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[ushxcp]

Hi ladies. Sorry it's been a while. Last week I was on Fall Break from work and I just haven't been on the computer much. It was really nice to be able to take my older son to school in the mornings and pick him up. I also got a chance to take the boys down to visit my grandparents for the weekend. They have only seen my younger DS once and they really enjoyed the chance to get to know him.

Dee Dee - ouch on the tooth!! I cannot believe you have to wait that long to see the dentist. I could not eat or drink anything with a broken tooth.

[EttyBaby]

Major ouch on the tooth Dee Dee! I also have a horrible fear of the dentist, I feel ill just thinking about it. But my teeth could more than use another trip.

The midterm wasn't terrible. Math is far from my favorite subject though so I tend to just aim for survival. Now my immunology midterm last week was a dream compared to last night's.

Besides chasing a two year old and being a full time student, I'm also learning a new language before taking a trip next June with that same friend. So excited!!

[kadas33]

Hi ladies. Sorry it's been a while. Last week I was on Fall Break from work and I just haven't been on the computer much. It was really nice to be able to take my older son to school in the mornings and pick him up. I also got a chance to take the boys down to visit my grandparents for the weekend. They have only seen my younger DS once and they really enjoyed the chance to get to know him.

We missed you. Glad to hear you got a chance to relax a bit on your break. I'm sure the visit with your grandparents was a welcome distraction.

Cassandra, where are you going on your trip? I assume somewhere overseas?

[EttyBaby]

Cassandra, where are you going on your trip? I assume somewhere overseas?

We're going to Scotland for 3 weeks.

[angelskii07]

I need to talk to someone, I have 3 children 15 12 and 8. Now Im 6 weeks pregnant with my 4th but the father is in denial of the child being his! Im getting stressed out and I dont know what to do about this hole thing. My older children are with my ex husband that past away. I have found my self crying all the time. He keeps also telling me that He will take the baby from me as well. I lost and dont know where to turn.

[newmom84]

I need to talk to someone, I have 3 children 15 12 and 8. Now Im 6 weeks pregnant with my 4th but the father is in denial of the child being his! Im getting stressed out and I dont know what to do about this hole thing. My older children are with my ex husband that past away. I have found my self crying all the time. He keeps also telling me that He will take the baby from me as well. I lost and dont know where to turn.

I can't tell exactly what is going on from your post, but I just want to say that I know that it doesn't look like it right now but everything will work out. It always does in the end no matter how dreary at first.
So the father to this baby is the same father to the other children and he is denying that it is his? Do I have that correct?

[newmom84]

We're going to Scotland for 3 weeks.

SO JEALOUS!!! You know when someone asks you, where would you go for your dream vacation,.... yeah that's where I would go! That and Ireland.

What language are you learning?

ETA: Is that a stupid question? Is there a Scottish language?

[kadas33]

We're going to Scotland for 3 weeks.

So jealous. Take lots of pics because we need to live vicariously through you.

I need to talk to someone, I have 3 children 15 12 and 8. Now Im 6 weeks pregnant with my 4th but the father is in denial of the child being his! Im getting stressed out and I dont know what to do about this hole thing. My older children are with my ex husband that past away. I have found my self crying all the time. He keeps also telling me that He will take the baby from me as well. I lost and dont know where to turn.

Why is he denying the child? Unless you've done something wrong (drug addict, alcoholic, abusive)I wouldn't worry about his threats. It's hard to get a judge to agree to take a child away from either parent. Good luck.

[twinmom34]

angelskii007, I answered your other post but wanted to welcome you to our room!



Cassandra, do you need a nurse to go to Scotland with you? I am available should you decide . I will try my best to fit into a suitcase if that is what it takes .



Ashley, we missed you! I am glad you got a break from school. They used to have a fall break here but quit about 7 or 8 years ago. It was awesome to be able to go on vacation with my boys when it was not "prime" vacation time.



Thanks for all the sympathy on my tooth ladies. It is broken but the bond stuff they put on it is supposed to act as a "tooth" until I am able to get an appt. And I am not happy I have so many women in my shoes with dentist fears but I am glad to know I am not alone.

[EttyBaby]

SO JEALOUS!!! You know when someone asks you, where would you go for your dream vacation,.... yeah that's where I would go! That and Ireland.

What language are you learning?

ETA: Is that a stupid question? Is there a Scottish language?

I am SO excited, its my dream vacation too! Were doing a long weekend on the coast of Ireland too. I'm learning Scottish Gaelic. Its a very old language and only about 1-2% of the Scottish population still speak it, there are a lot of revival efforts though. Plus, the Scottish islands we'll also be visiting have a large Gaelic speaking population so we decided to go for it and learn as much as we can before we go!

So jealous. Take lots of pics because we need to live vicariously through you.

I'll take tons! I'm already planning new camera lenses to buy specifically for the trip!

Cassandra, do you need a nurse to go to Scotland with you? I am available should you decide . I will try my best to fit into a suitcase if that is what it takes .

If you can fit, come along!

[twinmom34]

Oh my! I just looked at our room and the Net??? was missing since we hadn't "talked" in more than a day.....


So here I am to say hello! Have a great weekend! I went and got a haircut, highlight and pedi this morning so I am feeling refreshed. My son is in Utah playing basketball and the girls are running around in their pajamas still coloring !

[EttyBaby]

I'm sick thanks to so many college students who dont cough into their elbows or wash their hands! Bella has a bit of a cough, but I'm hoping she doesn't get the dreadful head cold I've got going on.

I promised her we'd go play in some leaves today. So we're bundling up, I'm putting some hot tea in a thermos, and we're going leaf-crunching in her princess Aurora Halloween costume. Two year olds are hilarious. But it should make for good pictures!

[twinmom34]

Looks like you ended up with some really cute pics! Where are all our single mommas???


Halloween was fun for us. We have some really good friends who appreciate the twins trick or treating so we only went to 6 friends houses but we.were.completely.worn.out.at.the.end.of.the.nigh t! Halloween was great for the girls!


What did you all do for Halloween?

[kadas33]

I'm around, just not posting much. So sick of the ups and downs, ugh.

Last night was my week with the kids but I let dh take them with him to his family's Halloween party since ds would have more fun then just going around the neighborhood with me. It was a lonely, introspective night.

[newmom84]

I'm still here!

Me and Eli handed out candy to the trick-or-treaters. I was going to take him out with all of his cousins, but I think we made the better decision.

Dee Dee, did your girlies go as cheerleaders?

[EttyBaby]

I'm here, just still dreadfully sick. I'm thinking its a sinus infection. I also have another midterm this thursday.

Halloween was fun! Bella got to wear her costume to preschool and the whole children's center went trick or treating through all the classrooms. She loved it and got lots of goodies. But with me being sick and it being so cold here already, I decided not to trick or treat around the neighborhood, and she was exhausted anyway.

[twinmom34]

Karen, if you are sick of the ups and downs with us...I am sorry if we made you feel bad if you are sick of the ups and downs in your life that is what we are here for...to support you. Also, that was very kind and generous of you to allow the kids to go with your ex for the fun. It shows you have what it takes to not make this divorce out to be a bad thing for them.


Cassandra, OTC Mucinex or the generic brand equivalent is good for the sinus gunk!


Amanda, yes the girls went as cheerleaders and I think it was a great idea. My husband and I have always dressed up with them. The first year it was a barnyard...they were puppy dogs, husband was a cow and I was a chicken ; the next year they were witches and we were zombies; this year they were cheerleaders and I was the cheerleading coach and since husband is detached these days he was nothing but his bump on a log self. I am going to try to get a pic uploaded this week of them in costume. My best one is of them with DS21 and I feel kind of bad it doesn't include DS23.

[EttyBaby]

Thanks Dee Dee, I'm definitely at the point where I'm going to have to break down and get some meds!

But I did find out today that I got a 101 on my Immunology midterm, so that made my day.

[twinmom34]

Thanks Dee Dee, I'm definitely at the point where I'm going to have to break down and get some meds!

But I did find out today that I got a 101 on my Immunology midterm, so that made my day.

WOW! Way to go! What are you studying for?

[EttyBaby]

WOW! Way to go! What are you studying for?

I've just about finished both a BS in biology and chemistry, and am currently applying to both med school and nursing school and seeing what happens.

[twinmom34]

I've just about finished both a BS in biology and chemistry, and am currently applying to both med school and nursing school and seeing what happens.

You go girl ! I am impressed. I have always said if I had it to do over again I would have been much more adventurous (sp) and become an ER doctor! I am an RN though and love my career. I am just too old and have lost too many brain cells to even think about going back to school .

[EttyBaby]

You go girl ! I am impressed. I have always said if I had it to do over again I would have been much more adventurous (sp) and become an ER doctor! I am an RN though and love my career. I am just too old and have lost too many brain cells to even think about going back to school .

Thank you! I'm only 22, so I'm hoping if I regret what I choose I have enough time to change my mind!

[twinmom34]

I am 39 now and didn't think about a different career until just a couple of years ago, I work prn in the ER so I am around ER doctors a lot .

[kadas33]

Dee Dee, OMG-no. It's never ups and downs with you girls, you girls are my lifeline. It's just the never ending roller coaster/crazy train that I seem to be on at this point in my life. I KNOW it will get better and that I'll weather the storm fine, it's just so taxing and draining at times. Yesterday I made the decision to part ways (or at least take a break) from some people in my life who were causing me stress (most by no doing on their part). I need to reprioritize my life again and focus on me. I've lost sight of myself and my needs and I need to get that back.

Cassandra, you rock. I'm SO proud of you and your accomplishments. You really can do anything you put your mind too and you are well on your way.

Amanda, I can't say I blame you for hanging out at home and not braving the streets to trick or treat with Eli. He won't remember it anyway.

Dh and I had the opportunity to have a discussion last night sans kids. I was extremely nervous about it but went into it with the right frame of mind. Unfortunately it was a complete and total bust, awful basically from the get go. If nothing else, it confirmed for me that it's going to be a long, drawn out, expensive, emotionally draining divorce. Gee, I just can't wait.

[newmom84]

Girls I have officially decided to go to court for child support. I have been putting it off hoping that he would come around and be responsible but it is just not happening and it is just creating fights.

He is going to be super pissed but I have to think about what is best for Eli, and there are things that I am not being able to buy for him because I can't afford it. I think this is for the best. It will be done and decided and no more fighting.

[angelskii07]

I can't tell exactly what is going on from your post, but I just want to say that I know that it doesn't look like it right now but everything will work out. It always does in the end no matter how dreary at first.
So the father to this baby is the same father to the other children and he is denying that it is his? Do I have that correct?

No He is A new man in my life The Father to the Others Passed away. He just insecure of everything and said I have been cheating when thats no where near the truth! Now He wont even talk to me at all. I have not talked to him in 3 days and He has never ignored any of my calls or texts. I have not stressed about it but, now I wonder if he will even be around at all for the baby. But I have been single since 2007 and raising my other 3 alone since their dad passed away. I know I can do it alone I have plenty of support with friends and family Im just feel over whelmed about what he is doing I guess.

[EttyBaby]

Girls I have officially decided to go to court for child support. I have been putting it off hoping that he would come around and be responsible but it is just not happening and it is just creating fights.

He is going to be super pissed but I have to think about what is best for Eli, and there are things that I am not being able to buy for him because I can't afford it. I think this is for the best. It will be done and decided and no more fighting.

Good for you! Its something I still haven't done nearly 2 and a half years later. Her father has never provided a single thing or penny to her.

[angelskii07]

So jealous. Take lots of pics because we need to live vicariously through you.



Why is he denying the child? Unless you've done something wrong (drug addict, alcoholic, abusive)I wouldn't worry about his threats. It's hard to get a judge to agree to take a child away from either parent. Good luck.

He has told me other people have told him that Im not pregnant by him. And he is taken their word over mine. I am completely drug FREE NEVER done any drugs in my life, I dont drink and if any one is abusive would be him. I have raised my other 3 on my own since 2007 when their dad passed away. So I know I can do this. I think he is just trying to stressing me into miscarrying.... And now he's not even talking to me at all He wont return a call or text. But Im not letting it bother me. Talking to you Ladies Has helped me a lot!! Thank you for the support!

[newmom84]

No He is A new man in my life The Father to the Others Passed away. He just insecure of everything and said I have been cheating when thats no where near the truth! Now He wont even talk to me at all. I have not talked to him in 3 days and He has never ignored any of my calls or texts. I have not stressed about it but, now I wonder if he will even be around at all for the baby. But I have been single since 2007 and raising my other 3 alone since their dad passed away. I know I can do it alone I have plenty of support with friends and family Im just feel over whelmed about what he is doing I guess.

I totally understand about feeling overwhelmed. This is pretty much what my baby daddy did at first too. But after things calmed down he eventually came around. Hopefully this guy does too.

How far along are you? How old are your other children?

Congratulations by the way! You are the only one expecting in this room right now.

[ushxcp]

Halloween was a little sad. I took the boys out trick or treating by myself and husband sat at our house and handed out candy. Just another first we aren't doing together. My big emotional issue lately has been having to wrap my head around him dating someone. I am for sure wanting a divorce but that still doesn't make it any easier knowing he is seeing someone else. I have been with him 10 years, he's mine...lol But trust me, I don't want him anymore. I'm just sad to lose the plan of a family together I had envisioned. The BIGGEST issue with the whole situation though is that he thinks it's ok to introduce our children to her!! What!?! He just doesn't get why I don't want her around them just yet. He's an idiot like that.

So, that's been my life lately.

Dee Dee - I would love to see a pic. I will get mine up soon. I really do promise.

Cassandra - really wow

Amanda - I'm glad to hear you are going to court. I can't imagine not having financial support raising a child. I'm really hoping we will be able to keep our agreement as far as child support is concerned, if not, you better believe I will be going to court.

Karen - I want to give you hugs. I feel you on the emotionally draining part.