new to all of this n scared

[gladys81]

i wasnt sure at 1st if i was able to have kids, so i was about to go for some test. and to my surprise i was pregnant... i was in the happiest time of my life.... now to find out that i am suppose to be 9 1/2 weeks but im only showing to be 5 1/2 weeks... after being at the drs office all week, they suggested on giving me another week to see if there is any changes n if not, they want to do a dnc... ive heard different things regarding a dnc... is it that bad??? should i be this scared???

[auntmommy]

I've had 2 miscarriages, 2 I did on my own, the other I had a D&C and was glad I did. I went to the surgery center the day after I started spotting and we saw no heartbeat:everyone there was very nice and prepared me for the procedure. When it was time they allowed my husband I a few moments and gave us a packet to remember our baby by. Following the surgery my nurse was the sweetest most understanding person I've met as she has gone thro the same. I had slight bleeding and only cramped the day of surgery. I was very glad I had the D&C. Everyones experience is different but mine was a good one and healing was not to difficult. I hope you get some answers soon

[gladys81]

Thank u so much for sharing ur story with me... I have understood more that is going on bc of other ppl like urself that have been through it n willing to share I'm still waiting to find out wht will happen... Hopefully today will be the day... Thanx again

[monic12]

I have the same story as u. I tought i could never be pregnant and i wanted to have a baby i started to have breast tenderness dat lasted a whole month i said to my self dats not normal so i took a test and their it was i was pregnant. I was so happy but i miscarriage on Feb 13,2012 with twins it was the worst day of my life. My Dr told me it was best for me to miscarriage naturally so i did! And now im tryin to get pregnant again!!

[MellieOham]

I too miscarried in February. It was my first pregnancy. I went in for 8 week ultrasound and the baby was only 5.5 and no heart beat. I had been spotting for a couple of weeks, but no cramping. I opted for the d & c. I'm so glad I did. I didn't have any pain and barely any bleeding. I was back to work a few days later. We just found out that we are pregnant again! I am so sorry that you are going through this, but it will get better!

[gladys81]

Thank u to all of u
I had to take some tome away bc of everything
Now I come to find out that I may be prego again n I'm scared out of my mind that it could happen again
I have yet told my dh or the dr... I don't know wht to do :'(
At times, I start to cry bc I am thinking about it for the past couple of days n the dh is getting mad at me bc I don't tell him y... Is that wrong of me???

[Babidol]

I had a very similar experience. Went in at 7 weeks and there was no baby at all. Checked again at 8 weeks and still no baby. Checked my HCG and it was still very high but was going down I waited 3 weeks before I ended up with a D&C. I'm glad I went that route. I was really scared of the miscarriage process. I am now pregnant again. We had another scare early in the pregnancy where my numbers were really high but there was no baby present. My numbers more than doubled. I went back a week later for another u/s and there was a baby and a heartbeat. I know it's scary but you need to know if this baby is ok. Big, big hugs.

[gladys81]

Thanx
I am so scared n now I see that things can turn out to be better bc of wht u said... I think I may wait till next week when I'm on vaca just to be on the safe side...
Do I tell the dh or wait till I talk to the dr???

[gladys81]

Congrats n thanx again
<hugs>

[Babidol]

If it were me I would tell DH. It's too hard to go through a loss alone, should it happen again. And I think he would be really upset to find out after the fact. Good luck, prayer said. Keep us posted.

[Babidol]

Oh and with this pregnancy I had brown discharge and bright red spotting/bleeding. It was very scary and devastating. It turned out just fine. Pregnancy is scary enough without previous losses. Big hugs.

[gladys81]

The problem with the dh, he wasn't really there when everything happened last time

Thanx again for everything I appreciate it all