May I ask why you don't want to deliver in a hospital? I gave birth in one with my first so I'm no help with the home birth advice, but if you end up being forced to deliver at a hospital, maybe I can help alleviate some fears/concerns about deliveries there.
I also commented on your other thread, but I didn't want to offer this for fear of retaliation from some of the other ladies that I'm not being supportive. I do mean to offer comfort, so I apologize if I don't come across as encouraging, that is not my intention at all!
Rae (27), DH (26), Lucas (6/3/12), Amelia (12/13/13)