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    Pros and cons are going to depend on your personal goals for your child. I am 100% sure that I can give my child a better education, according to our personal goals and values than they can receive in a typical public school setting. I am also 100% sure that I do not need a teaching degree to do this. Also, I am sure that I would not be capable of teaching in a public school without the time and hard work that a public school teacher puts in to earn the degrees that they have. I have nothing but good things to say about most teachers. I had amazing ones myself and the ones that my children have had during the time they attended school were wonderful, hard working, dedicated, kind people. In spite of that, I stand by my belief that our nations schools (and my state specifically has made drastic cuts to school budgets) are not creating an environment best suited to educate our children. I had these conversations with the principal and 3 of the teachers at the charter school my kids were attending when we went to clean out their lockers and say goodbye and all 4 of them said that they completely agreed and one teacher even said that she's on the brink herself of making that same choice.

    I think it's really important to clear up any notion of "us" versus "them". As parents and educators we all want what is best for our children, and all children. In every family that is going to look different. Judgements and blanket statements are dangerous and offensive. I'm sensitive about this because I have some cousins who were homeschooled and you know what? They were very sheltered and they are what some might call socially awkward and they'd stand out in a crowd of their peers as "different". Almost every member of my extended family, when they hear we homeschool, makes some rude statement about that family and "do you want your kids to be like them?" That's ONE family! And guess what? Every child in that family got accepted into a good college and is now married and having babies and working in respected careers. Some of the ones who like to talk smack about them are recovering drug addicts, on their 3rd marriage, in and out of unemployment. Is any of it related to homeschool vs public school? WHO KNOWS! There are so many other variables that shape who we become. So many aspects of ones personality that is just ingrained in them (intovert/extrovert), so many, many, many variables.

    Do I think homeschooling is best? For us, right now? Yes. Will it be for you? Maybe, maybe not. I don't think anyone can say that one way is better than another way across the board. I believe this about most things in life and parenting. We all choose our path and most of us make these choices based on our fierce love for our children and the values we hold in our hearts. You will know if it's right for you guys. If it isn't, you can change it. Good luck!

    Sorry this is so long! I got worked up. lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by babykenny View Post
    I'm not threatened by homeschoolers in the least.
    The original post asked for pros AND cons. I was simply providing the other side of things.

    I have 2 masters (and the student loans to go with them, to boot!) because after my 1st I only had to take 5 more classes to add the other degree.

    I don't teach math, it was just an example.

    I'm a literacy specialist.

    Most high school students ask clarifying questions to be able to fully understand advanced concepts. There is a concept of learning that says students need review to fully grasp content over the long term.

    it seems very lonely to me to constantly teach yourself and review material independently, especially if you are a social/interpersonal learner. (I'm referring to Howard Gardner's multiple intelligence theory, which is taught to most teachers-in-training).

    Also, if I was homeschooling a high school student, there are definitely areas that I could not confidently provide scaffolding to my child for. Advanced concepts in chemistry would be one, and I would hate to see my child struggle to teach themselves things I could not fully explain. Just like high school teachers specialize in their content areas, I would venture to guess not every homeschooling parent knows each content area equally well to be a free-standing resource in every subject. The good thing is that Internet resources have improved, but as a general rule, I personally would not ask my child to teach himself/herself everything once they get to high school. That's a heavy burden of instructional responsibility placed on the learner.

    Learning styles gets dicey, if you have knowledge of Howard Gardner and his multiple intelligence theories. Not every learning style is supported in every learning environment all the time.

    I can see where you can make a case of tailored instruction to the student though.


    Yes...this!!!
    If you've never known differently you wouldn't even think about it .

    I let my DD (almost 17yrs) read through this thread. She said she loves being self-directed and largely self-taught. She only comes to us if she has problems as do most of our kids. She had a composite score of 30 on the ACT at 15yrs old (she opted not to take it again) and scored in the 98th percentile on the PSAT this year. She will be taking her SAT next month and she has an appt on Tuesday with the director of admissions at the University of Michigan. So far home education seems to be working out well for us.

    All of my children are very bright and confident, and are doing extremely well academically. They have their bumpy areas but what kid doesn't. We use a traditional curriculum because I need to know my bases are covered with so many kiddos and I adjust for learning styles.

    I think my kids are getting a very good home education with lots of socialization opportunities. They participate in a variety of extracurricular activities, they volunteer, they are comfortable conversing with people of all ages, they're well-liked and even popular with their group of friends (and their friends' parents). And I like that they're happy .

    Last school year was our first year participating in a homeschool coop and we loved it! We moved 9months into the year but joined one down here last fall. It has so so so much to offer and I'm very excited to have it as an option for my kids.

    I'm so sorry you've had a poor example of home schooling given by your cousin ...that really is too bad and like I said before we do see it happening as well.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gwenn View Post
    Do they really? I wonder if that varies by state. I didn't know that.

    I don't see why they couldn't let you pay to play, though. You would think they might be glad to make a little money where they can. I'm sure they have a rationale for it, though. Maybe liability? Who knows.

    And personally, I don't have kids and may not be able to ... but my taxes go to education, kids or no kids. I pay for lots of things I personally hope I will never use, such as prisons or Medicaid. Still, having those programs in place benefits me as a citizen whether I take part in them or not. Same for public school.
    My pocketbook aside, that's really how I look at it too . We do ultimately benefit from public school...everyone stands to benefit when children get a good education!

    I'm assuming they have good reason too by not allowing us to participate, lol, I can't imagine they're just being mean .
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    Quote Originally Posted by kellyowens View Post
    Local schools do get funding for K12 online students...
    I believe this varies by state. If a state doesn't provide for charter schools what I've read says they don't get funding for K12 online students (we were looking into it when we were living in WA which didn't allow for charter schools). And if they do get funding it is not 100% of the federal amount (not sure about the local amounts because that will vary state to state). This is part of what keeps charter schools out of a lot of states still is voters voting it down because the public schools will ultimately get funding pulled for every child enrolled in a charter school.

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    That was my understanding too that it varied by state...neglected to clarify I meant in MI as pertaining to my situation
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    Quote Originally Posted by kellyowens View Post
    That was my understanding too that it varied by state...neglected to clarify I meant in MI as pertaining to my situation
    Ah. Makes sense. I don't think they do in my state (but admit the possibility of being wrong )
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridget View Post
    I think it's really important to clear up any notion of "us" versus "them". As parents and educators we all want what is best for our children, and all children. In every family that is going to look different. Judgements and blanket statements are dangerous and offensive. I'm sensitive about this because I have some cousins who were homeschooled and you know what? They were very sheltered and they are what some might call socially awkward and they'd stand out in a crowd of their peers as "different". Almost every member of my extended family, when they hear we homeschool, makes some rude statement about that family and "do you want your kids to be like them?" That's ONE family! And guess what? Every child in that family got accepted into a good college and is now married and having babies and working in respected careers. Some of the ones who like to talk smack about them are recovering drug addicts, on their 3rd marriage, in and out of unemployment. Is any of it related to homeschool vs public school? WHO KNOWS! There are so many other variables that shape who we become. So many aspects of ones personality that is just ingrained in them (intovert/extrovert), so many, many, many variables.
    That really made me laugh. We have a somewhat similar situation in our extended family but it is on the issue of very nurturing AP type parents and their "spoiled children" vs the cool ones that are street smart. And the outcomes are very similar too - all of my "spoiled" cousins are with rock solid long marriages and careers while the cool ones are in some sort of not so brilliant situation
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