No gifts B-day party

[chasti0926]

My DD's BFF from daycare (we have never done playdates outside of daycare...yet...her mom and I have been talking and although we are not "friends" we are friendly) Our DD's were born 5 days apart and her bday party is tomorrow, my DD next week. We are each having "No gift parties" for the girls and asking if friends want to bring something to bring $5 donation to a charity.

Here is my question...now that the day is here for her BFF I feel really guilty about no gifts...BUT...I don't want to get something and have her feel like she has to do the same for my DD's "NO gift party" next week. I was planning on donating more than the $5 but should I get her a gift card too?

Then I am thinking I really don't want gifts for my DD. The only reason we are having the party is just for her to feel special for a day not to get gifts. If it was anyone else in DD's class I wouldn't give a second thought about just the donation and no gifts but I am feeling guilty because the girls are so close.

WWYD?

[Bridget]

No gifts is no gifts and I, personally, would respect that.
We had a no gifts party for Savana when she was 1 and some people still brought them making it awkward for those who didn't and for us in general.

[Sugar&Spice]

I agree, I'd stick to the plan and just do the donation, especially since you don't want gifts for your DD either. I'm sure the other mom won't be offended since it's her plan as well.

[DucksLikeRain]

I would also stick to it. If your DD is older enough to ask about getting her friend a gift you could let her go pick something small out and give it to her separately from the party-I think it'd be hard for a 3 or 4 year old to get the "her mom said no gifts" concept.

[ibisgirldc]

you all made the call on what you wanted to do and made that a mutual decision. at this point, you can't go back on that. (but if it's really bugging you, talk to the other mom directly.)

[i.<3.cheesysmiles]

you all made the call on what you wanted to do and made that a mutual decision. at this point, you can't go back on that. (but if it's really bugging you, talk to the other mom directly.)

agreed.

[tanyachap]

i agree with the PP. stick to it....