With the goal in mind of completely weaning her around or soon after she turns 2, I started night weaning DD about a week ago, doing the same thing that worked well with my older DD. But this time, it's not going quite so well.
I nurse her to sleep as usual, and when she wakes up, I tell her there's "no nursing until morning" but that mama will hold her and lie with her. She fusses and gets upset, and then I ask her if she wants to lie in her bed or if she wants me to hold her. She'll usually then let me hold her. Since about the second day of this, she stopped asking to nurse if she wakes up before around 4 a.m., but she is very insistent on sleeping on top of me, and even then, sometimes tosses and turns for quite awhile before falling asleep. I find that it's actually harder on me than when I could just lie with her and nurse her and then leave her once she fell asleep. Now, I am finding myself stuck with her on top of me, unsure how to get her off of me without waking her up.
The second problem is that, even after over a week, from about 4 a.m. until 5:30 (which is when "morning" for nursing purposes begins), she still gets really upset and is not satisfied with me holding her or with just lying on top of me. She asks to nurse, tries to pull down or lift up my shirt, and basically spends that 1.5 crying and whining in between short dozing sessions. Part of me wants to say that I should just make 4 a.m. the start of "morning," but I'm fairly certain that if I do that, then she'll start crying from 2 or 3 a.m. until 4.
Has anyone else had similar problems night weaning or night training a toddler who, contrary to popular opinion, doesn't just accept a new routine after 3 nights? Any suggestions on other things I can try? Please keep in mind that I definitely plan on completely weaning her by 24 or 25 months, and my hope was to make it a gradual transition (she still nurses for naps and a couple of other times a days when she feels like it). Also, right now I'm on break, but starting after New Years, I will be going back to class and will need time at night to work, so being stuck under a sleeping child may be a problem.