I do not have dbf fully on board yet although he didn't say no. I'm just so sick of the negativity surrounding bedtime. Savana saying all she wants is someone to snuggle her. I can't snuggle her at her bedtime because that is Sawyer's witching hour. But she begs me and all I can do is tell her I am sorry. Kai saying he does not want to sleep alone. He feels scared and lonely and feels like someone is watching him. They (especially Kai ) are relentless and sometimes I lose my patience which makes me feel like crap. All day I stay calm and rational. Then at day's end I am exhausted and out of patience thus we have to end on a sour note and the last communication I have with my sweet children is yelling.
Then in the middle of the night or wee hours of the morning one or both of them come into our room and climb into our queen sized bed. At that point none of us are sleeping well because it's simply too crowded.
And just to kill 2 birds with one stone, dbf has 2 computer screens set up in the living room. So he's working in the LIVING room and expects to be able to focus, gets unreasonably annoyed with the children, doesn't answer ant of us when we speak directly to him because he's focused on something else but, like, he's RIGHT there so it's hard for the kids to get why daddy doesn't answer them. So, I want to make our room his office. Move our bed mattress into Kai's room (master bedroom but we gave it up to the kids for the smaller room with a lake view), add 2 more mattresses for the kids, create a safe spot for Sawyer and make it the sleeping room. This way everyone is feeling safe and happy and no shuffling around in the middle of the night.
Am I crazy?