2.5 yr sassy pants
How do you handle this?
When you say "you're going to get a time out" and she looks at you and says...yeah, out me in time out momma. And we do spank here(only if it's something where she could get hurt and we need her to stop), she does the same thing for that...stop or you'll get a spanking...yeah mom, give me a spanking.
I have to look away or i start laughing!! She just gets his look in her eyes like, i dare you!
What do i do? We just say ok...put her in a minute time out.
Carrie(34), DH(35), married for 5 years
My DD is a little sassy too. When she is doing something naughty that does not warrant an immediate time out, I ask her, "Do you want a time out?" She will reply 3 out of 5 times with "yes." So she gets her timeout and is usually very unhappy about it. We don't spank so I don't know what we would do in that situation, but I think it is all a phase and as long as we remain consistent, then it will pass.
Angie(34) ~ DH Chad (34)
I can count on one hand how many spankings she has had...we only do so if she could get hurt...like around the grill or not listening in the parking lot.
If I threaten with a spanking, I usually end up laughing cuz i just picture my girl "asking" for a spanking...seems she likes the S&M and I find it funny. So time outs are a little more effective. But she will sit there the full minute, then pitch a fit when we try to return to the original task....usually dinner.
What is it she usually does that gets her a time out? Maybe we can brainstorm how you can alter the routine and therefore change the dynamic so dinner isn't a trigger for her.
Dinner time had always been notoriously bad for us... it seriously never failed- my DD would be clingy wanting me to hold her while I was cooking, and just as I got our plates on the table and would be ready to sit her at the table she would manage to somehow hurt herself or do something that she needed to nurse about. I could count on one had the number of warm meals I'd eaten in 3 yearsLately I've had my mom (who lives with us) take Emme in another room to play while I finish dinner. Then I ring a "dinner bell" to call them to the table (DD's idea, she loves it). We almost never have the same problems we used to.
Our biggest issue is some nights she won't eat...she wants to play with her food, smear it, smash it with her hands. I tell her if she keeps doing it I'll take it away, once i take it away she tantrums. so once she calma down we give another chance to eat. if she plays again, we get a time out.
Should I be doing something different?
I think the approach may set it up to be a power struggle. I would try giving her smaller portions (less of a mess to clean up and less fun to play with!), and if she starts to play with it just say very matter of fact "Oh, you're done eating" and take it away. No threats or warnings. If she protests give it back, once. If she plays again take it for good and let her know why- when she plays with her food, dinner time is over. But overall the less attention she gets for the whole thing, the better. I wouldn't do a time out for not eating.
The time out us more for the playing with her food. I don't make her eat if she doesn't want it. But the tantrums from me removing the food is what gets me. I'll try the other approach, and just say oh you're done? See how that works!! Thanks!
G is sooooooooo sassy right now. I'll tell him to do something or ask him to do something and he'll immediately say, "Um, no way," or, "Nope, tomorrow."
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