Ladies - I have a family member who was going through the early phase of adoption through the state program and she has recently had a very upsetting experience...she is a single 44 year old with no kids. Because she probably can't conceive on her own at her age and since she doesn't have a significant other, we talked her into looking at adoption and took her to orientation 6 months ago. She was working with a case worker and going through the required classes and scheduling her home study. Unfortunately, she got into some trouble. This is so hard because she has never had any legal issues ever and now this is so unfortunate and untimely. She ran off the road when a car cut in front of her coming home from a date, but she had had 2 drinks and the officer who saw her loose control of her car and went to check on her decided to do a sobriety test because he smelled alcohol. Well, she got hit with a DUI. Not good. Now she is devastated. She is embarrased and ashamed and also angry because she hadn't had much to drink and wan't pulled, just so happened a cop saw her loose control of her car. Our side of town doesn't take drinking and driving very lightly, nor should they, considering the deaths DUI's have contributed to. However, she is upset because she passed the sobriety test, but the cop felt she would show positive on a breathalizer and took her in. She did blow a positive and was charged.
So, my question is, should she completely give up on the adoption or wait 6-12 months and them pursue and let them know what had happened? Will she even be considered if she has a DUI on her record? She is my sister ladies...I am so sad for her and I know she would not drink and drive if she were intoxicated. She is in radio promotions (past 14 years), so she does drink sociably. It is not illegal to consume alcohol and drive, but you must maintain your "faculties". Loosing control of a car is normally an indication of a person not in control of their faculties, but she said she was avoiding an aggressive driver who cut her off when he came off an exit and she was trying to get over to get off on her exit. Any advise or input is greatly appreciated!