Lula is having open heart surgery this summer. I am not sure what to tell her exactly and when. Should we start talking to her about it soon to prepare her and let her get used to idea, or just go to the hospital for a 'Drs appt'? We will be there for 4-5 days and she will have a scar, very sore breastbone and drainage tubes when she wakes up. When she heard us discussing the surgery with the cardiologist after her testing she asked: Do I have to have surgery? What is surgery? I just told her the doctor was going to fix a boo boo on her heart while she was sleeping. That is holding her for now, but I know the minute she starts to really consider it she will have a million detailed questions. She is extremely intelligent and inquisitive. When we told her about me being pregnant the questions started a few days later after she had some time to ponder the situation. (How will the baby get our of your uterus? How will the baby fit through your vagina? Is the vagina the same place where poop comes out? Is your uterus the same place that your food goes when you eat? Does the baby pee inside of you? Can it hear me? Does cutting the umbilical cord hurt the baby? and on and on) With the pregnancy I took a very matter of fact/ scientific approach and she now probably knows more about the female reproductive system/childbirth process than most adults, lol. Anyway, the prospect of this surgery TERRIFIES me and I am trying so hard not to let her see my fear, or see me crying. She does already know a bit about the circulatory system(thank you They Might Be Giants!) and the heart, so I am expecting questions like: How will the doctor get to my heart? And why won't I wake up? and how will the blood carry nutrients and oxygen all over my body if my heart has a boo boo? Should I get her some children's books about hospital stays? I just don't know how to handle this. What do you guys think?