Gentle Weaning

[Ourou]

Hi ladies.

I'm an AP parent, and a definite believer in extended breastfeeding, but because of the circumstances of our family I find myself having to wean DS who is 14 months. (DS is an IVF baby, and I really want him to have a sibling, preferably not too far apart in age, but to do a frozen embryo transfer I have to wean. We can't wait around too much because DH is on a fixed term contract, 18 months to go, and when it expires chances are we have to leave the country. There is very little work for him in New Zealand.)

Its kinda breaking my heart to wean him. I stuggled with supply for so long, it just feels really wrong. I guess in part I'm looking for words of comfort. I'm also looking for advice on how to do this as gently as possible. DS is essentially day weaned, except for first thing in the morning and before bed, but we co-sleep and he is a bit of an all night nurser. Last night was fairly average and I think he woke and nursed back to sleep 6 times. He goes to sleep at nap time and bed time without boob, but he does have a bottle with a mix of chamomile tea and milk. He screams and screams when I try to resettle him without boob. DH has been out of town a bit recently, and at the moment can't get DS to sleep at all (though hopefully he can work back into it).

Any words of wisdom for me?

[Irish-Eyes]

Oh dear. The only way I could get my daughter off the boob was to have dh take over nights completely. If I was in the room, she needed boob and nothing would dissuade her.

Sorry, I'm no help at all.

[Ourou]

Thanks for responding . We've mostly been procrastinating on this issue. This weekend DH is going to try and do bedtime, and hopefully get better at settling Søren.