Dear MIL

[Maaria]

My mother-in-law is visiting us for 3 weeks. Well, originally it was supposed to be 10 days, but she changed her flight and is staying longer. It's been mainly nice, we get along well, but she's been making comments that are starting to make me upset. I don't know if its me being extra sensitive (my husbands opinion) or is she out of line.
She came with me to my dr appointment and when the dr was looking at my weight gain, which was 1lb in 2weeks. She made the comment, "oh she eats A LOT" so many times that finally the dr just said to her, sorry I really can't comment on that. Awkward moment.
Next morning she sees me in the kitchen and says "wow you really are big" thankfully hubby was standing right there and said my baby is growing just right
She also did reminded me many times that I don't have to eat for two, that I shouldn't gain too much weight. So far in 26+weeks I've gained 10lb.
I'm starting to regret our decision to let her come to be part of the birth.

[pumpkinpeejays]

I'm so sorry! NO ONE except you and your Doc should tell you how your weight gain is going! Of course, she still will voice her opinion. I'm actually lucky that my MIL is choosing to ignore the fact that I'm PG so therefore hasn't said a WORD to me.

Could you ask DH to talk to her? 10 lbs is actually on the lower side of normal, by the way! I've gained about 20!

I'd also consider a small white lie and say only one family member is allowed to accompany you in the birthing room!

[ootus973]

When I saw Jeff's mom a couple of weeks ago, she all but flat-out called me fat...and I've gained less than 2 pounds back after having lost 5 at the beginning!! She made sure to point out how slim Jeff's little sister was just after having given birth--oh, she's also 17 years younger then me and had a 5 1/2 pound baby. I think the job of MILs is to torture us.

[LaundryQueen2011]

Your MIL needs to STUFF IT! And I wouldn't be taking her anywhere else with me period. You are not overly sensative - she is being rude and btchy! I wouldn't put up with it in my home.

I am 26+ weeks with TWINS and have gained 10lbs. It's under the norm but right for me as both babies are over 2lbs already.

Tell her to zip it or she is going to have the wrath of a BUNCH of PG Mama's after her

[pumpkinpeejays]

Hey so you're in New York and I'm in North Jersey.... want me to come mess her up?

[kc1309]

Popping in from Dec. DD. I'm due 6 days before you and I've already gained 24lbs. 10lbs is nothing!!!! Your MIL needs to zip her lip! I don't get why people think they have a right to comment on the size and weight gain of pregnant women like it's their job. Ugh! I wouldn't even tell her you were in labor. After the fact tell her there just wasn't time. Lol. I'm not even letting my MIL know I'm in the hospital until after baby is born. She would drive the 60 minutes and barge her way in there. She does NOT need to be seeing all that! Lol. Good luck hun!

[AlexL2010]

Fat??? Tell her that weight gain is only baby, and if she wants to see fat she can come see me. 20lbs in 24 weeks. Why is your MIL going to your doc appts with you? I wouldn't even want my mom coming. I guess it depends on your relationship with her. I think I'd be more ok with my MIL coming than my mom lol. Sorry your MIL is rude.

[Maaria]

Thanks for all your support. I know she's not right and that maybe she means well but that doesn't mean that it doesn't piss me off to hear her say those things.
I only took her to the appointment because I wanted her to feel that she's a part of this. But I think I'm going to use that little white lie that the hospital doesn't allow more than 1 in the room
We didn't go for the tour yet, so I might learn this 'new info' there ;)

[LaundryQueen2011]

I say use the white lie - and get her home and our of your house ASAP. She sounds pretty stressful on you.

I have a Mama on a local board here who's husband got hurt so her MIL came to "help"...riiiggghhhtt. Said Mama left her own house the other day with her baby and headed to her parents house over 6 hours away to get away. For her own sanity! Don't let that happen to you!