My kids are rather active and not always quiet. During services, DD goes to the nursery and DS goes to Sunday school. I would never even think to bring the kids to the service. We also do not have a "cry room" - there is a TV in the lobby if you need to step out with a child. But it is really just a "hallway" and there are only 3 chairs.
We just had 2 "family events". One was a Christmas musical in which DS was singing. The 3 and 4 year olds only sang one song. The nursery was closed as our children's ministry director emphasized that this is a "family event". DD was up and dancing. Eventually I was told to go watch it on the screen. I was not happy about it but I went into the lobby. I would have been really upset if DS was in the whole musical and I would not have been allowed to watch.
A week later, we went to the family service on Christmas Eve. Again this was advertised as a family event (there were 2 more regular services after that). This time nursery (kids under 2) was offered but DD had a runny nose so I did not think that it was appropriate to take here there. We sat in a section on the side and there was no one else sitting in this section. My kids were again up and running around in the back corner. I was told that "this is still church" and that I had to leave. I went to the lobby which was FULL. I was too upset especially after seeing so many families in the lobby.
Why it the world would you call this a family event if children are not welcome? I just broke out in tears and went back to get DH and we left. I felt like our church is rejecting my children. What happened to "let the children come to me"?
It was the same person who asked us to leave both times.
I am really heartbroken and I am only posting this 2 days later because I can finally write this post without crying. We are connected to the church beyond Sundays. The way I feel right now, I do not want to set my foot in the church again. But I have already committed to leading 2 Bible study classes next year and I also serve on MOPS steering. I am not sure what to do. I feel like I need to do what I commited to and then we find another church.
Am I overreacting?