How different are your kids?

[oreooverlord]

I am wondering how different your kids are in personality and lifestyle? My sister has 2, 3 or 4 yrs apart, and says that in general, besides being opposite genders, they are not alike at all. DS has been a rarity since the day he was born. From deciding to come early to having illnesses that I have never even heard of in my yrs in nursing/medical type classes. Over the weekend he developed yet another illness that may or may not be a lifelong issue but he will always have to inform doctors of it and the meds he was given for life. The doctors are assuring me that when this happens in a young child, most of the time it is a once in a lifetime thing and he is a very normal looking case. But he has been scaring the living daylights out of me for the past few days and all I want is for the next child to just be a complication free kid So far this pregnancy has been a complete opposite of my pregnancy with DS, he was an easy pregnancy with delivery complications and with this one I have had practically everything under the sun from the usual morning sickness and exhaustion to extreme hives for no explainable reason at all. So maybe this one will be my easy child once she/he is born I know it is wishful thinking and I am sorry if this sounds like a vent or a pity party, I don't mean it to be. DH feels so bad cause he kept telling me that he thought it was nothing and we should just wait and come to find out DS could have died from this if I didn't get him in when I did. I am thankful for being a paranoid, overprotective, OCD type of Mommy!!!! Thanks for letting this tired Mama vent Hope everyone is doing great in the week that they are in!!!!

[khadijavye]

My two boys are pretty different. DS1 was the high maintenance baby (had to be held practically 24/7) and DS2 loves his swing. I remember feeling very bad about always putting him in the swing, but that's where the kid wanted to be! DS1 is super picky and was pretty much that way early on, DS2 loves food and refuses very few food items. So they're fairly opposite.

If you don't mind sharing ... what's going on with your DS? I'm definitely one of those "waiter" parents that doesn't prefer going to the doctor right away.

[zekedancin]

My two are very different as well! DD was/is more needy in the area of sleep, entertainment, food, etc. DS is much more laid back. I am so excited to meet this baby to learn all about his/her personality!

I tend to be a little more of a "waiter" too when it comes to kids. I am so glad you aren't in this case! A blessing!

[oreooverlord]

He had what it called ITP. Basically his antibodies from a virus he had back in Jan/Feb got confused and started to attach his platelets (allows clotting). A normal level is at 150,000 or higher and when we got him in to the hospital his were only 3,000. He just woke up one day with red/purple spots sporadically over his body and the next day he had some serious bruising over his body, all of which we could not explain. Worst case complications is bleeding into the brain. We spent a whole week in the hospital but he responded really well to the treatment, even if it did mean getting blood drawn often We have to go in for the next month for blood draws to make sure he doesn't drop again and then after 3 months of no remission, we will probably never see this again in his life, but he will always have to inform doc of it. He has always been a rare child since birth and this disorder is so rare only 4 to 8 kids out of 100,000 are effected each yr. I am just glad we are home and he is acting and looking normal again.

My two boys are pretty different. DS1 was the high maintenance baby (had to be held practically 24/7) and DS2 loves his swing. I remember feeling very bad about always putting him in the swing, but that's where the kid wanted to be! DS1 is super picky and was pretty much that way early on, DS2 loves food and refuses very few food items. So they're fairly opposite.

If you don't mind sharing ... what's going on with your DS? I'm definitely one of those "waiter" parents that doesn't prefer going to the doctor right away.

[oreooverlord]

I will admit that in some circumstances, I am a waiter parent. If he doesn't have an extremely high temp or something that I can't explain, then I wait and treat on my own. Since this was something odd and I couldn't explain, I wanted a professional's opinion. I never really thought that it could be something as bad as it was. I was worried about it being a virus that could then be passed to the baby and us loose another baby. He was a total trooper through the whole thing and he has made me one very proud Mama since he was so good with everything and everyone. I also learned that he is much stronger than me since the 1st few blood draws took 4 to 5 adults to hold him down to get the blood.

[Julbella78]

Sorry to hear about your son. I hope all is well soon and you won't have to worry about this again. I only have one daughter so far and I'm praying this baby is the opposite of her! haha She was an excellent baby, but a very poor sleeper from the beginning. I fed and she napped on demand so she never really had a schedule. Then around 12-13 months she started having night terrors, sometimes up to 5-7 a night! She's 6.5 now and its rare if she has one but she will still occasionally yell out. She's also super strong spirited and most likely has "spoiled kid" syndrom for which I take the blame. She is a very sweet and loving child. Kind to others and animals. Very caring but watch out if she doesn't get her own way or wakes up in a bad mood. And drama....don't get me started she's the queen! haha Anyway, I'm hoping for a less dramatic child who likes to sleep!