I'm sorry to post again but how on earth can one *not* get attached to a newborn?? How could you have *not* gotten your hopes up?? I really don't see any other way you could have approached it. Those who have hinted otherwise have evidently not walked in your shoes!
Don't be ashamed that you love her already...goodness, you're human! Shame on anyone who would make you feel badly for that!
Sorry, venting my frustrations on your behalf:-) My heart goes out to you...thinking of you often!