DD3 is going to be 9 months old. I never expect my kids to STTN until a year. DD1 was 11 months and DD2 was 10 months I think? But was never really able to put my older kids down while awake and have them fall asleep on their own. DD3 is special I have explained on here before that she is so fidgety that I have almost never been able to rock her to sleep...which makes me sad So it's always been hard to get her to sleep and we unfortunately had to let her cry a bit because we tried pretty much everything else and she wouldn't tolerate being held, rocked or nursed to sleep.
When I put her down for a nap or for the night I sit and rock and nurse her. Sometimes she does fall asleep because her afternoon nap is messed up because I have to pick DD1 up from school so it's too short and she is usually very overtired by bedtime (between 7-8pm). Even when she does fall asleep while rocking she always wakes up when I am putting her in the crib. She will cry out for a sec and settle or sometimes a little more but not more than 20-30 seconds. Sometimes she is fully awake and goes to sleep without a peep. Sometimes she cries on and off for a while then goes to sleep but no long extended crying.
Anyway, I always thought that the STTN theory was that since babies go through a lot of sleep cycles they wake up and go back many times. If they can't self soothe or know how to fall asleep on their own they will wake up and cry for you. She DOES know how to put herself back to sleep so why does she wake up still 3-4xs/night?
I don't think she is actually hungry because when I nurse her she doesn't nurse as if she is hungry (fellow BFers will understand what I mean)...she kind of just comfort sucks. If DH gives her a bottle of pumped milk sometimes she only drinks a few oz.
Anything I can do to change things up? I am willing to wait it out I am just surprised that she isn't sleeping better since she is able to fall asleep on her own.....