Twins "fighting"

[sharn]

Emma and Megan are almost 11 months old. Emma is almost 2 lbs heavier than Megan. Emma is also much more mobile - she is crawling and pulls to a stand and can even sort of cruise a step or two. Megan only army crawls.

Emma is constantly tackling Megan, pulling her hair, knocking her down, taking her toys away from her. Obviously she doesn't know any better, but I am not sure what to do about it. We have a childproofed family room that we let them crawl around in. If I'm busy getting dinner ready, I can see them, but I can't stop Emma from grabbing Megan every time. Megan can't crawl fast enough to get away. What did you do in this kind of situation? Megan cries every time this happens. Please tell me that Emma isn't going to perpetually bully her sister! Do you say no to Emma and pick Megan up when you see that this is going to happen? Do you just cuddle Megan after the fact? Any suggestions?

[twinmom34]

Sorry I have no suggestions. Mine are just like this and have been since day 1. It is funny but not funny that my Chyree is the boss of e.v.e.r.y.t.h.i.n.g so much that she was even bossing Kenedee in her sleep the other day


I see it as sibling rivalry and that one twin is a little more laid back than the other. I couldn't imagine if both of mine wanted to be the boss!

[Sakura]

I hope someone has some suggestions. I can see my girls doing this is 6 months.

[Flynn08]

I haven't had this problem, yet. We do have toy disputes etc, but so far it's pretty balanced in terms of who initiates & who wins. This has come up in my multiples group a lot and people always say to give positive attn to the "injured" party. As they get older, people talk about role playing sharing and using timers to enforce taking turns. Good luck, I hope you find some good solutions!

[gerbeme]

The boys do this. Tripp has done it since I can't remember. We just correct him everytime. Its his personality and I go out of my way to make Tripp get both bottles and hand Major his. Or give Tripp the snack for both of them and go give it to Major and now he does it automatically.