Am I being selfish?

[Scarlett]

DH keeps trying to slip his mom's and dad's middle names into the twins middle names. His parents do not speak to us, acknowledge us, anything. I would rather give them my family's names as their middle names. So on the one hand I feel like we will be naming all three of our kids (DD already has my moms as her middle name at DH's suggestion) after my family but none after his. But yet the only one of his that speaks to us is one of his sisters. So am I being a B*itch about it?

Oh and also, when DH was convincing me to get preggo he told me I could name this one, he just didn't know there would be two! He does love the first name choices though.

[APAL1021]

No and I agree with you BUT at the same time maybe he needs to fill the hole that is missing in his life (his parents) - plus do you really use the middle name? My DH named my sons middle name after his grandfather and now this one on the way after his grandmother - idc bc i never use it nad prob never will...

[Scarlett]

Yeah, I only use the middle name when I do the "mom is mad and calling me by my full name" But it would really mean something to my family where as with his "relatives" it would be wasted. These will most definitely be my last children and my brother will not be having any so it is kinda a last chance to honor my grandmother/dad

[APAL1021]

then if you feel that strongly about it then you fight for it - in my case i am not into naming the kid after someone so it wouldnt bother me as mentioned above for the reasons stated...but everyone is different and if thats how you feel then go with your gut. but i guess be gentle about it bc he may be hurting that he cant have the same relationship with them like you di with yours??? i am just guessing here...

[mamabear26]

We have a lot of issues with my DHs family causing problems and treating us terrible. I understand how you feel. Why honor people who have no respect for you or your DH. Fight for the names you want. My family is always there for us so i, again, see your point. Do what your heart is telling you. Talk to him about it. Hope it all works out! Naming babies is so hard!

[itann]

I completely agree with you mamabear26. People who don't respect others, don' t deserved to be honoured.