It is a very difficult decision. DH and I agreed we wanted 2, and at my advanced maternal age, knew they would be close. When we found out we were pregnant with twins we were elated! One pregnancy and done. God had a different plan and we only delivered one DD. I believe that God knew what we could handle and that his plan is ever evolving. While I feel complete with our little family of 3, I do think often of a playmate for DD, and do now miss the twin we lost, so we have begun talking about adoption. However, I'm still ok with just us 3, we will be able to live and give her everything she needs, and do things we want to do while securing our retirement future at the same time. Since most adoption processes can take upto 2 years, nevermind the money saving, that would make DD almost 4 and I'm not sure I emotionally will be able to do it. It is very hard, but I know biologically we are done. Risking my health doesn't outweigh the desire to add to our family.
Phoebe Grace 6-22-11; 8# 1oz, 21" long/19# 12oz and 30.5" long at 1 year; 23# and 33.5" at 18 months! And oh my! Grew 3" in 3 months! 36.5" at 21 months... long and lean like her mamma was growing up.
Me & Geoff, 39; DD Phoebe, our June Bug