Did the friendly church have an alternate service that would have different music? My church uses traditional songs from the hymnal at our early service (with an incredibly talented organist) and our later services does more modern/contemporary music with a whole different set of musicians.
I don't know that I would base any search off the websites. Like musicians, some churches have people talented at web design and others don't. Unless one of your criteria is that they have to have an awesome website, I know my church's website is awful but the congregation and services are fantastic. Don't judge a book by its cover.
Rae (27), DH (26), Lucas (6/3/12), #2 due in December