Stress

[ktbelle97]

Anybody else feeling stressed out over baby/family related stuff?

I have had a lot on my mind recently -- I am hoping to find new childcare for the kiddos rather than the very expensive daycare that DS currently attends. They do a great job but it will be really expensive to send 2 kids there. Also I am tossing around the idea of working part time instead of full time. This would mean I would definitely need to find less expensive childcare. It would also mean I would have to give up my management position at work, which I think I would be ok with, but also I don't know if I would have regular hours if I stay with my current company. I would really want regular hours and a guarantee of a paycheck! So maybe I will need to find a new job, but it's way too early to do that considering I don't even want to go back to work until late Sept/early Oct depending on when I deliver. So here I am stressing out over something I can't even do anything about right now...

Add to that, I still feel tired all the time, I've had a lot of discomfort in my lower abdomen this week which is worse when I'm up on my feet a lot, and then I feel like I can't do as much as I want to around the house or with DS, and I feel like a bad mom/wife.

I don't even know how to fix all the issues right now. At least DH is being very supportive and listening to me complain!

[kmrk336]

I think people like you and I with our supportive hubby's are SO lucky! I know I feel like the worst wife ever most of the time but if you asked my husband he would say I was the best lol. It really makes all the difference.

I haven't been to stressed about the pregnancy at all. I have so much stress at work and with my masters program I don't even have time to be stressed about the baby. I actually feel guilty that I'm not more concerned about the pregnancy/once the baby comes. I feel like my lack of concern makes me a bad mommy already

[ktbelle97]

That doesn't make you a bad mom at all! It's good for baby if you aren't worrying too much. Stressing about baby doesn't do you any good anyways, because there is nothing you can do -- baby will be here when he/she is ready, and you will learn more "on the job" than you will by worrying a lot while pregnant.

[JJorn]

I find it so easy to get ahead of myself when pregnant. You just have the desire to work out every minute detail before the baby arrives! Have you tired to write down lists of the things you want to consider or to a pro/con list of some of the choices you need to make? Often time when I write those things out I am able to not think about them as much.

[ktbelle97]

I wrote down a list of things I want to get done before the baby gets here, and it did make me feel better. Lol, I haven't even looked at it since I wrote it almost a week ago! My mom is coming to visit this weekend and I always feel better after I talk to her so I am looking forward to that. Talking to her is kind of like making a pro/con list for me. I definitely just want to get everything resolved even though I know I can't yet...

[sookie4415]

awww Hang in there.

I've had plenty of my own stress going on and I think it is what is causing all my dang contractions

Beyond the half way mark and that sparks my positivity

[LilBunnieMcG]

*hugs* I understand, especially about the bad wife feeling. I got super-nest-y the past few days, scrubbing bathrooms and re-decorating, and cleaning and laundry and just all the things I'd left undone since the first trimester ickiness set in. But hubby is so super-patient, even then though I know he wishes I could pull more housekeeping duties.

I like JJorn's list idea.