Okay so as DH and I get more into this research process, we realize that foster/adopt might be best for us. One thing I'm confused about is do you have to go through social services to foster/adopt or can you go through someone else?

I've seen a lot of info with the Children's Home Society but I can't tell from reading about them if they will do infants in foster/adopt or just older children. I also heard from one girl that she was told when she called (didn't say where) that there are no infants available to adopt in VA because they all go to family. I mean how can that be true? What if there are no relatives or what if there's no one fit to parent? Maybe there aren't a lot of them but this seems weird to me. I've looked at the laws and they seem pretty standard so I don't get it. Could it be that she just got a moody person on the phone who wanted to be rude about it?