Trying to decide on Team Green

[ootus973]

Just wanted some opinions...
See, we were Team Green with Michael, but not entirely by choice. Back then (he's 11), they only did one ultrasound, and if you weren't able to see then it was "sorry, too bad." I didn't want to know, but my husband did. Michael had his legs crossed and wouldn't move, so he made the decision for us. We didn't really have many name ideas either, it was either name them after parents or else, lol... Michael is Michael Lee Wilson KeAloha (Micheal was my husband's middle name, Lee my dad's middle name, Wilson my husband's father's middle name, and KeAloha is his Hawaiian name--my ex husband is half Native Hawaiian)...and we did the nursery and clothes in "Winnie the Pooh"

With Flower, I didn't want to know, but I was in a car accident at 15 weeks, and when they couldn't find the heartbeat they did an ultrasound. The ER u/s tech was soooo excited about the gender that she spilled it. It seemed to make naming her soooo hard though, because I obsessed about the perfect girl name for months. In the end, it took my entire 5 days in the hospital after she was born to decide on her name...Meleana KeAhi Pualani (song of grace, pillar of fire, flower from Heaven). The "Flower" part was the only part not up for debate, because that's what my son had been calling her since the day he told me I was pregnant. ("Mommy has a girl baby in her tummy, and I'm gonna call her Flower...because babies are like flowers, God plants a seed and they grow") By the time she was born, I was single, and it was only really my family and my ex-mother-in-law weighing in on names.

So...that brings me to this little jumping bean. The clothes now are soooo much cuter than when I was pregnant with my son, Jeff wants a unique name, and I'm definitely a planner. The practical side of me says it would be so much easier to get everything ahead of time...but I really did enjoy being pregnant with my son and waiting to find out. I wasn't dissapointed knowing my daughter was a girl (I sort-of knew, because of my son's prediction, if that doesn't sound too odd). I was just wondering, of the Team Greens or former Team Greens, what was your experience like? Do you wish you would have found out in advance?

[june]

Augusta,

I think everyone should do what is best for them! We waited until delivery to find out our daughter was... a daughter! It was so fantastic and special to have that "It's a...Girl!!!" moment in the delivery room, with our entire family waiting in the waiting room for the news. When we left the hospital two days later, my husband and I decided we would definitely do the same for subsequent children.

Now that we're expecting again, the decision is harder this time around. I'm not sure why. Maybe it's because we already have the beginning of a sibling dynamic going on here, or maybe it's because we're planning a home addition (so that baby #2 has a room!), and I figure it'd be nice to know if I can re-decorate our daughter's room in a feminine way during construction, or if I should hold off (since she'll likely share a room with baby #2 when we have a third, God willing).

Anyway, I think we'll wait again. Wanting to know WHO THE HECK was in there was a good incentive when I wanted to just die during hard labor, and was such a special moment (as it is for everyone, gender surprise or not), when baby was born and we got to see that we had a girl!! I understand why people find out when they can, and completely respect that choice! It was a good lesson in self-restraint and patience for me and the rest of our family, and felt like a sort of old-fashioned thing to do (which I sort of loved).

Whatever you decide will be the right choice, that's for sure. Just go with your/your fiancé's gut inclination!

[pumpkinpeejays]

I wasn't able to do it with Sonja since I'm a planner too, but I admire those who can wait! We're also finding out with this one because of the "having everything ready" idea as well.

[Maaria]

I would love to have that moment, after birth It's a BOY/GIRL, but I'm way too much of a control freak that I have to know. I just can't wait. I have to be able to plan everything
We have a feeling that the baby will be a girl though, because I had a dream where I was tickling the baby through my belly and it was a pretty giggling girl.
And also my father in-law, who's in a hospital under some crazy medication, told our family friends that we had a beautiful baby girl, and he didn't even know at that time that we were pregnant!
So the family friend called us all pissed off that we didn't tell them and we had to try to convince them that we do not have a child

[Rebekah726]

We're tryimg to decide the same thing. I guess I should say we are trying to come to an agreement. Except we just don't agree. I am the perpetual planner, but I really, REALLY want to wait until this one is born to find out the gender. And my husband, who usually doesn't want to plan ahead for ANYTHING wants to find out, so we can 'be ready', especially if we were to have a girl since everything we have now is blue. I have no problem with buying some pink stuff now if that would solve the problem, lol. But it's not like #3 will have us homebound

I don't know why it is I feel so strongly this time around. With #1, we waited, with #2, we debated, and decided as we walked in for the ultrasound to find out. And neither of our boys were named until we left the hospital.

Ugh, I don't know what's going to happen for us.

There are definitely pros and cons, but to me, it felt more special to wait - there's more of a memory of the moment when we 'found out' and I love that suspense - everybody waiting for that moment.


Like the others said, whatever you do will be the right choice. As much as I want to wait this time, I don't regret finding out with #2. I think it made it easier for #1 to know he had a brother on the way.

[MellieOham]

I never considered not finding out but you ladies are sure making a beautiful case for it! My husband thinks it would be fun to wait but I too am a planner. We have until September 5th to decide. I'm sure we will go with finding out though.

[Babidol]

I want to wait so bad. I doubt I'll be able to talk hubs into it though. I may let him find out and not know or just keep it secret for our families.

[lindsay1p]

I'm not just a planner, but a clearance shopper, so I want to know what baby is ASAP so can get things at end of season I think it would be awesome to be team green, but I can't do it!

[ootus973]

Honestly, after reading everyone's lovely stories and comments, I think I'm going to go Team Green on this one. This will be our last child, and I think it would make that moment so much more special. We'll see if Jeff agrees...

[LaundryQueen2011]

We are not going Team Green. For one - with TWO I need to PLAN...A LOT For two - with DH deploying I know that God forbid anything happen to him...he's going to want to know our children's flavors

We are doing something fun though. (Not sure if I saw it here on this board or somewhere else - and I can't remember if I mentioned this yet or not)

We are NOT having the Ultrasound tech tell us the sexes. We are going to have them write them down on a paper and put it in an envelope for us. Then I am giving the envelope to a good friend of ours who is going to bake us a cake. All blue inside for two boys, all pink for two girls and pink/blue for one of each It sounded like a fun way for us to find out and a way to make it special since this is IT for us...LOL