Holding in the potty

[Thaby11]

Let me just say that I used the 3 Day Method Potty Training with DS and afterwards I could swear by it...this time? Not.So.Much.
I feel stupid asking a 2 year old to "tell me" when she needs to go...she gets upset and annoyed because of me repeating this constantly, every time I ask her to check if she's dry she'll say "no" if I tell he she's dry she'll say "no"....and worse of all she won't pee in the potty...I know she needs to go, she gives me "the look" this morning she cried "mommy" and we rushed but she holds in the potty...won't even dribble(?)
And then after I take her out I see she's still struggling to have to go pee.
She hates having me on top of her all.the.time and that makes her hold it...the SECOND I look away she goes in her panties. She still won't tell me not even when she's going...We're on day 3 and I'm about to give up.
Any help, advice even encouragement will be much appreciated.

PS: The good thing about all this is that my baby fever is GONE!

[Suja]

It doesn't sound like she's ready. Wait and try again a week or a month later.

[Thaby11]

But she was showing all the signs...and the 3DMPT said that if she's over 22 months she IS ready.
All this method does is not FULLY PT your child but teach them to communicate with you...that's what I got for it..I can say DS IS PT NOW...1 1/5 year after the 3DMPT...HE goes by himself, he keeps dry all day and night and cleans himself up (this last one we accomplished last week). FUnny thing tho DD learned to clean herself from day 1. Must be a girl thing.
Anyway...it happened again...she held in the potty, wet her panties, I put her back in the potty and NOTHING!

[Thaby]

I stopped. It wasn't working...I'm feeling kinda like a failure

[Suja]

I stopped. It wasn't working...I'm feeling kinda like a failure

It's not your fault. In fact, it's no one's fault. I don't believe that there is some age threshold at which all kids are magically ready to be PT. And I have to say that I'm not a huge fan of any method where it takes over a year for the kid to be fully potty trained. IMO, when she shows interest, is more able to communicate about her urge, try it then. That's what we did with Mira (failed when we tried earlier; although she was perfectly capable of doing it physically, she wasn't ready mentally), and it took her something like a month to be reliable (with one glitch after that) - she can go to the toilet unassisted when she needs to, undress, do her business, clean up (not after #2, she tries, but can't do a good job yet), flush, and put her clothes back on. By and large, it should be relatively painless if your child is truly ready.

[Laverne]

Suja, that is awesome. Over here he goes when he is taken to the potty but he communicates the need to go too late. So if I am on top of it and take him every couple of hours he stays dry all day. However if I forget he will scream potty and run to the bathroom as the pee is coming out. Do you think it is too soon for him? I should also mention that he doesn't get his pants all the way down and usually pees on them so I have to pull them all the way down for him most of the time. Let me know your thoughts...