent a fortune getting ready. My mom is retiring and moving to take care of him when I went back to work. I have no idea how to tell DD.