Rough weekend

[Babidol]

Im about to complain...

I called the nurse line Friday night. I have had a headache like every night for a week. Friday I was feeling dizzy/nauseous, seeing spots, just feeling yucky. My BP was fine so I was told to just lay down. Saturday we went Christmas tree shopping and I was swelling. Like crazy swelling. I had to hurry and get my rings off. It was that bad. And of course back to the blinding headaches and nauseating heartburn. Guess I will be calling my OB in the morning. I'm pretty miserable

More than that DH's family has really managed to hurt mr feelings in the last couple of weeks. My SIL got married in October, we went to Ohio for the wedding and we all helped set up, tear it down, get the bride and groom to a hotel, paid for breakfast for a bunch of us.... My DH gets a thank you card from step-mil and FIL addressed to only him thanking him and gushing over him. Really? And then they proceed to mail him a card and gift for his birthday but I didn't get a card, call, text....nothing. WTF? And the his mother mails us both cards for our birthdays last month....he gets $50 and she sends me $25. Not that it's a big deal but I can tell you my parents never do that and she has never done that. Well tonight she is texting him. Like his phone is blowing up and he's outside so I check it. It's her asking the baby's name....and then every 2 min asking again.....so he texts her back and tells her that we haven't told anyone the name and won't be until the baby is here. She says....yeah right I know her family knows. He asks her if she really thinks we would do that and she says...I'm not dumb I know how this works. Really?! I just don't understand what I did do deserve this crap. My family really doesn't know.

Just that kind of weekend.

[Linzo]

Sorry to hear that you aren't feeling good! I am getting pretty miserable too lately.
Does DH see what is going on with his family and how your feelings are hurt? Dealing with my in laws is definitely the worst part of marriage lol.

[missmc]

Wow. That's just rude. I would be livid if my ILs did that (the thank you note and texting). One thing I have noticed is that my MIL will spend way more on Dh than on me, but I don't let it bother me too much. My mom never does that to any of our ILs. She treats everyone equally as if they were her own child. One year, MIL bought us and Dh's sister a TV. We did not get any other presents. Our 3 person family (at the time) and his sister (family of 1) got the same thing. Jace didn't even get any extra presents. So, MIL doesn't exactly get the whole equality thing.

I'm sorry that you weren't feeling well. I'm surprised that the on call nurse wasn't more concerned about your symptoms. Are you worried about pre-e again? Are you feeling better today?

[ClarisseMarie]

Please kup on what the doctor says this morning. Hopefully they will do a blood test for pre-E, just to be safe!

And I'd be really upset about the whole IL situation too. My ILs and my parents both treat DH and me equally. And then all that other stuff would really bother me, too. What does your DH think about all that? It's just a rotten way to act towards you, and I'm sorry you had to put up with it.

[babybluesash]

Well she better be glad I'm not her IL because I would literally tell her to go F herself and she wont be seeing the grandkids. I very much so cant stand ALOT my MIL, there is no FIL, and I can't stand anyone else in his family. My MIL gave my son 300 dollars and nothing for my daughter, and I straight out told DH that it wasn't gonna keep happening, that I didn't want her money or any gifts. On DD bday MIL got more presents for my son than DD. WTH!!!! So yes I feel and will tell you to "try" and let it go because someone like that isnt worth your time!

[WishingNat]

Hope you're feeling better and that they test you out for Pre-E.

I hear you on silly family members -- thankfully my in-laws are awesome... but I know my grandmother is a pain in the rear end. I don't honestly EXPECT anything from her, and in my opinion she is free to do what she wants with her money/time etc.... but she has 4 daughters (my late mother included in that).... 3 of the daughters had children. One daughter and her respective grandchildren she is estranged from (as are all of us because the woman is bat-**** crazy). My other aunt who has two boys -- my grandmother spoiled rotten for many years... the worst was when it came to our weddings. My grandmother sent my aunt 50$ to buy us a wedding gift -- which I thought was kind and thoughtful.... I found out a few years later that she gave my other cousin 18k cash for his wedding for a house downpayment..... lol crazy!!

[LSVNurse]

That annoys me that they deliberately send $50 and you $25. At least send a gift that isn't so obviously comparable, you know???

I would definitely get the weird swelling/headaches thing looked into. My first thought for the headache was to see the chiro. The weight of the growing belly and such could be mis-aligning your muscles all the way up to your neck and causing soem of that... but swelling shouldn't be a part of it. Is it really hot where you are? Either way, take it easy and put your feet up if you can.

I was feeling a bit emotional this weekend too... I guess as we head out of the "rosy" second trimester into the lovely third trimester, we can expect more emotional swings and aches and pains. I'm trying to just breathe through them and say - it's only 11+ more weeks.... We can do this, we just need to power through it. It's really hard to do work though through this - I'm so unmotivated!

[fourgulls]

I am so sorry that you have to deal with not only being 8 months pregnant but with inlaws that are so rude. I would definitely be upset too!

I hope you are feeling better today and am hoping that you were able to see/talk to your Dr. regarding your symptoms. Please keep us posted!!

[Babidol]

Just glad I live 800 miles from them right now. I'm so angry with all of them.

On a side note, I went to the doc this afternoon. Pressures were fine, urine was neg, and I haven't gained anything in 7 weeks. I'm guessing I lost since I normally go on the morning and this was 3 my time. My fingers and feet are swollen too. They ended up giving me migraine meds. He wanted to give me Tylenol 3 but I have already taken 2 doses of ES Tylenol today. He thinks it's migraines. I go back next Thursday.

Just ready to be done with work already

[Babidol]

Oh and it's been warm here, in the 70's which is hot this time of year in AR.

[hotpinkmomma0811]

Stopping to give Do you have diabetes? That could cause headaches with blood sugar dips.

[Babidol]

No diabetes. And I passed with flying colors on my GTT. I haven't been eating as good/frequently as I should but I had a good eating weekend and still had headaches.

[ClarisseMarie]

Well I'm glad they are investigating this, but I hope it isn't migraines - that sounds pretty miserable. Still thinking about you and hoping you can get some relief!

[Babidol]

Going to get my meds this morning. I researched them last night and they make me a bit nervous. They are going to have to be a last resort. I went to bed at 9pm last night in the hopes of trying to get a bunch of sleep and seeing if that helped. So far, it's not working. Oy.

My mom asked this morning if she could know the baby's name for Christmas. Honestly, after the fit his mother threw I dont think I'm giving in. I asked DH what her problem was and he said he didn't talk to her because he's mad too. But also feels that we leave her out. Wouldn't it be his job to include her? Why am I responsible for both our families? Especially when he has 2 parent households to inform and I have one. It's ridiculous that is expected of me. I asked her to come for thanksgiving, offered to pay. I have to do FaceTime and that stuff with my family. Shouldn't that be his job with his family? I'm just way irritated this morning.

[Linzo]

Going to get my meds this morning. I researched them last night and they make me a bit nervous. They are going to have to be a last resort. I went to bed at 9pm last night in the hopes of trying to get a bunch of sleep and seeing if that helped. So far, it's not working. Oy.

My mom asked this morning if she could know the baby's name for Christmas. Honestly, after the fit his mother threw I dont think I'm giving in. I asked DH what her problem was and he said he didn't talk to her because he's mad too. But also feels that we leave her out. Wouldn't it be his job to include her? Why am I responsible for both our families? Especially when he has 2 parent households to inform and I have one. It's ridiculous that is expected of me. I asked her to come for thanksgiving, offered to pay. I have to do FaceTime and that stuff with my family. Shouldn't that be his job with his family? I'm just way irritated this morning.

My MIL is the same- always says we leave her out etc. Fact of it is I'm really close with my mom and DH is now too. His mom drives us crazy because she is overly opinionated and pushy. I am always the one
that gets blamed though. I always tell DH it's up to him because I can't always be the one taking care of things for both sides! Totally feel your pain over here!

[ClarisseMarie]

Well I'm glad your DH is on your side. It's just a terrible situation to be in.

How are you feeling today?

[missmc]

It is his job to include his family. I talk to someone from my family (either my mom, dad or sister) almost daily but I've told dh it's up to him to involve his mom.

I hope you're feeling better!

[ClarisseMarie]

Oh yeah and ita about it being his job to include his family. DH calls MIL 9 times out of 10 if we need to communicate something to them. I call her very rarely. My SIL does things differently though - she always calls MIL.

[Babidol]

I'm feeling better. It was a long night. Had a student e-mail saying she was going to hurt herself/someone else. Sometimes being a social worker has downsides. Had to call police, colleagues....did nothing for my stress/anxiety or for these headaches. I finally got my migraine meds but I'm too nervous to take them.....

Just that kind of week :/