How to be a more Godly wife?

[cperry78]

Hello! I'm pretty sure I have not posted in here before, except maybe once or twice, but I'm looking for some advice. I don't want to post a lot of personal details since it makes my husband uncomfortable, so I'm just wondering if you ladies could give me some advice on how to be a more Godly wife to my DH.

As much feedback as you care to give would be much appreciated! What are the things that you do to fulfill God's command to be good wives to our husbands?

thanks!!

[caligirl07]

Do you have time for reading? The Power of the praying wife is great, The Fireproof Studay is great!

Also there are a ton of online sermons that talk about this (I usually listen while folding laundry and what not).

This entire series is great

Another good one!

[cperry78]

Thank you for the resources! I have read Power of a Praying Wife, and I enjoyed it. Maybe I didn't get as much from it as I could have, maybe I'll browse through it again. I will definitely check out those links you posted for me.

[KC's wifey]

Good question! I know I am still learning. I will share a little bit when I have more time.

[hanvan2]

Some things I learned from love and respect are...

How important sex is to a marriage. Also doing something w your dh that HE enjoys doing...fishing, hitting golf balls, watching his favorite team on tv, to let your dh know how much you value his effort to support hhe family, even if he is just looking for a job to let him know that you know he's trying.

Psalms 141:3 set a guard over my mouth oh lord keep watch over the doors of my lips
Proverbs 15:1 a soft answer turns away wrath but a harsh word stirs up anger
Proverbs 14:1 a wisest of women builds her house, but a folly with her own hands tears it down

Some other things that help ME have been things like
Taking care of the house, being mindful of how I speak TO and about my dh. Carving out time for just him and I so he knows I value him. To run big decisions by him and to let him know how important I think he is and how hard he works for our family

[Sakura]

Disciplines of a Godly Woman by Barbara Hughes (I think) is another good book.

One thing I've realized lately about dh and me is that we try very hard to be pleasant to live with/be around/interact with.

I'm a SAHM so I do try to get most of the housework done during the day so that we can have enjoyable evenings and weekends. I make a point to let him know I'm so grateful for all he does at work and around the house, etc. and that I'm proud to be his wife.

[twinmom34]

How impotent sex is to a marriage.

Let me preface this with I love ya Hanvan and would never intentionally hurt your feeling so I hope you are able to find the humor in this also....



Freaking hilarious! Just how do you have impotent sex?

[hanvan2]

Lol that is funny! I post from an iPad now bc my computer isn't working and I mess up on the touch screen and the auto correct "fixes" it for me.

That's classic!


But really sex is important!

[i.<3.cheesysmiles]

I have been thinkging a lot about this lately. I have been looking a lot at Proverbs 31: 10- 31. I have really been thinking about the verses "She speaks with wisdom and faithful instruction is on her tongue." I have been really thinking about how important it is to really think about what I say. I think this passage gives a lot of instruction on how to be a godly wife.

Another key aspect is respect. I think we need to learn what that means for our husbands. It is something I am really trying to discover with my DH - what I do that makes him feel respected and disrespected.

Also, allowing him to be the leader of your household.

[DucksLikeRain]

Service! I think in so many ways service is a key way to becoming a more Godly spouse. Everyday little service, religiously centered service, service by prayer, even sex can be a form of service. If we have serving our spouse on our minds while also doing scripture studies and prayer-especially praying together as husband and wife-it's hard not to draw closer and be more Godly towards each other.

[Sakura]

Service!I think in so many ways service is a key way to becoming a more Godly spouse. Everyday little service, religiously centered service, service by prayer, even sex can be a form of service. If we have serving our spouse on our minds while also doing scripture studies and prayer-especially praying together as husband and wife-it's hard not to draw closer and be more Godly towards each other.

Yes!

[KC's wifey]

First, I think you are already showing wonderful respect to your DH by respecting his concerns about sharing details online. That's telling of where your heart is.

The other girls have given great responses. Trying to think if I have any more to contribute. Maybe nothing new, but just adding to whats already been said.

Heather's verse about watching what we say is great. For me, that has also meant waiting for the right time to bring up issues, complaints, etc. That's hard for me because I want to jump right in. But if I hold off, and pray about how and when to approach it, DH usually responds much better because he doesn't feel attacked.

Lisa's point about learning what makes YOUR DH feel respected is also something I am learning. The Bible says "Wives, be subject to your OWN husbands." What a blessing we only have to worry about our own, and not everyone else's! lol What makes my DH feel respected may not be the same as your DH. I've asked my DH, and he has given me a few things that really feel important to him, so I've been trying to work harder on those things.

[hanvan2]

Service! I think in so many ways service is a key way to becoming a more Godly spouse. Everyday little service, religiously centered service, service by prayer, even sex can be a form of service. If we have serving our spouse on our minds while also doing scripture studies and prayer-especially praying together as husband and wife-it's hard not to draw closer and be more Godly towards each other.

Love the service part also!

[caligirl07]

Read this today, had some great suggestions and its not super long.

[KC's wifey]

Read this today, had some great suggestions and its not super long.

I was just coming in here to post the same thing.

[LuTruPeMo]

I'm a SAHM so I do try to get most of the housework done during the day so that we can have enjoyable evenings and weekends. I make a point to let him know I'm so grateful for all he does at work and around the house, etc. and that I'm proud to be his wife.

I second all of this.

I've read so many posts by women (not in this group) who complain because they expect their husbands to do at least 50% of the housework and child care. Women by divine design are equipped to take care of different things than men are. My husband works really hard. He has a normal job, and he also does a lot of freelance work on the side, so he puts in 60-70 hours a week. I do not expect him to come home from his job and do my job, too. Obviously, he helps out here and there (he always loads the dishwasher, and watches the kids if I have something I need to go and do, and will help fold laundry or something in the evenings when we watch TV together), but by and large the housework and child care is done by me, because that is MY contribution to our marriage and our family. So, I agree definitely that keeping a clean and orderly house, making and sticking to a budget, keeping the children healthy and happy and educated, are all important things for a godly wife to do. And showing appreciation for what the husband does, whether verbally or nonverbally.

[cperry78]

I'm finally getting back in here and wanted to thank each and every one of you for your responses; they were very helpful. I think I'm *mostly* doing the right stuff, and things are getting better, but I think sometimes I miss the forest for the trees, so to speak.