how to handle

[mother of seven]

how do i handle the stress of my Grandpa's passing he has been in the hospital for a few weeks now and he passed yesterday my blood pressure is already high and now i have this headache that wont leave and sick to my tummy. any ideas

[fourgulls]

I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my father when I was pregnant with my three year old and I just kept telling myself that my father was no longer in pain and had no more suffering and that I know that he lived a good life. I was also comforted knowing that my unborn daughter had a special angel protecting her.

[Babidol]

I'm so sorry. I say grieve as you need to. It's very stressful. Take a hot bath, if your a wine drinker have a small glass. If it gets too bad, call your OB and ask for something. Hugs.

[Lunarmoon]

I'm so sorry for your loss! I wish there was something I could say to help.

[MaMa2boys]

My mother in law just passed away last week, and I was taking care of her. It was terrible I cried and cried every night and didn't sleep for almost a week while she was struggling. I lost weight and felt miserable, but baby is fine.

Everyday is hard. I still cry constantly and my kids ask about her all the time and it's so hard. I feel like I can't get over it but I need to be strong for them because they miss her so much and it's the holidays which were her favorite season and she was the life of the family festivities.

I just remember that she loved us all so much and after all the pain she was in she's in a better place now and watching over us and even though she won't physically get to hold this new baby she loved him so much just knowing he would exist.

I talked to my OB about all the stress and she said that it's okay I just need to make sure I eat and drink regularly and try to sleep, she gave me a script for something to help me sleep but I found that Benedryl has been working perfectly for the rough nights I've had.

Take time and grieve don't try to hold it all in.. that's what causes the high blood pressure. It's okay to be sad! I'm sad at least 50% of the day lately.. and then he moves and I smile and forget about crying for a few mins, or my boys do something silly and I'm reminded of the wonderful life that my MIL helped shape and I'm grateful for the short time I did get to expirence her. She was only 50 years old but she left a wealth of memories and shaped my husband and his sisters into such a warm supporting family that I'm grateful to be a part of.

[mother of seven]

its wonderful to have you ladies to talk too its been a hard weekend i and spending it with my parents trying to give my dad support

[KDinCO]

I am sorry for both of your losses. I like what Andrea said, don't try to hold everything in. That will raise your BP for sure and make you more sick.

[tiggerlb]

I am so sorry to the both of you.I lost my mom in 2004 and my grandma in 2011. The first year was the hardest. All of the first holidays were the worst for me.I still cry from time to time over them. The wound heals but the scar remains. I hope you both can find peace in it and enjoy your holidays to the best you can. After all that is probably what they would have wanted for you. They will always be with you in your hearts and in spirit.