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    Hi everyone!

    My name is Whitney. I am new to the site but I stumbled on here looking for advice on ovulation predictions. My husband and I started TTC in March of this year. We kind of went into it, not caring if it happened or not, and of course I got a BFP right away in April. However a week after finding out we were expecting our first child...I found out I was miscarrying. The miscarriage happened quickly and naturally. I tried not to dwell or let it consume me because I didn't want to be sad...I wanted to move forward and be strong because everyone around me, although they were trying to be supportive, I still felt like they were looking at me with pity.

    Since then, my husband and I waited a bit to start trying again but we just really started ttc again in August. I am trying not to get stressed or frustrated that it isn't happening as quickly as it did the first time. But it's hard! I feel like everyone around me is watching and wondering why it hasn't happened yet. My cycles are all messed up still from the miscarriage as I run anywhere from 26 to 35 days cycles so pinpointing ovulation is almost non existent. I just feel like I am the only person in the world going through this. When will my cycles level out? I feel consumed by the pressure and I can't figure out how to let it go...

    Ugh...sorry for my rambling. Maybe I just need to write to get it all out.

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    Writing about it definately helps. And you are not alone. I suffered a MMC with my first pregnancy and it took 6 weeks for my levels to drop back to normal and another three months to get pregnant. I have always been irregular though so I can't really help you there. What took a lot of the stress off me was we went out and bought a clearblue easy fertility monitor. More expensive but less guess work. I am sorry for your loss and I hope you get your BFP soon.

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    I am so sorry for your loss. My friend just went through a loss and it was horrible for all of us. We are here to support you!
    Do you temp or use OPKs?? I think that would really help you pinpoint ovulation and keep records of how your body is operating cycle to cycle.

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    Thank you both for the support! It means a lot to just talk to someone who has been there or understands what you're feeling.

    I never even knew about the monitor....I might have to look into that! It sounds like it would take the guesswork out.

    I have tried the Ovulation sticks for 7 days but I never see a positive reading so I end up getting discouraged. Since my cycles keep lengthening I must not be hitting the right days and I am not monitoring long enough. I just end up feeling defeated.

    I have never tried monitoring temp. Only reason I am hesitant to do that is because everything I read said that when your temp spikes it's too late to get pregnant? Is that true? Can someone explain it better for me? I am still pretty new to all this.

    Thank you all so much!!!

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    Welcome this is a wonderful place to ask for help i hope you stay is short and sweet and you get to move to a due date room soon

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    http://www.fertilityfriend.com is a really good place to track your cycles most of us us it. i find it very helpful

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    When you sign up for fertility friend they will email you a bunch of things that explain temping and OPKs and cervical mucas ect to you. It's really helpful.
    You are right in saying that by the time your temp shows you have ovulated, you've missed your chance, it will be a record of exactly when you ovulated in past cycles and you may see a pattern that will help you. Also I love the peace of mind of knowing I definitely did ovulate.
    The first month I used OPKs I never got a + bc I had an abnormally long cycle and gave up on testing before I actually ovulated so that can be an issue too, unless you test every single day which can be expensive and a pain in the neck.
    I find that OPKs and temping together work best for me, and you'll find the way that works best for you too! First stop is fertility friend. They also have an iPhone app.

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    Thank you for the site! I downloaded the iPhone app so I will definitely be checking this out.

    I like the idea of using the two methods together, that way you know for sure if you're ovulating. I never got the positive sign on the OPK so I just gave up. I need to learn to stick to it.

    Thank you!!!

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    Also a very popular book that you have to read if Taking Charge of your fertility by Toni Weschler it teaches you so so much about all this and more!! http://www.amazon.com/Taking-Charge-...your+fertility

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    Thank you for the book suggestion! I picked it up tonight after work! I am already starting to feel better about all of this... Thank you all so much for the advice!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Whitney17 View Post
    Thank you for the book suggestion! I picked it up tonight after work!
    No problem its definetly an inspiring one. I cant believe how much stuff i didnt know before reading it...and im only on part 2!

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    Just an update: Thank you so much for the book recommendation! I found out last week I was pregnant. And now this week I found out I am having my second miscarriage this year. I am beyond being sad, I am getting frustrated and irritated at this point. My doctor is issuing a consultation now with a fertility specialist doctor to start the process of figuring out why they keep happening. Just thought if anyone can understand it would be everyone here. Thanks for letting me vent.

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    I am so so sorry for your loss. I hope you get some answers at the dr and a little sticky guy soon. Again so sorry. Hugs!

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    I'm so sorry Whitney, I hope you get some answers and end up with a uneventful pregnancy and a healthy baby soon. It may not be much consolation at the moment, but at least you know you can get pregnant and that's at least half the battle. Did your doctor get a chance to check your progesterone when you first found out you were pregnant?

    Mel (39) DH (37) Finally, a baby boy after 12 months of TTC!
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    (((Hugs)))...I'm so sorry Whitney !!

    I'm glad they're sending you to see a fertility specialist! Usually, it's not until you've had three or more consecutive losses or have been trying for 6-12 months without success. It's good you don't have to wait any longer for specialized care.

    Thinking of you...kup!

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    Thank you all so much for the support. It's heartbreaking to get another phone call delivering the bad news. It was complete déjà vu. We ran my progesterone and I assume whatever they found helped them call it a miscarriage again.

    I am glad that they are referring me right away to the fertility specialist. Going through another miscarriage just to get to three would be horrible. I have no clue what they are going to do now.

    Does anyone have experience or know what to typically expect?

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