Rethinking Finding Out

[babykenny]

January 8th is my next u/s... The "big one."

Originally, DH and I were in agreement about finding out, but now we are rethinking it. We didn't find out last time, although an u/s tech kinda hinted that she "could see it clear as day." So I wasn't shocked when DS was born.

If I find out and DH doesn't want to, I won't be able to keep a secret...it's just too big to hold in I think, especially working in a school with people asking me all the time....

What do you think???

Anyone else Team Green???

What are all of your opinions or arguments about finding out versus not finding out the gender???

[Yellow]

I would like to try team green but am a planner. If this baby is a boy we need some stuff, and therefore knowing that beforehand would be helpful. I would be stressed after giving birth if it was a boy and I felt like I didn't have everything we needed. Very little of DD clothes were gender neutral. Plus knowing allows me to plan a nursery.....and cuts down on the number of names we have to weed through. And I think it helps me bond with the baby because it is more real to me then. But the idea of that special delivery moment is very appealing. Just, for me, at this point doesnt outweigh my other reasons. Perhaps if we had one of each and we were going for a third I would go team green. Good luck with your decision.

[mamabear26]

I just can't go green. I have been shopping and, around here, my child would be naked if I don't find out. We are having such a hard time thinking of girl names, I would love to be able to no longer stress about it if I dont need too. Good luck hanging in there!

[adelinasmommy09]

I just don't have enough will power to be on team green. If I could find out now I would! Lol.

I already want to go shopping for little things.... it just seems like its been so long since I've shopped for a baby and to say I'm excited is an understatement.

[Ginger_Laraine]

we were originally team green but now he wants to find out,,,which it was his idea not to find out..so with this being our first and all we figure it is prolly best to be prepared more what with people helping us and the baby shower. But you could maybe do (since your on the fence) a gender reveal party/ baby shower the last month that way you still have time to get some clothes for that gender. Those are always fun.

[WishingNat]

I would LOVE to be on Team Green -- I think it would be amazing waiting to find out until the delivery room.

I think each pregnancy that maybe this time I'll do it -- and absolutely do NOT have the patience or willpower to make it through!!! lol

Last time I had my big u/s at 18 weeks -- and little man was uncooperative and I had another u/s scheduled for a month from then.... I paid 90+ dollars to go to one of those optional 3D places just to find out the gender!! lol

[Coral]

I'm team green. I would like to have done it with our first two but hubby wanted to know. We have one of each now though so it's not like we'll be scrambling for clothes. I think my first was the hardest because I desperately wanted to decorate a nursery. Now that I've had two, I know more of our parenting style and know we will likely co-sleep for a while and then use a crib in our room, so it's not as big of a deal. I'm excited to find out, but it's part of the fun in not knowing.

[babykenny]

Thanks so much for all your thoughts everyone! Still not sure what we will do, but these thoughts help give me some perspective!

[*Williow*]

I want to be on Team Green!!! But DH really wants to know.... I think we will find out but hold off telling people until later.... Best of Luck! Both ways is fun!

[rnale]

I just can't do it, the only thing I don't have willpower for. I would like to start using his/her name and able to get things for the nursery and use it as another way to bond. However, my lovely DH wants a 3D/4D ultrasound which are very cool but they are also so good at showing you what your baby looks like and I really want that to be a surprise.

Good Luck!

[ktbelle97]

I am too much of a planner to go team green. I agree with pp that it makes me feel more prepared for when baby is born. Good luck with your decision!

[Minismommy]

Too curious me! But let's say I would have enjoyed the surprise more on due day! I do not practice what I preach! But am more at peace now that i know for sure! Plus planning is easier! Plenty of time to exchange DDs old clothes.

[sookie4415]

well...we are most likely not finding out. We found out with #1 and she was a girl, then #2 was a boy...#3 we let be a surprise and #4 I found out and had to keep it in while he did not want to know. It was hard and stressful and unfair to me......I feel. I want to know, but I know it will be too hard to know and him not know if that makes any sense. So I think we will opt not to know. Our only son passed when he was 5 months old...so we have 3 little girls at home right now. If you base my symptoms as telling as to what I am having...yup, it will be another girl. We'll see...

[*Williow*]

well...we are most likely not finding out. We found out with #1 and she was a girl, then #2 was a boy...#3 we let be a surprise and #4 I found out and had to keep it in while he did not want to know. It was hard and stressful and unfair to me......I feel. I want to know, but I know it will be too hard to know and him not know if that makes any sense. So I think we will opt not to know. Our only son passed when he was 5 months old...so we have 3 little girls at home right now. If you base my symptoms as telling as to what I am having...yup, it will be another girl. We'll see...

So, how do you know based on your symptoms? Just curious.

[Alyson3396]

This is my first and i am on team green! I always said that i wanted to be surprise and since this pregnancy was a surprise its perfect. DH really thinks i am having a boy but we will have to wait till June to find out.

[sookie4415]

with my #1, #3 and #4(all girls) I had migraines until at least 2nd tri along side terrible nausea that lasts the entire day and skin that looks like it did in my teens. With #2 my only boy I had no symptoms at all, just a big ole belly...

So, how do you know based on your symptoms? Just curious.

[kellyowens]

I've always been team green and I love it (8 babies)!!! I'm also a control-freak planner but have never had any problem planning for my babies :-) .

[babykenny]

Thanks so much. I think we are sticking with Team Green for now... Sookie, Kelly and Alyson...your words helped encourage me to stand my ground!!!

i think the only way I'd find out is if the baby was in distress....here's to a happy and healthy rest of ALL our pregnancies!!!

[mamabear26]

I went to the OB on Friday and we listened to the heartbeat and it was around 145 again. I have had several people tell me boy so I joked with the doctor about it and she said I might just be right! The 17th can't come soon enough!

[babykenny]

So exciting mamabear!!!

[LaurainFL]

I'm on my third round of Team Green currently. We LOVED the experience with both of our boys. It's fun to keep everyone guessing until the end, and even more fun to announce it after the baby is born. Before I had my first, I made my husband two different shirts--a pink "it's a girl" shirt and a blue "it's a boy" shirt. He takes them both to the hospital, then wears one out to the waiting room to announce the good news.
Wanting to find out my baby's gender has provided a little extra boost for me during the difficult part of labor, too. I remember motivating myself by thinking that I would get to find out if baby was a boy or girl if I just kept going.
The way I see it, there really aren't that many good surprises in life. Once you are an adult, most surprises are pretty lousy! I wouldn't trade our delivery room experiences for anything, and we are so excited to experience it again.