Heartbreak

[ibisgirldc]

I just responded in the other thread before seeing this one. I'm so sorry that this wasn't the match for your family. May the right one come along.

[barbara_s]

I'm so so sorry.

[Sugar&Spice]

Oh, I'm so sorry. Sending hugs and prayers your way. I'm sure you're right...this wasn't the right baby for you, but you will find the perfect one.

[MamaToe88]

This is just not fair. I am so sorry.

[keepingfaith]

I find myself wondering sometimes how he's doing...what his life is like. We're working on moving forward making a new book (agency requirements changed since we had made ours)...I think I would've made a new one anyways since I want a fresh start. Josy's starting to realize that the baby isn't coming. Let me tell you...that is heartbreaking. She'll be busy playing with her dolls and she'll say...mommy, baby not comin huh? I just tell her not yet...there's really nothing else to say to a 2 1/2 year old. I just hope things move quickly...our family needs some happy moments. Not even a week after our failed adoption my sister had a miscarriage. I know things will happen when they're 'meant to be' but sometimes it just sucks.

Jess

[LaurenMomof2]

Oh Jess, I'm so sorry. I know it must be so hard to hear that from your sweet girl. Hang in there sweetie, your match is out there. I hope it happens soon.

[bowlerchick]

Jess, I just saw this thread and I am so sorry It's no comfort hearing that it will happen when its supposed to happen I know, when people would tell me that I wanted to scream " I don't care, I want it now!" I really hope that through adoption forums and agencies and different gatherings that the public can be made more aware that birthgrandparents need to think of what is best for the baby in the long run and not themselves. I have first hand experience in this as well. My 18yr old sister got pregnant while me and DH were right in the middle of the adoption process. My parents knew that we were waiting for a baby and still told my sister to keep hers, that they would help her raise him. After this, I told my parents that if every grandparent told their pg daughter this, I would not have a family but it made no difference. I was so hurt. My prayers are being sent to you, your next birthmom and her family that they will love and support her decision to place her child with you for adoption. Much love and hugs

[keepingfaith]

Thank you Britney...
It's so good to have your perspective on this...sad you had to go through what you did though. I've heard it all since we've been through this. So many people IRL that don't know anything about adoption were trying to give us advice about it. It definately gets frustrating. We're hanging in there though. Our new profile has been submitted so hopefully we get the go ahead to print it and get it sent to the agencies. Josy is as busy as ever so that helps, and hopefully we'll be moving into our new home in the next few months. (my dad and I have built it from the ground up) We've been blessed in our lives and have had heartbreak too...hopefully we'll be blessed again soon.

[bowlerchick]

I totally agree with you and I pray that you will find your birthmom soon, or that she will find you. Keep your chin up, it's not easy but in the end, totall worth it You and your family are in my prayers.

[LisaJ2224]

I hope you are doing well, Jess.

When I STCd the first time, my 16 year old sister got pregnant. I was married and had been trying for two years. My sister was leaning toward havign us adopt my niece. My mom put a stop to it.

I did get pregnant on my own and went on to have the J Crew first, and of course, S, many years later. But a part of me just died when it all went south; my mom has been my niece's primary caregiver all her life, and I wonder all the time what might have been.

Thinking of you.

[keepingfaith]

Thanks Lisa,
It's been two months but I know that I will always think of him and wonder how he's doing. All I can do is hope and pray that he's as loved as he would've been in our home and that he's doing well. I'm sure I'll always wonder but I'm just glad we've got Josy to keep us busy...hopefully she'll be a big sister soon...until then we just wait and pray.

Jess

[kellyowens]

...thinking of you! Praying your LO comes home to you very very soon (((HUGS)))!!!

[momluvslgg]

Hi Jess,

I just read your story from the beginning and my heart breaks for what you have been through. My husband and I went through something simliar when we met the birth mom and it fell through right before she gave birth. We were finally blessed to be able to adopt a baby boy that same year, so I am trusting that God is at work in this process for your family, and that you will receive the baby you are meant to have soon. I'm also so sorry to hear about your sister's miscarriage. In my time with Focus on the Family, I have found many resources that have been helpful, especially for adoption issues. They have a free counseling helpline at 1-855-771-HELP (4357) and some helpful articles on "Adopting Children" at focusonthefamily.com. I'm praying that you and your sister will feel God's peace, comfort and hope today and in the coming days. God bless you!