We adopted DS when he was 2yrs. DH wanted to keep his first name because he felt it would be an easier transition since that was part of DS's identity. I really wanted to name him after my twin brother but acquiesced to DH. We gave DS my brother's name as a middle name. I have regretted it ever since.
DS's foster mom had him from birth and was *very* attached (understandably)...visitation was difficult. I don't think she tried to make it hard but she didn't try to make it easier either. I don't blame her for that (she was grieving) but it did make the transition challenging for me...I felt like I was ripping her baby out of her arms
Anyway, I have always associated DS's name with him "belonging" to his foster mom...just wish I would have emphasized more to DH how important it was for us to change DS's name. Even now, I think it would help solidify my relationship with DS from my perspective (any other adoptive moms out there who can relate to insecure feelings..."Am I really *mom* to him?", etc...?).
I also have one other reason for desiring a name change. His birth mom *may* have gotten access to my name/address through his former pedi's office...I just feel it'd be safer if his first name was also changed so the name she's looking for him under isn't associated with me.
DS is 5yrs old now and I recently asked if he'd like *everybody* to call him Christopher and he is totally on board...he was very excited about it :-)
I'm going to talk with DH about legally having his name changed for my "Christmas gift" this year :-) .
Anyway, I'm looking for thoughts on this too. Maybe things for/against a name change for a 5yr old that I hadn't considered.
Btw, his name would be changed from Devin Christopher to Christopher Devin :-)