Barely miscarried now sister announcing pregnancy

[mrslilliez]

Hello all,

I found this website and I thought it might be interesting for me to post of what is going on with me due to people not understanding what I have gone through. Now I have no idea of how to act towards this but here's the story.
I have had 2 miscarriages, 1 natural at 6 wks and 1 D&C at 6 wks (due to me having complications with my own body thinking it I was still pregnant). After the D&C I relapsed back to the hospital due to severe cramping and heavy bleeding. Well it turned out to be an infection from the D&C procedure which made me bleed for almost 2mos. I barely stopped bleeding this month as a matter of fact. Now, I have planned my parents anniversary dinner. I invited my sister, who is older than me, and her boyfriend.

It turns out she decided to tell me that they are expecting, she got pregnant after I had my miscarriage. I miscarried on 06/21/2012 and now it is 08/19/2012 and I still have not gotten over the fact that I have had another miscarriage.

I cried and ran straight to the restroom when she told me, I am happy for her but I cannot help to be jealous and think I could've had that baby bump by now, I am sad, embarrassed for her telling me in PUBLIC and me acting like that at my parents anniversary dinner. I have mixed emotions and all I want is my space, my husband is being supportive but he will never know the physical pain I have gone through, we were just about to try again in a few months but I feel like I'm going to fail again and have another miscarriage, and my sister continuing to be pregnant hurts me so much! I am happy for her but I feel sorry for myself, I just want to run away and hide. I wish she would've told me this in private, now I feel sooo sorry for walking out of the restaurant crying and for not being there for her when she needs me.

[mla]

Did your sister know about your miscarriages? It was incredibly cruel of her to tell you in public if she did. You don't need to feel badly at all for your reaction. If she knew about your losses and chose to tell you about her pregnancy in that manner, then she should be feeling terrible. That's just so wrong.

[Babidol]

I'm so sorry. There are so many people out there that just don't get it. They say such stupid and hurtful things and it's usually unintentional. I don't think she even gave it a second thought as to how her pregnancy would affect you. It's totally normal to be jealous and upset. It took me 6 months before I could try again. In the meantime i got to listen to my SIL complain about her perfect, healthy pregnancy. Hugs.