Need to vent...

[christianaaa]

Uggh. I'm so annoyed with everything this morning. So we moved into the place we are at now back in may/June. We live with another couple, she was pregnant when we moved in and had the baby in July. They are nice people but he works and she doesn't - and they aren't very well off. We figured we could help each other out. They have four dogs and at first we would alternate buying dog food, toilet paper, paper towels and groceries. That seemed to work well for a little while but now they keep asking for more and more. It falls on us every time we run out of something. They even asked to borrow close to 300 for Christmas gifts for the kids (they sold their jeep instead because Greg said no). Now their car is broken down and they are constantly asking to use mine. I normally say its fine because i figure its for the baby. I try to give them the benefit of the doubt and never ask for gas money because I like to think the extra money they do have is for the baby. It doesn't seem that way to me anymore... I feel like we are really getting taken advantage of. Greg works seasonally and in the winter he is able to pick up work with his dad to pay bills... Last week he made 45 dollars and they want to borrow money from us. My room mate is an electrician and makes more money than ALL of us. Finally Greg is starting to realize and agree with me about what's going on. I feel really bad complaining to him because my room mate is his best friend. I have a baby coming too, and I don't get government help like she does (and I'm not trying to hate on people with government assistance -- some people really need it and use it properly) but the point I'm trying to make is, when my baby comes I have to buy diapers on my own and I have to buy food and health insurance on my own. I can't afford to support them and my own family. And of course we don't have enough money saved to move yet.

And being sick doesn't help. Uuugh


Anyway thanks for reading if you did lol

[Babidol]

I'd be calling a meeting and sitting down with housing expenses and tell them what you will pay and for what. It's in no way your job to provide for their family. It's sounds like they are really taking advantage this isn't hormones talking at all.

[ootus973]

I totally agree, lay down the law. It sounds like they're completely taking advantage of you.

[Scarlett]

I agree, you need to lay down the law with them and not be used like that.

[Brandles]

Wow, so sorry you're having to deal with this. I agree with the others about laying down the law. You're delivering a baby soon and any extra money you have you could be buying little necessities for the baby or saving for moving out or just savings for a rainy day period. I hope it gets better soon and you guys are able to find a solution.

[babykenny]

Wow - that's quite a living situation. 4 dogs???? Is that necessary when you can't afford basic needs for yourself??? I know pets can be family members, but that sounds crazy and excessive, especially since you are not pulling your weight. And you are buying dog food for their 4 dogs? Oh no she di-in't!

I agree with PP - lay down the law! I can imagine that if the situation continues, it is going to be detrimental to you and your baby to try to keep all that up for too long. You're going to be a mommy and have to "protect your young" soon!

Good luck. KUP.

[christianaaa]

The dogs aren't ours. When we moved in they actually had six and when the baby came, we found homes for two. They have a boxer and a pitbull, they had a litter of three puppies, one of which we still have here. We also have a small Maltese/chihuahua mix. They are all good dogs and properly trained... If it were up to me I wouldn't own dogs. I'm not a dog person. We haven't bought dog food recently because we were able to get it cheapest at bjs but my room mate thinks its cheaper at Kmart so they just buy it from Kmart. The original plan was the puppy from the litter was going to be ours, but we told them last night we really didnt want him anymore (which sounds really bad but she expressed interest in keeping him anyway). Greg did tell her last night we can't afford to keep buying things like that... So hopefully they get the point.