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    Many of us have experienced the sudden loss of a child during the stages of pregnancy. Those of us replying in this thread want to share our emotional and physical miscarriage experiences to serve as a resource for other women facing similar heartbreaking situations.

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    Of my 9 losses all but two were natural...I was from 4.5wks-10wks along. Some were like a heavy period...they started and resolved within a week but most of them took 2-7wks for my hcg to return to normal and for the bleeding to resolve. Twice I went on BC for 6months to get the bleeding to stop. With a couple my water broke and I delivered a small placenta but there was never a discernible baby...probably passed earlier or didn't develop enough.

    I was induced with both of my 2nd tri losses. My dr wanted to do a D&E with my first but I had seen my baby on u/s...I wanted to hold him. It made me sick to think of his little body being violently "extracted" out of me. With my 2nd he offered me misoprostol (cytotec) but dh said absolutely not because of my tendency to hemorrhage.

    They inserted laminaria rods 24hrs before the induction with cervidil (prostaglandin e2). With the 2nd dose of cervidil I became extremely ill...felt like I had the flu: chills, uncontrollable shaking, vomiting, diarrhea, horrific body pain (had to take short-shallow breaths because it was so painful to breathe). All while having intense, regular contrx. My water broke and the babies delivered fine but their placentas didn't so the dr had to remove them manually (hemorrhaged both times). They gave me nubain but it did absolutely nothing...it was the worst pain I have ever experienced. I was able to bring them home to bury them. My milk came in with both of them...broke my heart.

    I was very alone through all of my losses. I still ache for my little ones...my losses were from 15yrs-4.5yrs ago.

    (((Hugs))), love, and prayers to everyone who has experienced pg loss...no one should have to have their heart broken like this !

    Eta...Cindy's post reminded me that they gave me pitocin in my iv and a methergine shot for the bleeding after my 2nd tri deliveries. They also sent me home with 3 days worth of methergine. They offered me a prescription for pain meds...I declined but asked for sleep meds which they agreed to. I just wanted to sleep...and that's about all I did for the first few days afterwards.
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    I have all forms of early miscarriage. I have naturally passed, had a D&C and have taken cytotec. Out of the 3 I prefer natural because it the most natural but after that I would do a D&C. NEVER AGAIN will I take cytotec.

    My loss with the cytotec began similar to Lucy's I took 2 pills and then 24hrs later took another 2 pills. About 3 hrs after beginning the pills I began to experience cramps, these were what the OB told me to expect but what she didn't say was that they would gradually increase in level. In 6 hours I was experiencing contractions. These were not like easy contractions, these were like my pitocin induced contractions they began in my back and came all whe way to my pelvis making it feel like it was splitting in 2. I was not expecting it. I treated the whole thing like I was in labor and did all of my breathing and pain relieve techniques on top of taking the loratabs my OB prescribed. I didn't think I would need them because I had given birth before and had natural miscarriages but nothing like this. This felt so unnatural and horrifying. By hour 12 I was in such debilitating pain I could not move. Contractions came every 1-2 min and were lasting 30-45 seconds each. There was no way I could sleep in-between or find rest. I was lucky to breathe. This went on for 22 hours when I finally began passing clots. I took the 2nd dose and the contractions continued and would cause me to vomit as they came and went. I got dehydrated from not being able to eat or drink. After hour 36 things were finally dying down and I was able to rehydrate and eat again but I was still getting sporadic contractions. This went on for about 3 or 4 more days. It finally went down to cramps that last another week and a half. After all of this it took me another month to be able to have intercourse again with my husband because my cervix felt so tender and there were times it was so tender it would hurt to walk right after enduring this unnatural birth of my passed baby. My recovery time after this was almost 8 weeks where as after my natural and D&C losses it was only a couple weeks. My OB said this was a normal outcome with the pill. Some get it worse then others and my was on the bad end. After Cytotec AF returned 10 weeks later


    My D&C loss was relatively easy. I had some cramping and spotting prior to but still opted to have a D&C just to give my uterus a clean slate so to speak. I was taken in put under and within a hour I woke up in recovery. She said there may be some bleeding after but it should clear up in a few days. I did get some cramping and minor bleeding and it was done in 36 hrs. I was up and going right after but was a bit sluggish. All pains were managed by tylenol. I felt closure a lot quicker because I knew they had it all. AF returned 5 weeks later. No lasting pains or anything.

    My natural losses were preferred. They began like a normal AF and got just a bit stronger then my AF cramps were. I did have to take more tylenol then normal but I preferred that over high drugs. My longest one I bleed for 2 weeks but then it was done and I was able to return to normal life in a few days. AF would return 4-6 weeks after a natural loss depending on how long I was m/c and how far along I was. Though it took me longer to heal and find closure it felt like the m/c gave me time to mourn my loss as I was experiencing it verses just feeling empty.

    I hope this helps others understand what can happen when taking Cytotec, getting a D&C or experiencing a natural loss and to all who have lost. I have lost 10 little ones and each one was more difficult then the last but the Cytotec was the worst experience of them all.

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    I've had early and 2nd Trimester losses. The early one's, I passed myself. The 1st, 2nd trimester loss, I was admitted into the hospital. They started giving me the Cytotec at 9pm. I had to take 1 every 3 hours. At 6am, the following morning, my doctor(well not MY dr. Mine was out of the office. ) came in to check on me. I was having some cramping but not enough to get things moving. So, he put 2 Cytotec in me vaginally. After about 30 minutes, I started having stronger contractions. Those lasted about 2 hours and began to wear off. My dr came back and inserted 4 vaginally and HOLY CRAP! That did the job. I started having awful contractions a minute apart. I dealt with it for an hour and then asked for some pain meds. They brought me Morphine, which helped with the pain, but then I began vomiting. UGH! I labored for another 45 minutes and my sweet little Samual was born. The most perfect little creation I'd ever seen! Anyway, I laid in the hospital bed and waited for the placenta to be delivered. After the stupid dr dug inside me for what seemed like forever, I began hemmoraging. They rushed me into surgery to do a D&E to get the leftover placenta. I took shots and pills for the rest of that day and that night to keep the bleeding at bay.

    My 2nd, 2nd trimester loss was a lot like the 1st. Except I refused to be admitted the night before. I stayed home and took the Cytotec around the clock, like I'd done the 1st time. I had to be at the hospital at 6 am and they started the Cytotec vaginally again. This time it was MY dr, thank GOD!!! He made me take pain meds from the beginning and also gave me something for my nerves. I was squalling uncontrollably, and he nor my dh could take it. So Josh asked him to give me something, which he did. I love my dr, by the way!!! Ok, after the 1st dose of Cytotec vag, I began having the contractions. after 4 hours, I still had not dilated any. Dr. L came back and inserted some more and just stayed with me until I gave birth. I labored another hour and my water broke. You could actually hear it break. So strange. Anyway, I told him I felt a gush of fluid, he checked me and my little Tanner was sliding out. I, just like the first time, started pouring blood and was rushed into surgery for another D&E. And started the meds to stop the bleeding like before.I don't really have a BAD experience from the Cytotec. My hemmoraging had nothing to do with the Cytotec. Yeah, it made me hurt, but that was it. I was warned of the pain it would cause before I took it and was prepared. Thankfully, I didn't have the complications others on here did from it. I am sorry you all had to deal with that. It was bad enough losing your baby, but to have added problems afterward had to be horrible.
    Missing my angels. Forever my babies. Gone but not forgotten! I will see you three again one day!!![/FONT]

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    I came here to share my personal exp. with this medication, this in no way is a professional opinion just my personal experience.

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    So many of us suffer thru a MC, and some of us pass it normal , some have a DNC some opt for medication to help the process along when our bodies fail to recognize that our babies have died in utero.
    I was told on April 13th that my baby no longer had a HB, I followed up with a specialist on the 15th and it was confirmed my baby stopped at 6.5 and no HB. Let back up by saying that at 6.1 a HB was detected. That was on April 1st. So by now my baby's HB had been gone a while and even after that my body failed to start the whole process on it's own, I had lab's drawn and waited, after a few more days of nothing happening i decided that I would go ahead and take the med's to start the whole physical process of what my body failed to do, so on thursday April 18th the Doctor called in Cytotec, he informed me that it was an ULCER medication and that once I took them that it should go fairly quickly and I would experience cramping once it started, he also called in some Pain medication , Lortab. He also said I might experience some diarrhea with this med and i thought ok it doesn't sound that bad.
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    I ate dinner, and took a shower got out some overnight maxi pads in preparation for what was about to happen.
    7:00 pm to 2 Cytotec pills that were 200 MCG each. There were 2 more to be taken 24 hours later( which I did NOT take). I know some have taken them vaginall as well as orally or just vaginal, my experience was to take 2 pills orally.
    9pm mild cramping started and I was advised that at the first sign of cramping to take the pain med's before it became seriously intense, so at 9 I took 1 Lortab, the bottle said 1-2 every 4-6 hours, I took 1 incase I needed to take more later and didn't want to be at my max and have to suffer thru a few more hours before taking more.
    By 10:30 I was in excruciating pain and I can tell you that I was past the point of cramping, what I was feeling was intense contractions. There is no other way to describe it, now I know every woman in her lifetime has experienced cramps, but not all may have had any exp. with what contractions feel like and certainly no male Dr. has experience with contractions nor menstrual cramps but to male Dr's the only way for them to advise us is to say oh you will experience cramping. So at 10:30 I took another pain med. at about 11:30 I had suffered thru more contractions that were hitting me every 1-2 minutes and lasting for about 45 seconds. I started spotting bright red but no actual flow. I also felt tired and sleepy and had some nausea to this I attributed to the 2nd pain med finally kicking, finally the intensity was slowing down enough for me to lay down and fall asleep. Again I believe it was the 2nd pain med that made that possible.

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    At 1:26 a.m in the morning now it's (friday) I stood up with the feeling of having to pee and as I stood up I felt something slide down onto my pad so I slowly walked to the bathroom and slowy pulled my panities down and found that the clot was lodged in my opening and not actually sitting on my pad, so I grabbed a clean pad and some TP and wiped carefully and slowly so as to catch this clot and place it on the clean pad to make sure that this was actually it, in my heart I knew it was but I needed to be sure. I place the clot on the clean pad and sure enough I was looking at my babe, it was all in tact, clear sac, bean in place attached to a huge clot. Now I took pic's of it and I did that for other reasons which I can't get into now but something told me to just do it. Once I cleaned everything up and wrapped my baby in it's pad and placed in baggie to put in fridge to take to dr's office the next morning I suddenly got violently sick, and threw up, while I was heaving in the potty I felt something else slide down, and was like omg what now, so I flushed and stood up to sit back down and as soon as I sat a huge long clot slid out and fell into the toilet, fairly confident that I had passed my baby already I did not go in to retrieve it. I cleaned up and flushed and went to bed.
    The next morning I spoke with Dr's office and they had me bring baby in to send off to make sure that I had indeed passed everything and to do lab's for my HCG level monitoring to make sure they are dropping.
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    I can't tell you what it's like to still feel pregnant at this time and yet know that you're not, now Friday passed with sporadic contractions very mild and very light bleeding more like spotting, I still felt beaten up pretty bad and groggy but nothing like the early morning hours, Saturday passed much like Friday afternoon had, but the bleeding picked up to more like a light flow. During the night and in my sleep started getting more intense cramping and finally I got up on Sunday morning with more of the contractions, I thought okay maybe I just need to go potty and so I did, no relief then it got more and more painful and these pains were coming every 3-4 minutes with severe intensity that it would stop me dead in my tracks or mid sentence, I got to the point where I threw up again and broke out in chills and hot flashes at the same time, I took 3 tylenol and waited all the while contracting, I finally called my OB's office and got an immediate call back, I explained what was happening that I was scared, and in pain and felt something was seriously wrong, it was then explained to me that now that I had started the whole process and even tho the pills were out of my system that my body was now doing on it's own what it failed to do before and that it was my body's way of getting rid of any remaining debris. The vomiting was my body's reaction to the pain I was experiencing. I was told to take the Lortab and then 2 hours later take the IBUProfen and it would be safe, Well since I took the 3 tylenol I was leary of taking the Lortab so I took 3 IBUProfen and laid in bed, at 3:21 I felt this urge to push something but what I didn't know, so I went to the bathroom and peed and nothing happened so I wiped and just as I dropped the tp in the toilet, another clot but none like I had ever seen before slid out and landed right on the tp I had just dropped so it didn't slide down into the bottom of the bowl, I panicked, so I jumped up and my Dh came in and looked, I told him not to flush and I grabbed some gloves and pulled it out took pic's so I could show my Dr. when I go back in for lab's. It appeared to be more of what looked to be the placenta, with more clear plastic film on it and then then attached to a hideously dark black clot. Amazingly enough the contractions subsided to every couple of hours. The advil seriously helped and I stayed on it the remainder of the day. I am having a light flow at this point and feeling like my uterus has been beat to h*ll. Now I also had the pregnancy cyst and it was on my right side, so now the contractions eased up only for my right ovary to start pulsating and throbbing, so I imagine my body is trying to figure out what to do with that.
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    It is now monday April 22nd and I am on day 4/5 of this process and I have mild cramping lower back pain and my right side still throbbing. I can't share any more of my experience obviously until the process finishes which I am told can take up to 2 weeks or more. I hope others who have any experience with this medication will share what they went thru, and maybe what to expect, I also hope that those who have had a DNC can share their exp. with that, I know that many women face a loss in early pregnancy or even 2nd and 3rd trimester loss, and don't know what to expect when presented with options, I know that everyone is different in what they go thru and which options they choose, but I felt that sometimes there is not enough info out there in personal experiences unless we all share so that we can as woman mentally prepare ourselves for what's to come. What sounds normal and what is not, or what we perceive as normal. I am so sorry that I have to even post here or any woman who has or may have to because the loss of a child. I rather be on the sidelines saying oh I have no clue I've never suffered a loss, as i'm sure so many of us would love to be able to say, and in a perfect world that would be true. Please share with us if you feel you can so that we may help others not knowing what to do, how to decide what is best for them, or comfort them while they go thru the process and know that something they may be experiencing or feeling is within the norm. I can't tell you how petrified I was on the first night and how much more so I was on Sunday morning when i didn't know that my body wasn't done.
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    Tuesday was much better than monday, less cramping although i did develop a super serious headache. Light bleeding and pea size tissue passing. I also got my pathology report back and it didn't tell me much more than what i already suspected as to what may have caused my loss. Today is Wednesday and I woke up to a clean pad and only spotting when I wipe, don't know if this is the end or just a day of relief.


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    well I continued to spot for an entire week, (today is Wens May 1st so from last wens till today) I have headaches on and off this past week as well, if I moved around alot or walk a lot the spotting would pick up. I went in on 4/26 and had labs, HCG still at 233 and I go back on May 3. for more lab's

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    If you made it thru all this I appreciate it and if you decide to post your story I am grateful to you as I know so many more others will be. For the record until my body finishes doing what's got to do I still have not decided which of the 2 is the lesser evil, DNC or Cytotec as I have had both, I chose to post with this particular one first because it was still fresh in my head and I didn't want to leave anything out. Not that any of us forget a loss and the trauma of it all but this one is more recent for me. to all of you
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    BIG Lucy!
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    First, big, big hugs to all of you. I am so sorry that any of us had to go through a loss, not to mention multiple losses.

    My first m/c was at 12 weeks. I was spotting brown, but not really cramping or anything. I went to the doctor the next day and the baby didnít have a HB. He or she measured at around 10 weeks. I remember feeling markedly better at 10 weeks Ė like one day a dramatic rise in my energy level. That mustíve been the day my little one passed.

    I went was sent home to wait it out; if I didnít pass the baby naturally by Thursday (this was Monday), I was going to be scheduled for a D&C. So, Thursday came, I was scheduled the nexy day for the D&C, although I was having regular contractions. Friday I went in and was bleeding heavily and in pain, but made it to the D&C. I was told the m/c was nearly complete by that point.

    My second m/c was at 7 weeks. I was feeling a searing pain in my pelvis while at church, but stopped at the store on the way home. I started spotting then. I went to the ER and the ultrasound showed my darling baby with a HB. We were so happy and thankful, but the next day, the cramping and bleeding were much worse and by 3 pm or so, I went to the doctor who couldnít see anything in my uterus. I got home and had passed the placenta and baby. We buried him or her near my fatherís grave.

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    After STCing 18 months to get DS, we decided to actively start trying again this past July. It took me a long time to wrap my head around the idea of doing all the fertility drugs again so I wanted to try on our own for awhile. Much to our surprise, we got our BFP on the very first cycle with no RE help (although I did O pretty late in the cycle). Never had any spotting. Six week ultrasound went fine. No heartbeat yet, but they thought it might be too soon since we didn't know my exact O date with such a long, wacky cycle. Went back two weeks later to find out that the baby had stopped growing just after 7 weeks and there was no heartbeat. I had a couple more ultrasounds, including a second opinion with my RE. They all said the same thing. My OB was fine waiting it out couple of weeks before doing anything- she knew I was having a hard time dealing with this loss. After talking it over with others who had pregnancy loss, I decided on a D&C.

    The D&C was on a Friday. It was done under general anesthesia at the outpatient surgical center at our local hospital by my OB. I had very little pain or discomfort afterwards. I think I spotted or had a light period for a few days afterwards. Never did have any spotting leading up to the D&C. I was almost 11 weeks along by the time I had it done. We had the baby tested, and the baby was diagnosed with Trisomy 22, which is fatal. I never would have made it out of the first trimester.

    My OB wanted me to wait at least one cycle before trying again. The D&C was in October. In December, I went back to my OB for a dull ache near my right ovary. My ovary was fine and by this point my uterine lining had grown enough that I was given the okay to induce AF if I wanted to. I also made an appointment to see my RE in January thinking tthat it was my late O and a bad egg that caused all of this. My RE ordered a saline sono to see if the D&C had left behind scar tissue on my uterus. My uterus was fine except for a small polyp. I was given the go ahead for an IUI, which turned up BFN. Our recent second IUI had also turned up BFN. I'm having an HSG this week or next to see if the D&C (or pregnancy with DS) blocked my tubes at all. Hopefully, everything turns out fine and we can proceed with another IUI.

    To date, I don't have anything negative to say about my D&C. My period is a little heavier than it used to be but it is slightly shorter in duration. I might have a different opinion if it turns out my tubes are jacked up now.

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    Well I'm very young even tho I'm married and I just had a miscarriage last week.. :,( DH and I had really been praying for a baby finally got our BFP! 3 to be exact and all on different days.. Just less than a week after I got the first BFP I woke up early in the morning around 3am feeling very crampy ( I had for days like sharp twinges but I thought it was normal seeing how it was my first pregnancy apparenly mine wasn't normal) I was cramping like I was going to start and went to the bathroom and I was bleeding 😥so I woke up my DH panicking and we prayed.. Well I didn't go back to sleep and went on to miscarry that day.. I was just barely 4 weeks along so I know it's not nearly as hard as what y'all have went thru but still my heart breaks for y'all and myself.. It doesn't hardly seem real I miss not having my baby growing inside me 😥and with Mother's Day being this weekend I'm having a hard time knowing how to feel I hope to be expecting again very soon but I can never forget my precious first baby that's in heaven

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    With my first loss, I had a D&C. I was able to deal with the emotional stuff much sooner for several reasons - there was minimal physical pain (my D&C experience mirrored GATORGrits) and I was 6 weeks along when the baby stopped growing (I had my D&C at 9 weeks when we were certain beyond any doubt). It took me about 3 months to accept what had happened and to stop torturing myself with "why".
    My second loss ended with a D&E, and I was 21 weeks along. The physical part of this, which included my interaction with cytotec, followed by my milk coming in, and then a second D&C because there was tissue that needed to be removed, was much harder. The emotional toll was heavy and the pain was acute. I took 6 weeks off work. My SO and I had just moved in - we had been living cross country and I'd moved to be with him so we could start our family together - so we had this terrible loss while trying to figure out how to live with each other. I ended up in therapy to help me sort out my feelings, my anger and my sadness. It took me about 6 months to work through all of that, and I don't think a day goes by that I don't think about the daughter we lost.
    I think it is absolutely natural to be focused on the immediate physical aspects of a loss. That is primary. I also felt robbed in a way when I was experiencing so much physical pain, that I had to put my emotions on a shelf to deal with later. While I feel like I have dealt with those emotions now (five+ years later), I can say, at least for me, the feelings never go away, they just become less acute.
    I wanted to share because I think we all have common ground that we've been unfortunate enough to have experienced, but the strength to come away from and be able to help others.
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    I am going to post my experience with taking Misoprostol. I am just going to pretty much copy and paste here what was in the thread.

    So I went for my 10 week ultrasound and appointment tues and long story short we found out our baby stopped growing at 6 weeks. There was a fetal pole and a yolk sack but that's it, no heat best, plus the gestational sack is irregular shaped, almost like an exaggerated kidney bean. My doctor and the ultrasound tech were beyond wonderful! They have both been through similar miscarriages and my doctor shared her experience with me. She explained my options...wait it out, the pill (that's what my doctor did), or d&c. She said it was 100% up to us and she explained all three options in detail when I asked her to. My baby has been gone for 4 1/2 weeks and my symptoms are still soooo strong. My nausea is horrible. I don't think my body has any idea the baby is gone. She said it could still take a couple weeks to miscarry naturally. I would prefer to do it naturally so I don't have to make a decision. My doctor said if I needed to come back for another ultrasound that was fine, they did two that day and the rational side of me knows what I saw and there was no question....but part of me (the one that's in denial) says I want to see it one more time just to make sure. For some reason I always thought when you miscarry you start bleeding right away....this waiting knowing my baby is gone but still there is torture. I just want this to all be over with. I first said I wanted to give it until Friday night and then I would do the pill but after reading people's experiences with it, it sounds brutal.

    Well I opted for the pill...I just spoke with my doctor again. I will start them tonight. I may regret it but decided with our high deductible surgery would be much more expensive. My doc though I was a great candidate for the pill and she said that she doesn't recommend them to everyone. I can't seem to stop crying today. I know the baby is gone but I am so sad that this will mean its really over and that today is the last day my baby will be physically inside me...I hate this so much!

    I put three pills in at 9:25 PM and woke up around 1:15 AM with cramps. I got up and went downstairs to eat some bread incase I decided to take the pain meds and got some water. Here is something kind of weird when I touched the sour dough bread my hands both started burning and itching. I washed them and 5 min later they were back to normal....I have no idea. I went and used the bathroom and went and laid back down. About 1:28 I felt some weird pressure so I sent and sat on the toilet (I felt kind of like I needed to have a bowl movement) As soon as I sat down there was a gush of light pink fluid. I told DH that I think my water just broke. He came in there and asked if I wanted to go ahead and take the pain meds and I decided to. The bleeding had started and I started passing a few small clots. With the first clot I wiped and there were two of the pills. I sat there until I could feel the pain meds start to kick in and then decided to see if I could lay down and rest. So I went to lay down but of course couldn't sleep so I read some stories of other ladies going through miscarriages and got up about ever 30min to sit on the toilet. Cramps with meds are around a 3, so not bad. I continue to pass clots each time. About 3:30 I
    Was laying there and my cramps felt worse (about a 4) and I felt a little more pressure so I got up and sat on the toilet and got some to to wipe and before I could there was a gush of blood and the sack fell right onto the tp. I of course started balling knowing that was my baby and my DH heard and came in. I will spare all the details of my melt down. So now I am still cramping but it is staying around a 2-3 maybe less at times with pain meds. I am not one that takes medicine unless I have to. I had natural childbirth with my DD, but this wasn't a pain I felt I wanted to experience, not that you want to experience any pain.

    It's been a couple of days and I am still having off and on mild to moderate cramping. When it annoys me to much I take a tylenol. I am still passing clots. All and all the Misoprostol was not a negative experience for me. I was really worried after reading other storied about it, but found that I thankfully didn't have that experience. If I had to do it again I would make the same decision. If you are reading this and going through a miscarriage my heart is with you. This is definitely the hardest thing I have had to deal with.
    MJ(29) - DH(34) - Married 6 Years - Angel Babies 6/13, 10/13



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    I have now had 3 losses in the past year. My first one occurred last June. I went in for my 10 week appointment and there was no heartbeat. Blighted ovum. I chose to go through it naturally and miscarried about a week later. I bled very heavily for about 8 hours and then I was done. My second miscarriage happened this past February. I was 10 weeks pregnant and started bleeding before my first physical exam. I ended up in the ER just for confirmation. I again chose to do it naturally and ended up bleeding for two months straight. It was brutal. A month later, though, I got a BFP. I was so excited but reluctantly so. My doc did 2 u/s. The 8 week u/s looked perfect. Heart was ticking away perfectly. Hormone levels looked great. I went in for my 10 week check on Monday and we were all shocked by a perfectly sized baby with no heartbeat. Something had happened in hours to days prior to the appointment. After what I went through in February and not knowing how long it would even take to begin naturally, I chose to do a d/c yesterday. I just wanted it to be over. While I don't regret it physically, mentally I am a mess today. Maybe it all happened a little too fast. Or maybe I am just having a major hormone withdrawal today. Probably both. Either way I feel like there's just so much unknown know. We have no idea why this keeps happening.



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    I am so sorry for your loss
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    My worst experience ended with a D&C which isn't bad but to me was horrible because it brought back the abortion I said I'd never have for any reasons but sometimes there are reasons... Actually after all my years of trying and mcs and one darling son I thought this one was a punishment for said abortion...I got pregnant in 4/11 and went to the doc in June... He didn't see what he expected to see and told me I got my conception date wrong...I didn't but he made me go every week till July to get my Betas done and they kept rising but nothing ever grew...I felt pregnant, looked pregnant and kept getting hopeful on the numbers only to be disappointed with the u/s...after the D&C I felt empty emotionally and physically and noone cared cause everyone in my family including my sister was either pregnant or were popping them out...Thankfully I left that man and found my wonderful DBF and we oops got a blessing in our first month together... Now another mc and the ups and downs of TTC... Sorry for everyone's losses... This is the first time I've shared any of it and it helps...
    Baby dust to all Mommys to be!!! And blessings, love and light to all the Angels we've lost...

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    My worst experience ended with a D&C which isn't bad but to me was horrible because it brought back the abortion I said I'd never have for any reasons but sometimes there are reasons... Actually after all my years of trying and mcs and one darling son I thought this one was a punishment for said abortion...I got pregnant in 4/11 and went to the doc in June... He didn't see what he expected to see and told me I got my conception date wrong...I didn't but he made me go every week till July to get my Betas done and they kept rising but nothing ever grew...I felt pregnant, looked pregnant and kept getting hopeful on the numbers only to be disappointed with the u/s...after the D&C I felt empty emotionally and physically and noone cared cause everyone in my family including my sister was either pregnant or were popping them out...Thankfully I left that man and found my wonderful DBF and we oops got a blessing in our first month together... Now another mc and the ups and downs of TTC... Sorry for everyone's losses... This is the first time I've shared any of it and it helps...
    Baby dust to all Mommys to be!!! And blessings, love and light to all the Angels we've lost...

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    My husband and I have been TTC for a while now with no luck. During my last menstrual cycle, I was 15 days late. I took multiple pregnancy tests all of which were negative. I went to the doctor for nausea and vomiting and severe fatigue and took another urine test. That too was negative. They told me I had a viral infection. My period finally came. It was painful and heavy. It stopped after a week and then began again 7 days later. This time it was very heavy and I was passing large clots. I went to er. My hcg was at 11. They told me they would recheck it in a week to make sure it returned to 0. That was it. No sympathy. No explanations. I didn't know I was pregnant and now my baby is gone. I don't even know how old it was.

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    When I read all these threads I just want to cry. I've wanted to have a kids and last year May I thought that my dream of being a mom would finally come through or so i thought.

    On may 2nd I did several home test and when I saw the two lines I was so happy. I even did my happy dance ran to my boyfriend and shared the good news he was so excited we made a home video celebrating our news. In June I finally went for my first check up at this time I was 10weeks. This was when the beginning of being worried started. The nurse said she couldn't hear a heart beat she said it was a bit early so we would try again at until my 12week appointment. I was said but optimistic. On my 12thweek appointment the doctor got worried, she said my body was pregnant but my sack was empty so then she mention either to wait to see if my body would miscarriage on its own or they would have to do a DnC. Worst news ever. I remember crying so hard in the doctors office she tried to give me hope to try to come to my regular appointments to see if there would be a change (maybe I got my last cycle wrong). They schedule my DnC for the Monday and the Friday my body decided it wanted to miscarriage on its own. Apart of me wanted to die during my surgery. Last month January 9th was suppose to be my due date, it was absolutely heartbreaking and even worst my best friend told me she's having twin. Whenever I hang around my best friend when I get home all I do is cry wondering if I would ever get over this pain.

    I sometimes get mad at my boyfriend because he has 3 kids and even though this was a lost for him also, I feel he doesn't know how I feel because he still has kids I have none and the doctors say theirs a possibility I will never be able to,

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    When I read all these threads I just want to cry. I've wanted to have a kids and last year May I thought that my dream of being a mom would finally come through or so i thought.

    On may 2nd I did several home test and when I saw the two lines I was so happy. I even did my happy dance ran to my boyfriend and shared the good news he was so excited we made a home video celebrating our news. In June I finally went for my first check up at this time I was 10weeks. This was when the beginning of being worried started. The nurse said she couldn't hear a heart beat she said it was a bit early so we would try again at until my 12week appointment. I was said but optimistic. On my 12thweek appointment the doctor got worried, she said my body was pregnant but my sack was empty so then she mention either to wait to see if my body would miscarriage on its own or they would have to do a DnC. Worst news ever. I remember crying so hard in the doctors office she tried to give me hope to try to come to my regular appointments to see if there would be a change (maybe I got my last cycle wrong). They schedule my DnC for the Monday and the Friday my body decided it wanted to miscarriage on its own. Apart of me wanted to die during my surgery. Last month January 9th was suppose to be my due date, it was absolutely heartbreaking and even worst my best friend told me she's having twin. Whenever I hang around my best friend when I get home all I do is cry wondering if I would ever get over this pain.

    I sometimes get mad at my boyfriend because he has 3 kids and even though this was a lost for him also, I feel he doesn't know how I feel because he still has kids I have none and the doctors say theirs a possibility I will never be able to,
    I'm very sorry. I wish I could say that the pain will go away, but it won't ever completely. I still remember my due dates, and while the pain has definitely lessened, it's not forgotten. Those babies will always have a place in your heart.

    And I strongly believe in miracles. They can happen. I hope that you are able to beat the odds and are blessed with a precious baby soon.
    Angela, Andrew & Nicholas

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    I have had 4 losses, all were in the first trimester. The first was a chemical pregnancy. The second time I went in for my 8 week checkup and there was only a gest. sac measuring 6 weeks-(blighted ovum). I naturally miscarried at home on my own and it was not that bad. Cramps stronger than a period for a couple of hours until some tissue passed then after it passed things were more like a regular period. The third miscarriage was the hardest on me emotionally. I was followed closely and at 6 weeks and 8 weeks we saw a baby and a heartbeat. We were so excited & told all our family. Went in for my 12 week checkup and the baby had not grown much past 9 weeks and there was no longer a heartbeat. This was the saddest emotionally out of all of my miscarriage experiences. I had a D&C for this pg and it was a really easy experience, quick, easy. After the d & c had very little cramping and just spotted for a few days. Took around 6 weeks to get a normal period back. I had my precious son after this miscarriage. He was my fourth pg and the only successful one. He is almost 3. My fourth loss I am currently going through. I found out I was surprise PG on valentines day. My betas were great and my Progesterone (which was always low in the past). I felt optimistic about this pregnancy since i have had a baby now and my numbers were good. I was hoping that my body and straightened itself out. I had strong PG symptoms. I wasn't 100% sure of my dates so I went in for my 8 week appointment and I was measuring 6 weeks and 2 days or so with a gestational sac and yolk but no fetal pole. My doctor didn't feel optimistic based on my lab work and offered me d&C or cytotec. I went home thought about it for a while, called my RE Doctor and he wanted to do another ultrasound. he thought maybe my dates were off and it was just early so he had me wait and come back in a week. Well a week goes by and I get another ultrasound and they see the beginnings of a fetal pole but it had only grown 2mm in a week and still no heartbeat. I waited another week to see it i would miscarry on my own. I didn't and I am tired of morning sickness so yesterday I took 3 cytotec (200mcg) tablets vaginally at 2pm. by 2;30 i started cramping some so I went ahead and took lortab. At 6pm I started having some red small clots and more intense cramping, in came in waves and were a little stronger than a period. I took another lortab. These cramps would come and go. They were a little worse than a period but I still sat outside with my husband and son and watched him play and pittled around the house so they were not unbearable. At 9pm I started passing heavy blood clots and I passed a white fluffy sack. I have no idea what that was. yolk maybe? I also took 800mg of ibuprofren. at 10pm I felt a gush of blood i ran to the toilet but it had already soaked through my overnight pad and went on my pants and down my legs. I couldn't get off toilet because it was soaking through my pads. Big clots would fall out and then a constant trickle. i soaked through 4 pads in 30 min. I got scared and starting feeling lightheaded & dizzy and I layed flat with my legs elevated on pillows and called my OB. They told me if i didn't let up in another hour to go to the hospital. It did let up and I went to sleep and today I feel like I"m having a regular period for the most part. Overall my cytotec experience was good. It definitley wasn't as painful as i expected but I took the lortab at the first sign of pain. I really only bleed heavy for about an hour. I hope maybe my experience will help someone who is terrified like I was feel a little bit less scared or at least know what to expect.
    additional update...after writing this I thought it was over...but the next few days I continued to randomly have sudden bad cramps, followed by heavy bleeding and passing Large Clots (golf ball sized) This went on for a week. It was emotionally hard because it would happen when I was out doing my daily activities, trying to get back to some kind of normalcy. Also, the amount of blood was kinda scary. Especially the times it caught me off guard and I would have to stay in the grocery store bathroom or department store bathroom until it eased up enough to make it to the car. And it was painful intense cramps. I did go back into my OB for another scan because of all the bleeding and he said my uterus was still thick and fluffy and this could go on a while more, but no signs of infection. He gave me the option to do a D&C then. But, I felt by that point I had already been through so much I would just tough it out another week or so. After 9 days of this it finally stopped. I had brown spotting every day for 4 more weeks and then started a very heavy period. Looking back now. I think I probably would have just opted for the D&C. The Cytotec wasn't terrible, just scary and took to long. For closure purposes ...I would opt for the D&c. Hope this helps someone
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    Mira I'm so sorry for all your losses, but your most recent one just stabs at my heart as it sounds similar to my loss last year. Big

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    Mira !

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    Big hugs Mira!!!!! I am so sorry for your losses
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    05/06/14
    Our baby is now in heaven.... Im grieving. I just got home from the hospital, this was an experience I've never had before. I'm very weak. I will update later after I rest. Thank you all so much for your very kind thoughts and prayers. My emotions have gotten the best of me

    In my heart, it's hard to say goodbye...


    Update:
    Thank you everyone.... I just love this group, that's why I always come back here


    I don't want to give too many details because I don't want it to scare anyone.

    At 2 am this morning I was having a lot of pain in my uterus and vagina... It woke me from my sleep. I lay in bed for an hour, staring at my daughter (her and DH swapped spots for the night), her little pouty lips were so cute. I kept praying for the pain to go away at 3:30am the intense bleeding started. By 5 am my whole body was shaking uncontrollably, I hadn't been able to move from the toilet for over an hour because I was bleeding too fast. Fast forward to 11am, I was nauseous, weak, and very pail. I kept clinging to the hope that my "sch" had bled out very badly. The rn took my stats and my BP was 37. She quickly called the doctor in. He did an u/s and confirmed loss of fetal heart tones. He said the baby was no longer attached but my "product of conception" ( I HATE that word) was still inside. He suggested d&c, I refused, he said misoprostol to move things along, I refused (bad experience with that in my 2nd loss). Talked about risk of infection, blah blah blah..... Sent over to do lab work. I was standing in line and I was seeing spots everywhere. I kept trying to breathe. I felt so ill. When I got called to the check in window I started walking forward and passed out. It was quick, I heard them call code and 2 urgent care RNs came in and put me in a chair. The ob doctor I had seen came in too. My sugar was 70 but I don't recall the BP at that point. I drank that orange stuff for the GD test and they started an IV of fluids. Had my blood drawn..... Heading into urgent care in a wheelchair I passed out again I don't know what was happening with my body. I felt so out of control. I was sobbing so hard I could barely breathe. After one bag of IV I signed an AMA form. I just wanted to go home and grieve.

    I know this seems detailed but I left out 6 terrifying hours at home.

    I have discomfort down there, but my body is trying to work, it is to be expected. I'm still resting, DH is doing okay. I will go in on the 15th for another scan. Then in 6 weeks I will do genetics. I feel right now that I can not do this anymore and as bad as I wanted to finish my family with a fourth, perhaps it's just not in the cards.
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    So sorry Brittany!
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