3 miscarriages, now what?

[Heath77]

This last Wednesday I lost my third pregnancy in a row. I thought for sure I was done. I have had 3 miscarriage in a year, I am sick of pregnancy and sick of baby talk and sick of the whole miscarriage topic. I did acupuncture, I ate right, I did everything I was suppose to, yet I still lost this last baby. I know I have two wonderful children, but I really wanted a third to complete my family.

So now that the pregnancy hormones are starting to leave my body I feel like I still want to try. I thought for sure I was done, but a part of me is so scared of trying again. I just don't know why after two successful pregnancies and no miscarriage I had three in a row. Everyone in my life thinks we're done. My doctor thinks since I get pregnant so easily, that it is just bad luck and bad genetics.

I just am so confused and can't give up on the dream yet even though I know I should. I really don't know how to proceed right now...

[JJorn]

I also had two healthy children and lost three in a row in less than 6 months (one at 12 weeks and two at 5 weeks). My OB referred me to an RE and I've started various testing to figure out what exactly is going on. We were shocked since I had never miscarried before this either. If you want another child, I would ask for a referral (if you need one) or just go to an RE (reproductive endocrinologist).

[Babidol]

First, i am so sorry. When we thought my current pregnancy was a BO again my doc told me he would run some simple blood tests for me and wanted to check my uterus empty. Stuff that was simple at first. He also mentioned they don't worry until 3 but he wanted to just check. He said he recently had a lady in his office that had 6 healthy children, 3 miscarriages back to back, and then had 2 more healthy children and never could figure it out. I say if you want to try again then start with the simple stuff your OB is comfortable with and then go to an RE if they can't give you any answers. Hugs.

[Heath77]

I don't think my doctor was willing to do test from the sounds of it. He just said if I baby is meant to stick it sticks or not. He doesn't think proestrogeen helps. He believes I could have another good pregnancy if I tried again. I decided to just call and make an appointment with an RE. It is better to get testing and have answer and then decide. I think after three, and two happening the exact same way its time... BTW saw a HB the last two pregnancies which is what makes is so hard. 10 and 11 weeks I miscarried.

[angmichelle]

I'm so sorry or your losses. I've had 3 miscarriages from Aug '11 - June '12. It sucks! I also saw a HB and then went in for a follow-up at 10 weeks and the baby had stopped growing. I also have a 2 1/2 yr. old son who we had no problems concieving or carrying.

However, after recent genetic testing, we found out that my husband has a chromosome abnormality called Robertsonian balanced translocation of chromosomes 13:14. Rare but real and it is the reason I am able to get pregnant easily but never carry a baby past 12 weeks. Knowing this information has really helped us figure out what the next steps are and also allow me to heal. I put blame on myself for so long as to what I was doing wrong - not resting enough, going too hard throughout the day, etc. Now I know what I'm working with at least so I can prepare myself emotionally if we try again. It's a genetic lottery for us or "the luck of the draw" as our geneticist said.

I hope visiting with a doctor will provide some answers for you and put your nerves at ease. I also hope and pray that everything turns out just fine and you have no problems concieving again. Hugs to you & am here if you would like to talk!

[Heath77]

Thanks Angelea that is very helpful! That might even be the case of us and we don't know it, but helpful to know other experiences in order for us to choose the right path.

[macksmom]

So sorry for your losses. Can you get check for autoimmune diseases and thyroid?

[JJorn]

I'm glad that you decided to call an RE. They should be able to help you figure out what is going on.

[WishingNat]

I'm so sorry for your loss my dear!!!

Seems that our March room had a lot of people leave way too soon!!

I thought the same as you -- during the MC that I wasn't ever going to try again (and this was on my my first MC after two healthy boys) but soon after I realized that I still wanted to try.

I'm glad you got in with an RE and hopefully you get some answers!!

[kellyowens]

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I'm so sorry for your losses (((HUGS)))!! I'm glad you're pursuing the RE! My dr wouldn't do any testing for me either (I had 5 in a row plus two previously...two of the 5 in a row were in the 2nd trimester at 15wks and at 19wks). I continued to push for testing though and found I had hashimoto's thyroiditis (hypothyroidism) and a genetic condition that predisposes me to m/c/stillbirth boys (both my 2nd tri losses were boys).

I've since had two more m/c but also two more healthy pgs (thyroid meds and I start progesterone immediately after I ovulate and BD) .

(((HUGS)))...I know it's hard...I saw heartbeats too...even felt my baby move.

Praying the RE testing is revealing...thinking of you!

KUP!