Don't know what to think/feel

[JJorn]

I have been so nervous lately about the baby. I wish that I had been farther along when I got the flu so I could have the reassurance of regular movement. I am still nauseated and needing up to two Zofran pills a day, I thought I felt some very tiny flutters between the pelvic bones right after my fever went away and during last week, and I am not cramping or bleeding. My next appointment isn't until January 22 which seems eons away.

A family member outted us on facebook about the pregnancy, too, and I was going to wait until closer or after 20 weeks to go public.

[poohbearkrazy]

Aww Jess, i'm sorry you've been so sick and its causing you even more worry . You have been in my thoughts and prayers. I too got really worried around 12 weeks. I called my Dr. and let them know that it would really help if I could come in for a quick heartbeat check. They had me come right in. They were unable to locate the HB with the Doppler and just took a quick look on ultrasound. It was such a relief to see my little stinker bouncing all over in there. Maybe you should call and see if you can go in for a quick HB check? (((Hugs)))

[kmrk336]

Everytime I hear about somebody getting outted on Facebook I get so sad. I actually considered de-activating until we were ready to announce but we got so lucky that our friends and family have kept it quiet.
I totally feel your worry and concern. It's so hard not knowing what's going on in there. And even if everything's fine one day, it might not be the next. All you can do is have faith I suppose. Keep positive thoughts and try to relax and put your mind at ease. Visualizing and positive self talk work well for me, but I know it's not for everyone. I'm thinking of you and hope you're feeling better soon!

[MummytoShay]

Hey hun, you are not alone. I am all nervy at the moment and I don't know why. You've hit 12 weeks, which is a big positive, and you're still feeling sick, so hopefully everything is on track. Maybe call and move your OB appointment forward. Honestly, if you need the reassurance, go and get it. I don't know how you feel about a doppler, I got one with Shay and it helped loads.

The FB thing is a nightmare. Honestly, some people do not know discretion. I am in a similar situation with regards to my MIL. We would love to tell her, but she is a foghorn. Which means I can't tell my own mum, as DH will start moaning, and then MIL will bang on about how she wasn't told same time as my mum, and then my mum hates my MIL so she will gloat that she knew before my MIL. So nobody knows apart from my best friend and i will lie through my back teeth to protect my privacy. It's sad to be let down by people, but we learn.

Take care hun and feel better soon

[sammilynn]

Oh hun I am sorry about feeling bad and rude family members. I hope that you get feeling better soon. I would call and see if you can get in earlier just to help you feel better about it. I know how stressful it can be. In fact we havent announced it on FB yet and I would be livid if someone put it on there before I was ready.

[CareBr]

(((HUGS))))
I'm sure everything is fine. I'm still taking zofran 3x per day. I skipped once and paid for it big time. I'm sure baby is doin well. I'm sorry you're so worried and scared. We are all very emotional now. Especially when we feel so rotten and feel there is not support from those closest to us.
I'm sorry your family has outted you on FB. It's hard to control that thing. Some people don't know discretion.

I hope you start feeling more positive soon... (((Hugs))))

[JJorn]

Thanks for your understanding, ladies.

As for facebook, this was not even someone that we had told. My inlaws must have told everyone. I so want to delete the comment but then I would have all this explaining to do. Thus far I've just ignored it.

[CareBr]

Just comment with a bunch of question marks, then pm them to explain that you aren't ready to make it public.

[sookie4415]

man FB is so narcisistic. I made me wall private so only I can post to it...that way people don't post anything until I out myself there...I was afraid of that too. We told our families over xmas(I was 12 weeks). but not ready to tell the world quite yet.

I feel your pain. Had my last appt at 10.5 weeks and now I just have anxiety for my appt that is next Wednesday...I hate this point where you have no idea what is actually going on in there...you know? UGH...

[kimberlee1234]

FB is a nightmare!!!! i hate FB... i've only told a handful of people and to be honest if someone told i would delete that person from my friends list and leave them out of everything else for the rest of the pregnancy ( baby shower, gender annocment ect ). it is complete DISRESPECT! i see it happen to all my friends and im so sorry this has happened to you. i havent even told inlaws bc i dont think they can keep a secret.

[JJorn]

I deleted the comments today and sent messages as to why I did so. I just should have done that right away yesterday.

Another mom from APA is being so kind and mailed her doppler to me today! She thinks that it will arrive on Monday. What a blessing!

I also hit 13 weeks today!

[kmrk336]

Awesome news on the Doppler!! Can't wait till you hear the HB! It's such a relief! And congrats on 13 weeks!!

[MummytoShay]

Glad things are looking up, and let us know how the doppler goes. Well done on regaining a little of your privacy and sticking up for yourself without losing your dignity. take care xx

[ktbelle97]

Congrats on 13 weeks!!! I second calling your doc and asking to get in if you are worried. My doc told me that if I ever feel like I need reassurance, call and they will get me in and I can get an u/s if we need to. Hopefully the Doppler helps you keep calm. and lots of positive thoughts to you!

[JJorn]

I got the doppler today and found the heartbeat! It was right around 150.

[kellyowens]

I got the doppler today and found the heartbeat! It was right around 150.

...so happy for you! Such a reassuring sound

[sammilynn]

I am so glad you found it! I hope that eases your mind. I know I love listening to my firecracker but s/he likes to run away from the doppler.

[kmrk336]

Yay!! So glad you found it! Awesome news! So reassuring

[MummytoShay]

yay!!!

[poohbearkrazy]

Yay!!! I'm so glad that you picked up the heartbeat. Such a beautiful sound

[JJorn]

Thanks everyone! Now I feel that I can wait until by next appointment.