So, I've been having a really hard time dealing with my m/c in January. I wasn't very far along, but I was far enough along to be hopeful - and had told my immediately family, parents, grandmother, etc. Even now, it just hurts so bad at times. I'm starting to see a therapist soon to get some help in coping with that plus stress, life, etc.
I've also been reading about miscarriage (Karen Edmisten's After Miscarriage and some online resources), from a Catholic perspective specifically (though I consider myself a liberal-minded person). In my reading, I've been reading that some women and their significant others decide to name the baby - even if they didn't know the gender (which we obviously did not since it was early in the pregnancy).
What do you think about this?
I'll be honest - DH thinks this idea is ridiculous, and he thinks I am over-dramaticizing the loss. I know that he just has no way to comprehend how it feels from a maternal perspective - just as I had no idea how painful m/c was (physically and emotionally) when friends had gone through it until I had gone through it myself.
I know that there are many women of many belief systems on APA, but I just think that maybe God loved this baby enough to keep him/her in heaven. I know I have an angel waiting for me if/when I get there. I just don't know if it is right to name this "angel" - or if I'm crazy... It feels so nebulous and vague if I don't acknowledge this pregnancy though...
Again - any thoughts/advice?