Our birthmother had the baby and changed her mind yesterday. Her mom and step-dad are going to raise the baby. I'll update more when I can wrap my head around it all.
Jess
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Our birthmother had the baby and changed her mind yesterday. Her mom and step-dad are going to raise the baby. I'll update more when I can wrap my head around it all.
Jess
Oh Jess I'm so sorry.
Jennifer, 34, DH 36
I'm so sorry.
OhNo. I've been following your story. I am so so sorry.
I'm so, so sorry. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family!
Alyssa
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I'm so sorry Jess.
Lauren (29) Wife of 10 years to J.R.(30) Mom to Bayleigh (8) & Jack (3)
I'm so sorry Jess. (((hugs)))
Becky
When we got our call saying that we had been matched we were told that our BM was young but was very certain that she wanted to make an adoption plan since she wanted her baby to have both a mom and a dad that were actively involved in raising him. We met our BM and her mother and after talking with them I felt a little uneasy about our BM's mom but I couldn't put my finger on what it was. Our SW didn't always give us a lot of information and before yesterday we hadn't heard from her for 12 days. All day yesterday I had a feeling in my gut that something just wasn't right...I knew our SW and BM were supposed to have met on Tuesday and I was anxious to hear how things had gone so I called and left our SW a message in the morning.
At 4pm she called me back, she said that she had tried to contact our BM on Tuesday but got a text back saying that she couldn't talk because her and her mom were discussing baby related 'stuff'. She tried texting our BM yesterday to set up a meeting for after school but didn't get a response. At 1:30pm our SW got a text from our BM's doctor saying her was admitting her since she was in labor. Our SW tried to contact her again with no response so she went to the hospital to check in and while there she saw our BM's grandmother in the waiting room...this is where our SW was told that our BM had a 'change of heart'. She told me that it was possible that the grandmother was just saying that since she was against the adoption plan in the first place and that she would call me back with more information after she tried to talk to our BM again that night.
Fast forward to around 8pm last night, our SW called and said that our BM had called her (which she felt was a good sign...in turn getting my hopes up) and said that she told our SW to tell us that she's really sorry and that she liked us alot and thought we'd be great parents but that her mom and step-dad were going to raise the baby. Then our SW said that it 'wasn't meant to be' and that she'd contact us after some time has passed to see how we're doing.
It's like being kicked in the gut...and the fact that we met our BM and her mom face to face and know that theres the possibilty that someday when I'm out shopping I could run into them at the mall is aweful. We're grieving but keeping our profile active because we're afraid that if we don't we'll fall through the cracks and possibly miss out on the baby that is really meant to be ours.
Thank you for your kind words and prayers...they mean more than you know.
Jess
i've been following your story too....this is just heartbreaking!! Sending thoughts and prayers your family's way.
I'm so sorry! Prayers said for you and your family.
Kristy (31), Kirk (37), Jodi (2), Joey (nb) and our dogs, Oreo and Wiggles
Jess, I'm so sorry.
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Oh sweetie I am so incredibly sorry.
~ Jess ~ Proud momma of Hayden (7/29/06) Ava (3/14/08) Rainbow Baby Carter (6/8/12)
I'm so sorry. I was a little worried too when you said she was really young...we were told that is a bit of a red flag and they are so much influenced by their own mom's. I am glad that if she was going to change her mind, that she did it before you showed up for the birth or even took him home. And maybe even better in the long run....I am assuming that this was going to be open....if you are in the same town/area.....that birth grandma would have probably been a major pain. I know a couple that had this problem with the birth grandma being very demanding and inappropiate....and it's hard when they were all living in the same area and that family member was against the adoption.
You definitely need to grieve but I'm glad to hear that you are keeping your profile active. There is definitely a baby out there that is meant to be yours....and maybe Josie is meant to have a little sister instead. And when you hold that baby, you will know that was meant to be.
Jennifer, 34, DH 36
I'm so sorry.
I'm so very sorry.
My chalk loving 2 1/2 y.o. boys!
Jess I am so sorry! (HUGS)
Dee Dee, Mom to 2 handsome young men & 2 beautiful girls!
I am so sorry
I have followed your story and I am so heartbroken for you. Lots of thoughts and prayers.
Thank you...we're doing alright. I think just knowing it's over has helped us sleep a little better. We obviously were not meant to be his parents and as sad as that is we know in our hearts that there is the perfect baby out there for us. My favorite adoption book is arriving today so a good read/good cry will do me some good.
All of your thoughts and prayers are helping us more than you know.
Jess
I have also followed your adoption journey for years now and I just wanted to say how sad and sorry I am for you and your husband. Sending thoughts and prayers to you all.
I'm so very sorry Jess.
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I have been a silent stalker and I am so sorry to hear about this. My heart breaks for you and your family Jess
I am so sorry to hear this. I am sure there is another little baby meant for your family
I am so very sorry -
I've been following your story and I'm so sorry this happened to your family.
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