Talking about Natalie.
Terrible twos? I am not sure. Truthfully I think this might just be her personality because she has been this way since birth.
She is really pretty mean. Both to adults and especially to other kids, particularly if they are younger or smaller. She taunts other kids, she takes their toys for no reason, pushes them down, throws things at them. She can play nicely too but only if she seems to think the other kid is "cool" enough. I can't really explain it, but think high school cafeteria behavior only at two years old.
If she doesn't get exactly what she wants...meltdown. She is THAT kid at the store falling out on the floor kicking and screaming. The littlest thing can set off her temper and she will kick toys, punch the walls, etc when she is raging.
She has many words/sentences and speaks a lot, but her words are kind of garbled and her pronunciation is off. I don't know if that's normal for her age because her brother has always excelled well beyond the avg kid for his age so I don't know what normal is. Anyway we can understand her because we spend enough time with her but strangers always have a hard time understanding her including other kids.
We talk to her about being nice, we do timeouts, we have left parties when she was mean to other kids, nothing makes much of a difference.
My side of the family smirks at her behavior because she looks exactly like ny great great aunt (have seen black ans white pics of her as a toddler - it is freaky). This aunt has carried a reputation for generations as the crazy one, a daredevil with a temper, don't cross her, etc. Obviously I never met her but everyone says old aunt Shirley has been reincarnated when they spend time with Natalie. Lol. I don't know if I believe in all that...
Anyway, anyone give advice? Empathy?