A lot of things going on this past week

[l&dmommy]

So today I am 9.3 weeks pregnant with my third little one. I had lost my 2nd little on Emily this past May, yesterday would have been her due date. So as yall can imagine with it being right after the Christmas rush.. I was on an emotional roller coaster yesterday. DH and I got into a stupid fight, then we made up and went out for a nice lunch with our 5 year old, then went to James Avery to get something with her name engraved on it.. but there were too many ppl so we left.

After my loss I can say my initial innocence and was shattered. I never expected to lose my little one and now I am scared of bonding too close to this new little one with the fear of losing him or her too. I know it crazy and I feel like I am cheating myself out of such a wonderful thing.. Does anyone have any suggestions. I did make it past my milestone of 8 weeks which is when I lost Emily.. but every day every little pain.. I get scared.

I have been having little sharp pain on my left side near my hip.. its sharp and then goes away with rest.. it happens with changes in position.. and sneezing ect. so I am guessing round ligament pain.. although I know 2nd trimester is usually when you really start noticing it.. but no other scary symptoms.. thank God.. no spotting. does anyone else have this type of pain?

[sammilynn]

I know it is rough when you have had a loss. I also get round ligament pain but it still makes me nervous because of my history. Luckly I have also made it past the dreaded 8 week mark. I hope that you continue to heal and you begin to find the excitement in this pregnancy.

[Mariel]

Hugs coming from here. Don't have much advice, just hope that time will help.

[CareBr]

I have no advice...just hugs....

I'm one of the lucky few that has never suffered a loss, but I feel for each one of you that has.

I have the exact same pain on my right side. No one seems concerned unless I start bleeding and I've had none of that. My pain started more that 3 weeks ago and my first dr appt isn't until the 2nd. I'm definitely telling my dr about it because it worries me, but most ppl I've talked to don't seem concerned so I'm not stressing because stress will not help.
Oh, I'm 9 weeks today..

((((Hugs))))

[sookie4415]

i've had 4 c-sections...but yes...everytime I cough or sneeze...hang in there mama, if you are ever worrried call your doc office nurse line(they all have one) and let them know of your symptoms...

[MaMa2boys]

I had the same pain on my left side.. it's probably a cyst that is harmless. Typically when you become pregnant you ovulate from a cyst and it can remain there for awhile with all the extra blood flow going to your areas it can grow a bit and become a little inflamed from time to time. Mine still bothers me but I've been told it's totally harmless on many occasions and it will go away on it's own.

I had a loss in between my boys, I was 12W when they couldn't find a heartbeat anymore with no signs of anything going wrong, and I know how it feels to be a little nervous of bonding with the pregnancy. It was really tough for me and I didn't really become very attached until I could feel movement around 14-16W even now with this pregnancy at 23W I feel nervous because he doesn't move around nearly as much as my other two I worry about everything.

It's amazing how fast you can become attached to a baby you have never seen and at 8W you've already built your life around them and a future that involves them and when you are told that it will not be happening it's devastating and hard to figure out where to turn and how to get through. A lot of people think you are crazy for grieving for a child you've never held but in your mind and heart you've held them millions of times.

Honestly all I can say is that it just takes time, my due date for the baby I lost happened to be the day I got my BFP with Vincent (my second son)

Even after an uneventful pregnancy with Vincent I was still so hesitant to accept this pregnancy, especially because it was unplanned. I didn't really get that excited until I saw him on US at 8W and he was bouncing around like crazy.

[JJorn]

Since this isn't your first child, the round ligament pain can start much earlier. Your muscles are already stretched so there isn't as much force keeping that uterus in place as it gets just a bit bigger. Oh, and I do have a cyst in my right ovary but am pain free thus far from it. I have to have another ultrasound in a few weeks to check on it.

I lost my third child at 12 weeks and then the next two at 5 weeks. So, I'll feel much better in the second trimester, although the fact that my tummy is already getting bigger is a good comfort, too.

[MummytoShay]

hey hun, sorry to hear this pg is full of worry. I get those pains when I sneeze, or reach for something at a funny angle. It can be sharp. I have just assumed it's muscle because it goes soon after I change position, but if you're worried, I am sure your caregivers will understand. I had Shay after we lost our first son, and there was always a cloud over my pregnancy. It's pants, but I am trying to take it one day at a time. Shay has also got himself hand foot and mouth disease, which I have to be careful of so that is adding to my worries too.

Try to keep sane and we are hear for you, your worries aren't silly at all xxx

[l&dmommy]

Hey everyone! thanks for the support! I feel soooo much better after reading you posts! So I was worried about my pain yesterday and called my doctor.. due to my history he has placed me on bedrest for a short course with lots of hydration. I took off a couple of days off work and will see how I feel through the weekend. The pain comes and goes but gets worse when I am up walking and about even if its just to the kitchen to feed this hungry little one growing inside me. There is no need to go into the office since I have no other symptoms.. I am just hoping that its round ligament pain or a cyst like some of you mentioned giving me trouble. Thanks again for the support! Will keep yall updated!

[ktbelle97]

Glad to hear you talked to your doctor and are feeling a little better! I have had RLP for several weeks now and I remember that from the first time around too. I hope the bedrest helps you!

[poohbearkrazy]

I so know what you mean about losing the innocence . 6 years ago on the 26th I got the devastating news that my DD's heart had stopped beating at 24 weeks . This time of year is very hard for me and it's hard to keep a positive attitude, because I know that evil is lurking . I'm so sorry that you too know the pain (((Big Hugs)))

[MummytoShay]

hey hun, glad your OB is so understanding, and resting can only help. Enjoy putting your feet up xxxx

[l&dmommy]

Hi ladies!
Wanted to give yall an update.. so I continue to have my left round ligament pain that radiates to my back... So my OB has placed me on more bed rest 3-5 more weeks! While I am enjoying the time off work and bonding with my 5 year old... being in bed all the time stinks! lol OB appoinment went amazing today! Beautiful heartbeat, baby measuring right on track, looks sooo much bigger than two weeks ago.. and he or she waved at us today! It was so amazing! despite my pain and cramping cervix is closed. Thank God! so just more rest and dehydration. Today I am 10.3 weeks! Taking it one day at a time, week by week hoping to soon get to the second trimester.

[kmrk336]

Try to take it easy and feel better soon! Glad to hear baby is happy and healthy!!

[poohbearkrazy]

Yay! I'm so glad you had a good appointment. I will continue to keep you and baby in my thoughts and prayers